how long does it take one to recover from a failed relationship?

Sad to hear your story taiwanlife. But I hope that with time moving fast, you will overcome the pains and lead a great life. It is just that you are alone and share the same set of friends. For a quick recovery, here is what you can try out - do some meditation. This would help you think positive and strengthen you mentally to overcome this problem. You can also take some days off to a distant place but ensure that you are not all by yourself over there. Avoid older and common friends on this trip. Its time to re-create yourself. Be busy and keep yourself engaged maybe with work or with reading or with playing or with watching movies. Try to be a part of your family and indulge more in activities with your parents, brothers sisters and anyone at home. It is a long term process and just personal how soon you get over this. Take care of yourself.

I'm only 23 but i've had two 2+ yr relationships. In both of those situations it felt like it took forever to get over the person I was with at the time. Mostly because once you spend so much time with someone, everything reminds you of them so they are constantly on your mind. THere are two ways to look at any given situation. You can look at it negatively or positively. It is unforunate that the relationship did not work out, but if you feel that you stil care for or love that person, then the memories of them that you do have should be cherished. There is always a bigger picture to the many situations in our lives. These situations make us who we are. Even though the relationship did not work out, you should take it as a learning experience and be happy for the good that came out of it. Dont run away from the thoughts of the other person, they will go away naturally. But everytime you think of it...think of the positive and recovery shouldnt be so hard.

Thanks for sharing your experience by the way.and I'm sorry. Breaking up is really difficult and quite painful for some. I guess you can't get away from the gossips of people who wants to know what happened between you and your ex. Last 2008, I broke up with an almost 6 year relationship . My high school sweetheart until college. Almost all the people I know, know about us. As hard as I try to avoid conversations about the break-up, people just tend to ask more and more questions. The only question I answered was the reason why we broke up and that's it. It took me a year to fully recover from the pain and longing because 6 years with the same person is such a long time and you can't just forget it that easily. Same as you too. It also took me a year to finally start dating other guys again. I just wanna assure myself and the ones I'm dating that my heart is ready to love again. You can't avoid thinking of your ex because you just think about the person before and after you sleep. But be strong! No matter what happens, just accept the possible fact that she's no longer yours and she could be dating new guys and so could you. Just enjoy being single at the moment. Yeah you can start seeing new girls but I highly recommend that you should get over emotionally first before jump into a new relationship again. I think its kinda unfair for your new partner to look like or seem to be just a part of a rebound relationship. Be strong. "Feel the pain until it pains no more" Best of luck

I think it's just a matter of acceptance. The more you hide it, the more it would stay with you. If possible, avoid lingering with her memories. Let it go. You did not mention how long your relationship lasted. Since it was just two months, it is normal to feel that way, But for me, it really takes time to recover. Find some activities to keep you busy and gradually, in God's given time, you will recover.

It really depends on the individual and how well you let go. If you typically carry around grudges or bad feelings for a long time its going to be worst. But if you just get out and try to make your life normal again, just move on it will help you forget her sooner. Heart break is absolutely terrible. Its such a bad feeling but you can move past this and you will.

I never been in such situation, yes I do experience break up two times but in my situation the girl is the one who broke up with and because of that Its only like a over night before I have move on. Its not because I didn't love them its only because they are the one who left me behind and for me they are not worthy for my tears and they are not worthy to be my partner in life if they can choose to leave me. I know time will come that I will find someone who are worth more than them the one that can become my partner in life forever. I know its hurts be do they deserve the pain your having right now? are they worthy for your tears if yes I can't do anything about it, its your own decision when will you accept that she is gone now. Just remember when someone leave you there will be new to come to our life, never stop there, life don't end because someone leave us, no matter how much you cry or try to stay away from it, if you your own self don't want to forget about her and accept the truth you can't hide from her memory.

Different people are effected in their own way, my brother used to mope around the house for months and generally act extremely bratty despite being older than me. I was upset after my first relationship for about a week, then I was more confused what had gone wrong and it lasted for about 3 weeks to which I decided I would try and interact with my friends which took my mind of it. It was a little longer for me to jump back onto the dating scene but I found my wife not long after.

