Do you enjoy "alone" time?

@lacieice (2060)
United States
August 4, 2010 4:00pm CST
I've just spent the last five hours alone. I loved it. Quiet. Peaceful. Calming. Hubby is retired, so he is always around the house. Today, he is helping our daughter with an errand, and I am loving it. I get very little alone time, so I try to take full advantage of it when I get it. How about you? Do you get alone time? Do you like it, or does it drive you nuts?
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@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I love my alone time. My bf understands that there are times that I just need to be with myself and I actually call it hibernation. During my hibernation, I stay at my room, with food, and then I would read, or watch a movie, or blog, then sleep, and then do the same things again.
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
18 Aug 10
It sounds like you have it all worked out...thanks
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Hi. Great question. Yes, I love alone time. I also love spending quality time with my dear boyfriend. We do spend a great deal of time together especially since I work with him in his business as well as spending fun time together. However, I intentionally schedule down time or alone time for myself. It's great. No phone, no people, no attitudes. You get the drift. A couple of months ago I was telling a friend of mine that I have a very full schedule. Then I immediately clarified myself by letting her know that a good part of that schedule was my own personal down time. We all need to refuel and I think this is the best way to do that. Enjoy your you time.
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• United States
11 Aug 10
It truly is a wonderful system. I highly recommend it. You are very welcome for my response but now if you'll excuse me, I have to be alone at least for the next 2 days or so!! HAAAA
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Enjoy!!!!!
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
10 Aug 10
It seems like you have a wonderful system, and yes, we all need to unwind and have time to think. Thanks for your response.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Aug 10
Hi lacieice. I live alone...all the time and it is so amazingly indescribably wonderful! No more sharing the bed, cleaning the toilet and shower after someone else has used it. No more huge bills because someone is not energy conscious and is wasteful. Being able to do what you want any time of the day or night is so great. Having the computer, laptop, bathroom all to myself is just fabulous. I even have a friend who mows my lawn, cuts wood for my fire and cuts my toenails. He also gives my bad shoulder a rub when he is here. I do miss going out for the day on a picnic or just a sightseeing drive, I know I don't need company for that but it's not the same and not as good to do stuff like that on your own
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Aug 10
Your time will come. I think we earn it. I would love to have a better more active life but that was not to be for me. I don't have a lot but I'm heaps better off than many people and happy and contented with what I do have.
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Sounds like Utopia. Wish I had some.
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@derek_a (10874)
5 Aug 10
Yes, I enjoy time alone and spend quite a part of the day alone as I work from home. The only contact I get with people is if I go up to the stores to get something I need or if I get a phone call from somebody. Each evening though, I spend with my wife unless she goes over to visit her mother, but soon her mother will be moving to live closer to us, so that those weekends alone will stop also. _Derek
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
5 Aug 10
That's really awesome.. quiet and peaceful life.. I so adore that kind of life..
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Oh...how nice you have it. Sorry about those weekends ending, though.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
19 Jun 11
I used to love alone time when I was married. But now I am single again and I hate alone time. I have too much of it on my hands, that is why I don't like it. Right now I am alone again. The really bad part for me is I live in a city that is 1400KM away from my family and friends. I only have my daughter here who is 28 years old and out a lot. We live together but she goes out a lot and she is out right now that is why I am on mylot right now. Something to do and almost like talking to someone so I don't feel so alone. I really need to make some new friends. I am self employed so it is really hard to meet people. I have tried making friends by joining a dating site but that isn't working too good for me either. I joined a church but everyone is either really young or really old, not too many people my age so that isn't working either. So I tried taking dancing lessons and I met a few that way but where I was going for the lessons was just too far to drive every Monday evening. It was at a bar and it started at 6 to 9 and I wouldn't make it there till after 8 because of work so that didn't work out for me either. So back to what your question is, No I don't like alone time because I get too much of it.
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@rebelann (112780)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Jul 21
I love my alone time but now and then I like to be around my friends so I visit them or if they're busy I go shopping and strike up conversations with strangers.
• United States
6 Mar 12
i rarely get alone time unless it is late at night and everyone is asleep. i have 2 little kids and a husband and i take care of my grandmother a lot so ill take the peace and quiet ne day. it is not very often that i am actually alone tho because technically they are still here and sometimes they wake up throughout the night. when i do get it trust me it is the best thing i could ever have!! everyone needs just a little bit of time to themselves or that will drive then nuts lol
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@rebelann (112780)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Jul 21
Wow, you've got a really busy life.
28 Oct 10
I like to every moments alone every now and then, I think it's important that we can have at least some time to ourselves especially when we're busy prior to having the alone time. I wouldn't say I like to do it more than I currently do, as I miss being around my family and if I can't be around them I tend to feel frustrated and usually only work can help take my mind of it. I probably have one day a week where I have like a couple of hours to myself.
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@rebelann (112780)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Jul 21
When I am home there are only my 2 cats and my dog, no people but if I want to be around people I either visit a friend or go shopping.
@Bd200789 (2994)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Yes, I really enjoy being alone. It is nice to sit back with a glass of tea and a book, or my laptop, and just getting away from everything, especially after a long day at work.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I am really kinda surprised at all the positive responses. Very few say they don't like to be alone, and that is not what I expected, but it is good. Thanks.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
5 Aug 10
I most definitely enjoy my alone time and space. I don't really get that much alone time, but when I do, I'll make the most out of it. Hmmmm, even when working, there tend to be people around and all that..but they are not disturbing so that's pretty alright. Alone time is important in anyone's life and there should be a time set aside to do important things for oneself. I feel rejuvenated each time after giving myself time to catch up on things that need to be done..
