How will I escape from this person without being unpolite and hurting him????

Hi puddinggirl, I am sorry, but I would just tell him that he has the right to believe the way he does, but those are not your beliefs. The longer you allow him to monopolize your time or your life, he will continue to do so. You have got to be firm with him. You don't have to be rude, just firm. There are those people who have no regard for anyone else's values or viewpoints except their own. If your weird cousin had any respect for you, he would call less often. He obviously thinks that he has you where he wants you and that you won't dare not answer your phone, even if it is his hundredth call. If you don't feel comfortable speaking to him about his bad behavior, maybe you could solicit help from the aunt who give him your number. After all she should have asked you if it would be okay with you to give him your number. Be strong and stand up for your right to privacy.

Hi, puddinggirl. I can see that you have a bugaboo on your hands. It is just best to tell him how you feel. Let him know that you are not able to talk to him all of the time. Let him know how busy you are. If you tell him this and never answer his calls all of the time, then maybe he will leave you alone for a while. He has to understand that you have a life besides just talking to him all of the time. He can't get angry, he should just give you space to breathe. I also wonder if he likes you, because he loves being nearby you so much.

Well, you just can't avoid him like that forever, since he is your relative. The next time he talks to you about his unique views, you can either keep quiet, or interrupt him by changing the topic. Or you may want to tell him things that do not interest him, like gossips you overheard in the marketplace for example. Sooner or later, he will realize he is talking to someone who is not the same calibre as him, and hopefully he will give up.

Hmmm that is hard.. I have the same situation before except that he was not my relative. He is a stalker. I don't know but I guess he have some kind of a brain problem cause what he is doing is far from the norms. Anyways, I have done different ways to shoo him off but he was so determined, he is harmless though.. The only time I was able to get away from him was when my parents decided I continue my studies in our province. But it didn't stop there he was always calling me, but the monthly phone bills I guess stopped him from stalking me. Thanks to that. All I can say is.. since he is a relative, try to tell him that you are very busy and you couldn't spend all your time on the phone with him. Maybe you have to be sometimes rude to make the person know what you really think. I don't know but I think he is an insensitive person, the fact that he doesn't get the hint at all, so I guess being a little frank wouldn't be a big deal for him.

Oh god, I knwo exactly what you mean! I thinke evryone has these relatives and is forced to find a way to deal with them. There are really three approaches: aggressive, passive and liek an adult. Being aggrssive an dpassive are not the ways to ahndle this. Basically those are the two extreme of being miserable and just letting the perosn annoy you but being too polite to do or say anything to him OR being beyond rude and hurting his feelings. Extremes arnt good in any situation though. You need to do the adult thing and be assertive. Make it clear that you dont wish to continue a conversation with them while sparing their felings. You could tell them you are busy or something when they call...Although if you do this too often they will probally catch on and get hurt feelings anyways (blowing people off isnt really a good way to deal with this sort of situation either, I guess). Since your situation is a relative it's a bit more of a sticky situation sicne you can;t really cut them out of your life completely and even if you did your other relatives would probally disaprove and you'll probally have to see him later/eventually anyways. If you dont interact in the converasation with false laughter and such I think he;ll get the message/thought that you two just dotn ahev much in common. I mean, if youa re fake and continue the converaation on the weird rouute he's taking it the he's thinking that you ahve soemthing in common and that you are enjoying the conversation. No one deserves to be played around with in any fashions o just be straight with him. This is not an easy situation your inand I feel as if I've runa round in cuircles with my advice but I hope it's helped even the littlest bit. :)

It's more about you not being suffocated than him being hurted my friend. I mean you are worried about someone that doesn't have a clue and is not really worring about what you do with your time. No one has the right to call others everytime and to talk about THEIR interest. If it's a dialogue, like both can talk, respect each other's opinions and TO LISTEN in the same amouth is one thing. These religious fanatics I just cut it out, I give 3 chances. There was this girl, I liked her a lot but soon as she find out I'm more spiritual to Allan Kardec's revelations she started to say horrible things like her religion is better and I'm going in the wrong way, that I worked with evil and many things that actually became hilarious: I volunteered in a elderly home, I saved stray dogs and cats, I mean I was doing exactly her opposite: she went to church every weekends but never help no one, I mean what hell is that? So, I listed to her teachings (cause we all can learn sometthing, but honestly I didn't) for three times for like an hour or more each. Then I started to show my opinion wich she seemed not allow me to have, like if I'm wrong I'm totally wrong and as she was the only one talking I had caller ID and rarely pick up the phone for her. She is not stupid so she stopped. Think about your self. Specially, it's better to hurt him than make your daughter to lie. She is going to use that in her life if you don't tell her otherwise. "For each lie created you have to make up ten more to support the first lie." You don't ditch your cousing cause you seem like a really nice gal, but again, think about yourself and your daughter. Cheers!

That seems like a very difficult situation especially that in the first place, your relative is already thinking that you are such a good relative and that he/she feels close to you. I was also in that kind of situation before and that was when a relative also say things about her love life and I feel sick of listening to it cause its not really interesting. Sad to say I also cant get out and until now, she still tell me when same things.

well if i am in your case, i would tell him directly that i am not really interested on it, of course we all have our own opinions but once or twice said about the topic is already enough, i do not see it necessary to keep on discussing same topic over and over especially when you have other thing to do