A general concept on it, is that it takes about half the length of a relationship, to fully get past a relationship. However, there are stages in it, too, and things continue to get easier as time goes on. If you were in a 3 year relationship, it would be around a year and a half before you would be completely over it, however, after maybe a couple months (or in some people's cases, a week or less) you'd be fine to go on and try for more relationships, but there are going to be bits and pieces that will still be coming back to you until around the half length of your relationship. Its not easy to go through, but you have to just keep on working at it.

dear taiwanlife, i say years, but it depends on how long you have been together. also depends on how close you have been and many other reasons. but time is always the enemy. just have a lot of friends and be outgoing. it is a no no, to stay inside your bedroom and sulk. it would do you no good and your eyes will just swell from crying. enjoy out with friends, have a new look and be positive that you'll find the right one. have a nice day. ann

it all depends on how much -- emotionally and personally -- you invested in the relationship... also, your outlook will do you a lot of good or bad.... friends and family also help in putting a past behind... how about a new relationship?

The best answer.......Naturally.

I understand what you are going through. I've been there. It's not easy to forget the person you loved. It's not easy to forget a failed relationship. It may take time to recover from it. There's not specific date where you can say that you are over it. It's entirely up to you. One thing I can advice, is that do not go through it alone. Find a support system. Talk about it, let it out of your system. Make yourself busy as well.

it's been just two months, it is normal to feel that way...I myself took years before getting over a failed relationship. I think the best way to get over it is first to accept that things won't be the same anymore, and you can start doing that by telling your family and friends about it. They are the ones who can help you get over your past love...then let the time heal your heart, there are really lots of memories to deal with, but in time, it will go away, on its own...you don't need to force yourself to get her out of your mind, it's good that you are travel a lot now, it's one way of diverting yourself, try to find a hobby that will make your mind preoccupied...and you won't notice, that you are already healed...patience...time will come, but for now, it's okay to grieve, just don't dwell on it..God bless

You know sometimes moving on means keeping in touch with the person, even though you are not in a love relationship anymore. Our heart always feels bad when someone does not want to talk to us or ignores us, that does not mean we are still in love. I am sure you must atleast recollect one occasion when someone's ignoring would have irrated you or put you off to the extent that you try to get a response from the person by doing something. good or bad. Or it could be just that you actually love this person and she is your soul mate, in that case please talk to her and get back together as life is to short to fall out.

I would say that from my experience, it depends on how deeply one is involved in a relationship. The first person that I had a relationship with, took a long time of a year or so before I would say that I could really get over her. All relationships after that weren't so intense as I probably didn't completely let myself go into my feelings. I am married now and settle down for many years, and I don't even want to consider this relationship splitting up. It would take probably the rest of my life to get over it. But I know it's not going to happen. _Derek

2 months is certainly not enough time to get over a long relationship that went sour. The best way to get over it is to start ANOTHER relationship. And that means to go OUT and meet NEW people.

its really hard to start living without the person you used to share each day of your life. letting go and moving on is easily said but hardly done. time will heal all the pains the breaking up brought to you. you don't have to forget the person that caused it because that's another hard thing to do. you will just learn to live with it. the past will always be part of us no matter how we tried to evade and forget it. just dwell on the good memories, it will help the coping up with situation bearable because for sure that relationship brought out something best in you and you learned a lot from it also. make it an ispiration instead of a source of desperation...been through that also and i cope...prayers help a lot...God bless you...

Sharing your life with somebody and loosing him/her suddenly is a big blow. It is ok for you to grieve. You are still hurting and in a state of shock. It will gradually come down. It might take a month for some, a year for some or even two to three years. But never loose yourself in it. Accept that she is always going to be a part of your memories and your life. And try doing something new and different which does not involve her at all. Of course, you will be reminded of her in the next few minutes! But you will recover. And you will learn to handle thoughts of her too. Everyone has their heart broken at least once in life. Just hang in there.

it really depends upon the mind and character of the person, some people will take years to recover from that brocken relationship, but i had seen someone they don't need any time to recover from that , they will forget the past within minutes, coz they are not at all serious in that relation, but the truth is it will take time to recover from it if the relation was truthful and serious, sometimes we cant recover from it, that's true love

I think it takes a whole life. Depends on, how you you felt for your partner. Just be busy to find a new realtionship - the sooner you will forget the old.