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
6 Aug 10
That's really a good trait..
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
I understand about being around people and still having a degree of privacy. I've learned to do that, too.
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• India
22 Aug 10
Hello I am retired now, my younger son and his wife and baby daughter are with me always, my elder son lives far with his family and kids at his work place, my wife is now there with them for a month.. Quite naturally i feel so lonely, ofcourse i try to reduce this feeling of aloneness by keeping engaged in research work, some times i help my daughter in law in kitchen.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
22 Aug 10
It sounds like you are missing your sweet wife. A month will pass quickly and she will be back. At least you have family with you. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
I miss "alone time" as I never seem to have it nowadays. But I do understand that being married with three kids(and all are boys), could be demanding. I rarely have any time for myself. if I did have an alone time, I'd spend it in peaceful bliss.
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
12 Aug 10
It would be nice if you could find a way to have that time, in fact I would consider it of utmost improtance. Three kids can wear you down quick...make hubby take them out, or have grandma watch them for a couple hours. You deserve it.
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@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
hi lacieice!! i love it too!! being alone in the house which is so quiet and you could do anything you want. especially if you want to clean the house. it is hard to clean it when everybody is around. and if you want to sleep all day or finish a book. you could do it to because no one will disturb you. happy day to all
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
yes indeed! i even ask my husband to step out of the house when i am cleaning. he has this attitude that when he sees me cleaning he will walk around the house. get things, ask me things. it really bugs me!
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Yes, it is hard to clean when people are about. Goes much faster when the house is empty.
@STILLETO (46)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
definitely i can manage myself being left alone, i spend this in doing certain things which i've enjoyed like watching a series, went to a cafe or playing basketball in our backyard.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
6 Aug 10
Sounds like you have it all planned out. Thanks.
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
yah because i used to it, if i'm alone i do it always to cover up my loneliness.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I spent a lot of times alone and loved it! Calming and relaxing...
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Wish I had more.....
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
i had those times alone before we got a baby... i am married for 7yrs before we are blessed with a baby. my husband work overseas so i had more time alone at home.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 10
I love to be alone. Years back when I was on a business trip to Bangkok I stayed in 5-star hotel. During weekends I did not go for sight-seeing. Instead I stayed in my room and enjoyed the movies in the television. Just imagine I cooped up all alone in my hotel room for two days. Yet time passed by swiftly.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Well, at least it was by choice...I imagine the life in Bangkok is sonewhat hectic, so you probably needed that time to decompress. Thanks.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Hi lacieice, I love my friend and family very much. I love to socialize and have crazy fun. Life is so very short, so I do my best to drink it all in. My job is a very busy and an active one. I work with children five days a week, so I am always looking for a way to cope with all the busyness. My "alone time" is the most precious time to me. It gives me serenity and my heart and soul merge in to the depth of unconscious thinking. Sometimes I just turn everything off that make noise that would interrupt my inner and out peace of mind. Our society has such a chaotic flow to our daily lives to the point where we are just running on pure adrenaline, and we rarely find some "alone time." which maybe a live saver further on down the road. Enjoy your peace. I'm sure it is well desired.
• United States
5 Aug 10
Hi, I love the children, they are some of my favorite people. I wouldn't give up my job for any other, but I love a quite or calm house. Right now, I have on an old Black and White Turner classic movie and a small lamp on my writing desk. This is peace. You are my last communication with the outside world, until tomorrow. Good Night,
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Yes, our current society is stressful and chaotic, so alone time is a necessity to decompress. Each moment of it is extremely important, especially for someone like you, working with children. They are loves, all of them, but they can be a handful.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
4 Aug 10
I like alone time but don't get much with a 3 year old daughter. My alone time is after she goes to bed as I hate for her to be away from me. Yeah I know I am overprotective and I am OK with it. I don't get a lot of alone time when husband is home, sometimes he hids in the office and plays on the computer but he usually comes down and disturbs me from time to time and upsets my quiet. When he has quiet time at home with just him it is anything but quiet he always has music going and sometimes the TV on top of that. When I have quiet time I like just that quiet time, no noise, don't talk to me just let me have my piece and quiet. I have a home daycare too so hardly ever quiet at my house except for nap time. Love nap time! Time for a short break to do things like this.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Whoa...busy busy busy. I bet you do love nap time!!! And, I know you really enjoy those few brief moments you manage to sneak for real alone time. Maybe you should try a relaxing bubble bath with the door locked and just soak. There used to be a commerecial from Calgon water softener...and the tag line was "Calgon...take me away". Sounds like something you might enjoy.
• Vietnam
5 Aug 10
I hate alone time, but i always feel lonely whenever i stop thinking about work
• China
5 Aug 10
yes i like alone time.i work at other city where is far from my hometown.so manytime i am alone in this city.But i have much time to do thing what i want at home.sometime my friends call me to meet and have lunch toghter.sometime i want to have one beside me ,we can do manything ,but now like alone time.haha i think u did not have many alone time ,so u like. when r alway alone u will not like like now.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Aug 10
Good for you...you know how to share your time when you wish. And yes, when we are always alone, things change, and you need to find someone to share with.
• China
5 Aug 10
hi i am a chnese and in China,Glad to see u, i have less chances to chat with one who is not in same county,i am very happy u can understaand what i said,cause my english is not well .
@mm_mari (36)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
i do love spending time alone, it gives me time to think and reflect on everything--life, career, family, etc its my way to relax and release stress
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
5 Sep 10
Seems like most who responded agree with you, and I do too. Thanks.
@akn1961 (1034)
• India
22 Aug 10
i spend alone time ,withnet or sleeping ,that is my way of enjoying life ,thx for sharing.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Thanks for your comment.