Would you love a person who has physical handicap?
By velentina
@velentina (891)
Mauritius
August 5, 2010 11:06pm CST
Many people have physical disabilities. Do they not deserve to be loved, get married and have a family. I have a cousin who love a guy who is deaf...her family are opposing to this relationship. The girl is normal and educated and the boy is not so educated because of his physical disabilities. Would you have accepted this relationship if you were the girl's parents....the girl is very depressed give her advice what to do...a solution to her problems.
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16 responses
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
That's tough, we can't blame the reaction of the family of the girl. The family are just concern of the future of their daughter. We can't deny that committing to a physical handicap person is not easy, specially that he doesn't have a decent job. But we should not judge them, it's not right to prohibit two people from loving people just because of their physical condition. But be sure that she is ready for all the future insults and difficulties that they will get in the future because whether you like it or not we are living in a cruel world full of prejudice.
@m_perez (506)
• United States
6 Aug 10
If I were her parents I would have accepted the relationship. How does a disability make a person not eligible to get married or have a relationships... those parents aren't seeking what's best for her. She should keep having a relationship with the boy and show how good of a person he is to her parents. Just because the boy is deaf doesn't make him a bad boyfriend that's what should be said to the parents.
Every person whether they have a disability or not should be able to love and be loved and it surprises me that many people out there think people with disabilities shouldn't have a family or other things. Anyways thanks for bringing this topic to my attention it's actually quite interesting.
@m_perez (506)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Ya most parents do think like that. I think though that it's best if the child is happy with whom they will marry. What if the child does marry somebody who will secure a good future like the parents wanted but she/he is not happy with the person he/she married. It's best to be happy with the person someone is going to marry. I think that's the only thing that should be put in to thought when making the decision to wed or not.
@nonew3 (1941)
• United States
6 Aug 10
If I were the parents I would definitely support this relationship. Deaf people are just like anyone else. They just do some things differently because they can't hear. They are not burdens. And, it should be the girl's choice who she wants to marry, because it's her life. I believe it's unethical to deny deaf people the opportunity to marry and have a family, and that is what some people do.
@doormouse (4599)
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7 Aug 10
of course her parents should except this relationship,it shouldn't matter what problems a person has,it's what's inside that counts,as long as he treats her right what is her parents problem,it's pathetic that people still think like this,it's 2010,not the dark ages
@hotwheels20 (400)
• India
13 Aug 10
To love some one you need not have to give reason. Love can happen with any one at any time. I usually don't have a habit of looking at some one to love. I think it is a very bad way to lead your love. Love for me is like unexpected.
@aliasgar_shah (9)
• India
6 Aug 10
Well i guess this is what people call a true love. Wowah!, lucky is the man who found such a loving and selfless gurl, who cares mroe about a person in feelings as in just the outer appearence. I think the girl should follow her heart, coz as we all know that happiness lies where our heart does, so also does paradise lie there.
Let the world go on gossiping about it, dont bother much about it. If parents are opposed to it, that's because they wanna show some supposedly gud concern for their daughter. They should be made to realize that they would wish best for the girl is they confide in her likes and dislikes and cede to her choice of partner.
But only if it is true that the man also loves the girl as much. I am totally fine with it, even if i were the gurl's father i would have said yes!.
God bless:)
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 10
I think if one is physically disabled, I would not hesitate to love it. God forbids, if any of my near or dear one becomes disabled, I would not stop loving him/her.
@Archie0 (5652)
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6 Aug 10
Ofcourse they have, inspite i will say my cousin sister is handicapped by birth. But today she is a computer engineer and she is married to a very handsome boy, they recently got a baby. And the baby is very sweet and alright. So i think people who understand that love is not about what type of person you get, but its on who loves you in what way.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Aug 10
Having a phsyciacl handicap is not a reason not to love someone. A handicap has nothing to do with the person you are inside. We are all deserving of love in this world. If i have love in my heart for someone, a phsycial handicap would not deter that love in my eyes.
@bettydeng5 (1822)
• China
6 Aug 10
It's very difficult for my parents to understand and accept this if I love a person who has physical handicap, it should have big endure capability to face the society, because it's life. For your cousin love this boy who is deaf, first of all, I admire your cousin's spirit, she is the greatest girl in the world, because she want to give love to this boy, maybe he lose much things. However, she should consider her future life if she marry with him, the necessary economic should keep to support her life, if the life is no adoubt, and the boy can take care of her completely except his deaf, love is fair, I think she can accept this boy if she feel be very happy with him. Here is my opinion. There was a real love story happened in my village, many years ago, a girl loved a bog very much, they knew each other by the introduction, they kept the relaionship for two years and started to step the marriage, the unexpect things happenend,they will marry after 3 months, unfortunately the boy lost his left shoulder caused by other's hurt.At the special times, the girls's familiers start to oppose she marry to the boy, on the contrast, she never say no to him, and she insist her decision to continue to love and take care of him, after 3 months, they married, now they have their children, and lived a happy life. Though the boy lost his shoulder, but he didn't lay down, because he had a kind wife who always support him. It is real story happened, and last we inspired by this girl and sent our bless for her.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Aug 10
Parents always want to have the best for their children. if i was a parent i would also want to have the best for my child. But if i was in love with a handicapped girl i would love her and make her forget that she has a diability. i would also convince my parents to allow me to get married to her.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Aug 10
Parents always want to have the best for their children. if i was a parent i would also want to have the best for my child. But if i was in love with a handicapped girl i would love her and make her forget that she has a diability. i would also convince my parents to allow me to get married to her.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Aug 10
Parents always want to have the best for their children. if i was a parent i would also want to have the best for my child. But if i was in love with a handicapped girl i would love her and make her forget that she has a diability. i would also convince my parents to allow me to get married to her.
@pillaim1981 (64)
• India
6 Aug 10
been a practical person i would not love the physical disability person because world is very competitive and every decision has to be taken based on logical thought process
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 10
hi there!
everyone needs love.so they deserved to be loved.i don't see anything wrong with that.as a parents, they should support their daughter's choice and decision as long as the boy can take a good care of their daughter.all she needs is a proof to show that the she has choose the right person in her life.i think her parent can't accept him because they hardly trust the boy to take care of their daughter.they need some proof.if he is a responsible and a good guy i think there is no problem for them to accept him.---Hanum
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
If I would have a girl who'll love a differently abled boy, I think I'm going to admire her. Of course I would have issues with it at first, because I know she'll have a hard time taking care of him and I wouldn't want that to happen to her. But I would accept it of course since I know he'll make her happy. I would admire her because we know how people are prejudice about differently abled persons. It would be brave of her to accept his condition. I would be so proud that my daughter knows no prejudice towards physically challenged individuals.
Of course I could be saying this because I haven't experienced it. But I'm the kind of person who can sympathize with those kinds of conditions. So I guess I would accept it that would happen to my child.