me.....myself....... and me.

Hello, I try that all the time. Nothing makes me more happy than being introspective for a few moments. Thinking only about one's self is not as easy as it sounds to be. Our mind is always busy in processing thoughts. Not all of these thoughts are useful or beneficial. When start to think about ourselves our mind becomes calm and on that calm water we see the true reflection of our selves. The job is really very difficult as one will need to detach oneself entirely from the rest of the world. This mental reclusion once achieved may give you inexplicable joy and happiness. Thanks. God bless you

Dreaming again are we? I might be able to do want I want as I don't have family living at home any more but my thoughts are alwaya elsewhere and those thoughts don't allow me to only think of myself, not yet. Maybe in a few years when circumstances change

Hey Saph, you are so right, I need to apply this selfish therapy soon or I'll go mad. I tend to bend over backwards for my clients and I think they know it, so they will call me at any time of the day or night for help. Sometimes I feel I need to split myself in two. One of these days my partner is going to get a shock when I tell him that I will not be doing anything for him that week and I will be switching my cell phone and computer off and he must make sure the business runs and all the clients are happy. I will then spend time for me and only me ;-) Great idea Saph, thanks

Hi Sweetie No I have never tried that and I know it would not work for me lol my mind would still drift to others and what I need to do lol

I used to live my life putting myself first and yes, it was great. I lived alone, supported myself and was only responsible for me. I enjoyed it until I met my husband and ended up with a family. The minute you have children you no longer come first and never will but that is okay because the joy my husband and child bring me is worth the loss of some of my independence. Having said all that I still insist on ‘me’ time and I am getting pretty good at saying NO!

Yes I agree..At some point in our lives it's really a vital one to be able to start thinking about ourselves even at once. If we are always in the notion of always giving, prioritizing all the needs of the people around you specially in your family and presuming what other people is thinking about you, it will just give you lots of stress and somehow your insecurities will be developed.

i think doing this is darn near impossible for most mothers though but it would be fun.

Not sure I could do that. I have 4 kids and while they are all grown except for one, thinking of someone beyond myself is just a way of life at this point. Every thing I do, every decision etc has been made with first giving thought to how it would or could affect them as well as myself. And by that, I don't mean to sound like a martyr because I'm not at all. I do think of myself and I am my own person. My actions do affect others besides myself and it is who I am to stop and consider that.

That's right Saph.. sometimes we need lots of "alone time" to think things through..and actually now that you've mentioned it, I'm starting to think about myself. What I should be doing and all that.. how I should face the future and etc. It is what I call my self-reflective moment and it's indeed a good feeling..

Sandwich! Me above, me below with myself in between! he he Seriously, I dream a lot! That is my best defense othewise I will go nuts. :)

its not as easy as you , but not impossible too. its just a feeling what we create every time. but always we cant fool us that we are happy in whatever we does, the things which are related makes us happy we are.

*BUUUURP...! excuse me.. sorry, i was thinking about my tummy then.. and i am thinking about myself now....something which i haven't been doing in a long time. and it really does make a difference when i can think about myself without the distractions of those ghosts in my past getting into my head all the time..

Wow! I tried that too and it feels awesome. I guess I completely agree with those philosophers saying that "selfishness is a virtue" because you cannot give to others what you don't have. That is why you, most of the time, have to prioritize yourself. You have to strengthen yourself first before you can stand up for others. You have to love yourself first to love others...

maybe it right but i don't no

A little harder to do when you have children, but yeah I do that now and then...

I always think about myself - HA HA. Well, when I say that, what I really mean is I always think about me and my family. Not to say my needs come last, but the things I do, I always consider my family first (2 little ones and a hard working, loving hubby). Sure, I can work on myLot til I save up a trip to Hawaii all for myself - ha ha - but I want my team with me as I love them too much. I did however exclusively make MYSELF a "fancy" lunch the other day of chicken and rice (when I normally conveniently eat the same stuff my daughter eats) - and I felt great for doing that for ME.

Hi saphrina, Again a long gap for me with mylot..And I too thought like this..And I'm very happy about that..Only thing I want to change about myself is inferiority complex...I can't change that..Hope some day it will go away from me..I'm always a happy smiling person and always dreaming about my love..I have scolded myself that don't dream too much about love..But i can't change that..Love is more powerful ..isn't it.?

[b]I'll be myself when I'm alone...and I love myself the most......but I don't even trust myself....Me myself is not perfect..and I just want to be myself.... thank myself for my response... have myself a great day/night.......[/b] thanks for the topic.... have a great day/night...

Hi saph, I think I'm too selfish already. Do you have the reverse antidote?

hi everyone!btw, i'm new here and this topic caught my attention as i have been thinking about the same thing on my way to work this morning. as much as i want to think of just myself it's hard when you have a family to think of. sometimes i give myself some me-time but sometimes its just not enough. don't get me wrong i love my family especially my baby (who we have waited to come into our lives for 4 years!), but sometimes i just wish i get to spend just one day doing what i want, reading books, watching movies, just lying in bed thinking of nothing, to cut the story short, just be lazy. :-)