I was taught if you love some one set him/her free if he/she comes back...

Sweetie, when you love someone and they leave you, let them go. To take that person back again will be harder as the trust was broken in the first place. You have to give me more to work with here. I only got half of the story. TATA.

There is something wrong with that saying. If you set them free that means they weren't free to begin with. The saying should say "If you love someone, respect their freedom."

Hi Nina... I believe in that statement to a certain extent. First of all, I would fight for the love. I would give all my best, show him/her how much you love that person. Then, if he/she loves another, allow him the chance to be with the other. It happened to me. I gave him the choice to be with the other person for good, I was setting him free. But he stayed, did not even fly away. Is he really meant for me? I really do not know. Only time will tell. When you set someone free, you have to be prepared. I think you were not ready. Ready for what? Ready for the fact that he/she would fly away and never come back. I was prepared before I set him free. You've got to be resigned to fate, to a certain extent.

I have never been majorly heartbroken before, but if this situation were to happen to me, I guess I would not set that person free right away. I would probably fight for it first. Some people just lose track of what's important at some point in their lives. If I were the one who cheated, I would like my partner to fight for me first, prove that he is the right one. After seeing that it will never work out between the two of us then that would be the time I would say that it's over. As for destiny, we shape our own destiny but there are things that are just beyond our control. Sometimes it's God's will. But then God gave us the freedom. So in every relationship, lift it all up to God. Relationships must be God-centered.

One way of saying and showing how much we love someone is "setting them free" And if that someone will come back,then,it is meant for us. Yah,i agree with it and i did it once in my life. I had set free my love and it never came back to me. I knew he is not mine to hug so i have to give him his freedom that gives him happiness which i cannot give while i have him kept in my life. There is nothing to regret for setting someone knowing he is happy. For happiness is the best reason for being in love. Love comes and love goes. Someone comes along and someone goes away. Let love find the right way back into our hearts. Have a good day always

i believe in that saying but if you love someone sometimes is not easy to let go. i loved a guy that he was my best friend and i let him go bcs he started to act so careless and acting bad to me. so i stopped to show him how i loved him. he knew i loved him and he just act stupid always. but if you are sad to let him go and you think you want her back try to have her back. we must let go just if person doesnt love us anymore. anyway wish you be ok soon^^

Actually nina - nobody other than yourself can give you the right guidance on such things. Quite often in love, a person tries to overlook things, obvious signs of incompatibility, hoping they will be able to rectify it at a later date. Natural attraction is there, but that is chemicals, not something that the society understands. If we were animals without any of those laws, we would possibly have had multiple partners. However, we live in society, so we follow some norms. That statement is also made by an individual, who has made that statement based on what he or she came across. It is not necessary it is applicable to everybody. I would counter it with "Every rule has an exception, including this one". What is good for you, may be bad for me kiddo. So though it does seem nice to hear and read, practical view is listen to your brain and heart. Of course, it might hurt. My heart goes all out to you and I pray to god that he gives you much strength to be honest with yourself and accept what is there before you. While on this, let me also tell you something which again may be based on my nature. You think you would be able to love her if she returns? After how she behaved? Be very honest with yourself. For a while, you will love and hate the same person. You would want her to talk to you, and when she talks to you, you'd feel does she not feel any shame after all that she did? If she says sorry, depending upon your mood, you would forgive for a while and then again depending upon your mood, you would get annoyed. Relationships at this stage are very fragile nina. Even if they are long ones. In fact, if they are long ones. Though I would wish you get what you want, my wisdom also tells me, it is not right for you, and you should move on, find a nice person and settle down. May god do the right for you, with least amount of pain kiddo.

Hello nina As per my faith, marriages are predestined, we meet here on earth only, if she flew away like a parrot, it is okey, she is not destined for you, if at all she is, then she will come back and beg apology rather.. you take your own decision in this matter., best of luck friend.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

well, i dont believe in that saying.. if i love someone i will not let him go. i will not hurt him. and will love him more. loving a person means FOR ME is fight for that love. worthy love is something you need to fight for. and if i just give up on that love maybe i dont love him that much. but if he told me that he dont want me anymore or he loves someone else then that is the time ill let him go. happy day to all!!

Yes, people who are jealous and try to suffocate someone has much more chances to loose the loved one than having them. Everytime I felt a guy didn't valorize me enough I left them. Those who like us always come asking to come back together.

Don't push yourself if that person doesn't like you in return. There still a lot of fishes in the ocean and letting the person you love go is the best thing to do since you know that she's not happy at your side. Though it hurts but still we have to be brave to face it because reality really hurts. Try to get acquainted with another people and choose the one where there is a mutual feelings not a one sided love only.

Yes I heard that line already as a poem or as a lyrics to a song. Before when I was a teenager I was emotional that I always tell all my past boyfriends this line. But now that I'm married I realize that it's wrong. If you really love the person you will fight for the love and your marriage. You will do everything you know to keep the relationship intact and to keep the love alive. On the other hand, if you feel that you are the only one who wanted to keep the relationship and if you know that he love somebody else already that he beg of you to please let him/her go... then you should think about it.

If he/she comes back... then you're meant to be? or destined for each other? Well, personally I don't believe in that saying. I don't believe in destiny. I believe that we are the one who's making our own destiny. Even if there is someone who is destined for us, if we don't do anything about it, then nothing will happen. Just like loving someone... If you really love your partner then you have to fight for that love. I know that letting go is part of loving but you must only let go if the person that you love doesn't love you back anymore. For any reasons, I believe that you have to fight for it. Although it is a case to case basis, that's how I see it.

I always believe that if it's meant for you, it will always find it's way to you, or you will always find your way to it. Nothing is coincidence, everything happens for a reason, and someone is always meant to be be with someone else. That's why we always try to look for the right fit, in shoes, shirts, rings, etc... Just like in life, we will look for that right fit, or if not, you will fit to in, in time.

I have always believed in this statement of love. If you love someone you might have to let them go for the love to come back to you. It may not always be the easiest thing for your heart to do and accept but it might be the best choice to make. The love will return to you if it was meant to be.

It's kind of hard to believe about the teaching you received. If the person never come back and also waiting for you to come to him/her as well, will it be like nonsense. It's best to assume that when we love someone, we should be with them and care about them. Also it's kind of weird if we leave them like that and making them in questions and doubts of our intention. Anyway, it's better not to follow the proverb 100% in our life.

those words for me only apply if the relationships become a one sided love affair,if one has fall out of love with the partner, and if the relationship is on that stage, then of course someone will have to accept and let go.

yes..i believed in the saying that if you love someone., it's better to set them free.., if they return someday.., then they were meant for you but if not..., then it's not meant to be... it hurts..i know but we have to accept the fact that what makes us happy might not make the person we love happy too.., so what's the use of holding on to them if we know.., we are hurting them in the process..right?

Why would I set her free when I knew she would be happier with me? haha

I have heard it but If they flew away like a parrot its probably for the best and you deseve way better :)