My wife is far away from me

Why don't you usually phone her? I suggest you chat face to face on webcam any programme. I have my friend same happening many time.

Try to get a job in the same state. Being married and working in different states is hard and unfortunately will not help the marriage to go forward, strong though you may be. Both of you will make new friends which are not a part of your life together. I know how you feel as I have gone through the same experience and it's tough. Temptations are found everywhere, even if you both work in the same state so it is you who have to be strong enough to say no. Good luck and be strong.

If I was in your place, I wouldn't let her be far away from me. I mean, as you said, you are married to her, marriage means you two should be together now, no matter how important the job is. I think you should go to her state, or call her up to your place, and live together. It will be a little difficult in the beginning, but later you guys will be okay, and I am sure she can find a better job if she comes to your place.

I cannot imagine getting married to then leave apart. What sense does it have with all due respect? The change you have to make is to live together and if required change jobs. Your life should not be based on where you work but on each other!

Go to find a job in her state or let her find a job in your state - That's the safest solution. If having difficulties in finding job soon, contact her frequently, reduce the distance between your hearts. Distance between hearts are much more important then physical distance.

I would say distance is not the factor which will impact the real love,through it's a little hard to do. I suggest you keep touch with her and to share what you've done every single day and how much you miss her. you are neary succeed when both of you get a habit of comunicating with each other. Have a lovely day!

Hey casnoking, thats so sad.. but you know if you really trust and love your wife then nothing bad will happen... temptation is normal but if you believe in what you promise or if you hold dear to your vows on your wedding then I think you will not be tempted. TRUST and LOVE is the key to a stronger relationship. no matter how far she is, and no matter how lonely you are as long as you lover her then you will survive... though I suggest you can do something about it.. like talk to her on cam or call her every now and then so avoid temptation....

Hi, casnoking. If your love is real and true for your wife, then the temptation to fall prey, to another woman will not even come across your mind. And if it does, your love for her should be strong enough to withstand any deadly lusts from other women.

What?!! Ok, you two made a huge mistake. You should not have gotten married until this issue was dealt with and settled. Unfortunately you are here now... um... I'm going to be as blunt as I possibly can. You need to either... A: One of you quits their job IMMEDIATELY, and you form a family again, that actually lives together in the same place. B: Divorce, and immediately. Not joking. Trying to live a celibate life, while married, is a dangerous and stupid idea. You, and your wife, both are not designed to do this. Mentally, emotionally, and physically, you are not designed to be married, and live separate. So if you refuse to leave your job, and she refuses to leave hers, then you need to get this marriage annulled, and find a women that you can have a REAL family with. Not this... er... mistake or whatever it is you are trying to do. I would rather you break this off now while you are still friendly to each other, than have one or both of you screw it up by finding relational needs met in another person, end up having affairs, and harming each other in a messy screwed up divorce. Listen, you may not realize this, but your wife has the same deep marital needs you do, that are not getting met with you one state away. So there is just as much a danger on her end, as on yours. Bad plan! Danger Will Robinson! Emergency course correction!

For me there must be one of you not to work or else work in the same town or country you live so that you will be together.

For me so that your married would not broke because of temptation there's one of you to be not to work to sacrifice so that you will be together or they work in the same country will you live.

For me so that your married would not broke because of temptation there's one of you to be not to work to sacrifice so that you will be together or they work in the same country will you live.

Much depends on the couple whether they truly love each other or they are only lusting after each other. If they love each other then they will by the memories of sweet moment they have spent together. If the lust after each other they will fall into temptation. Built an environment of love between you two, and you will find that it is possible to live still longing for each other.

Why don't you ask your wife to find job at where you work or else you do it for her. If this is not possible to keep in touch with her hope you both have got internet access in computer. Here you can chat online and also video chats. But i know it is difficult to control you feelings to meet her. If it is not too far, you can also go and meet her in the weekends. Thats better. I am also missing my bf a lot. We too are in different country. But for me i feel my studies are more important now.

Hi , I understand How you feel, One thing I can tell you for sure, marriage means trust, without trust your releation will not last long , as you told you got wonderful lady,so your temptations should be on your wife as your married , think once like this,if even your wife think about dealing her temptation, what about relation, this type of question araise if u loose trust , it weakens the relation, so first of all , I suggest you to buil trust , it will create a strong bond between you both.

casnoking, I think the most important thing for you is to understand yourself and your weaknesses - then work on it. I can understand the need to separate due to work however, I think the both of you will need to really sit down together and see if there's really a solution for the both of you to be working and staying together. I have to be factual here that it is unhealthy for young married couples to be apart so early in your marriage. I am quite surprised that the both of you had not worked out on this area. Is there really no way or opportunity to work in the same state and stay together? The both of you need to recognize that there is a need for the both of you to have a place where the both of you can call home, refuge and retreat for you to return to at the end of the day. Spending moments and building up the marriage where the both of you have worked so hard to be where the both of you are today. If you think that, this enough already, then you are in for more of a surprise. You will need to work harder than before. Knowing and recognizing your vulnerabilities is the very first step to you taking action how not let the mundanes and seductions overwhelm you. I can assure you that the times you walk away or flee or keeping it in your pants has never been more real than now, as you see the full meaning of devotion, dedication and commitment play out in your life. To wear your ring literally and figuratively - start building a model relationship and marriage that others talk and live out. Spend that energy and flirtation to the one that really deserves it - your wife.

well if you love your wife talk with her everyday ^^ if you keep caring for each other with sweet words and visiting each other in day off your love wont disappear. also you guys should try to save money and live together^^ both can work in same state if save some money^^ also about her if she loves you she wont cheat on you. the most important is talk everyday and tell how much you guys mean for each other everyday and save money for live in same state^^