my friend keeps on lying

I think it would be better if the one girl in your group who's closest to her talks to her about it one on one rather than all of you doing it as a group. It's not that any of you are in the wrong - if there's one character trait I personally hate more than anything it's lying - it's just that if you try to do it all together as a group it may come across as ganging up. It will also really embarrass her. If you all genuinely like her and want to stay friends with her it would definitely be better to have one person broach the subject with her first and gauge her reaction, go from there. If she's going to get really upset and offended (which would be an expected reaction from a chronic liar) it would be a lot easier to handle if it wasn't at a sleepover. I remember having to deal with that one upset person at a sleepover instead of having fun when I was a kid and it was a royal pain. Plus that way you may get a second chance at getting through to her. If she gets the sense that all her friends are ganging up on her and talking about her behind her back then it's possible that none of you will get that second chance.

is she your girlfriend and do you love her. If i was you and loved her, i would not let her know at all. Why do we want to decide someone else's fate. Its simple what goes round comes round. if you do this to her...somwhere in future if you come across this situation some one else will do this to you.

Kindly, tell her kindly. Maybe this is coming from some terrible sense of insecurity. Let her know you are her friend, and you like her the way she is, without her making up stuff to impress you.

Just bring it out like you did to us here.print out pics of this bf she has with the other name as proof. Please let us know the results of your hangout.

For me she's not a friend yet. Because if she does, she would not lie to any of your friends, if you are a group. Two years of friendship is not enough of knowing each other well, beacuse during that time, you should know what is behind her untruthfulness. And if she is a friend to you, she should not invent those things. If you want to confront her in a group it would be so embarrasing. Since all of you knows her, try to assign someone to tell her, then wait for her to change,if nothing happens, then that's the time to confront her to let her know that her doings is not a secret anymore. A true friend is someone who will accept your shortcomings but will lead you too to a right attitude.

lying is not good we should be honest with aja what it is about ourselves. We're light on the face of our future no longer be trusted either family, friends and others - others.

Hi incredibleDNA! i think confronting her together with your friends isn't a good idea. Have someone talk to her privately, the one closest to her. You're already old to act childish, it's a highschool doing.. and besides, she's old enough to realize that what she's doing is stupid.. be blessed. :)

If you are set on doing this you must do it with kindness. A person that lies like this is a very insecure person and thinks they are not good enough for the rest of you. Make a list of all the good points about her that makes you all want to be her friend and then help her to help herself break this annoying habit.

Hi incredibleDNA, I don't know the age ranges this group of friends are in, but sometime when a person is young and feeling insecure, he or she tends to seek attention from others, the peers, by embellishing or dressing up a stories. Sometimes they will just flat out tell lies, which is what you think your girlfriend is doing. So, for two years you have watched and listen to your friend tell lie after lie and you never called her out? You would rather wait until you can shame her to a pulp, in front of your other friends. Not the nicest thing you could do for her. She maybe what a professional would call a compulsive liar. This is a person who needs to feel as if they are the most important person in the crowd, and in order to get the attention they are seeking, he or she will lie about his or her life, where they live, how much money they have in the bank, the handsome beautiful partner they have, and on and on. The person who is in this situation does not need to ridiqued or made shameful in front of a gang of girls, who has no faults. Right? Found a better way to handle this. Promise!!

Wow, you are so set about unmasking this friend of yours. Sounds petty to me, I hope I am wrong. She only wants to be accepted in your circle of group. She may hurt herself knowing she has to lie to you all. She is afraid that once she tells the truth, her friends would not want her to hang out with them anymore. If you feel that she is worth a friendship with you, then maybe you will do this kindly.

Confronting her with her lies before everyone may not be a good idea. Just try giving her hints that she will be liked for what she is and not for the person she is making you people believe she is. If you care about this person, handle it gently.

hello incredibledna i would not confront her in front of everyone. i would talk to your friend one on one and talk to her that way so she is not so in barest and tell her how you feel.