Are the parents be the one to be blamed for raising up bad child/children?

Sweetie, parents play the MOST IMPORTANT role in any kids life, BUT, for a kid to turn out bad, is not the parent's fault. I can really get my knickers in a knot when people say that. At the age of 12, most kids ought to have listened and remembered what the wrong and right of life is, taught to them by their parents. One can never blame a parent for a kid's bad behavior. TATA.

Hi dear, As per my knowledge, a child's character is formed till upto the age of 7-8. Children’s are silent observers. At many times, they won't react. We have a feeling that they don't know much of the things. But they are more observer, listener, caring and above all keen in knowing everything. But we don't know these things and we just ignore such things. They are getting all the feed back from their parents till the age of 5-6. Upto this age, they will absorb all the things what they want and it will gradually grow afterwards. All these process happening very silently only and no one bothers or on one notices these silly things. I mean to say that a child's character formation is mainly based on the home atmosphere only. Now think who is around them till the age of 5-7. So, we can shape them in such a way how we want. The rest of the world will help to polish their real character. But the parents have a higher level of influence and responsibility to making the children's habit and character. Regards, Thank-s

If the child older 16 and below have bad manners and do bad things, then it is the parents who will we blame for such acts. But if a child reached the right age, that child have its own decision about his life. Whether he decide to be good or bad, it is their responsibility. Their parents are not always there to know what they are doing and sometimes no matter how the parents advice them they do not listen as they have their own decision. As for Ivan Padilla, for sure his parents doesn't know what he is doing. We should not always blame the parents alone. No parents would want his or her child to be a bad person.

Parents plays a big role in raising their children. But given the fact that we are the ones raising them doesn't mean that we are the only person to blame for their acts whether good or bad. Friends and environment play a huge role too. And when the time comes that our kids go to school, we cannot be with them 24/7. Our role as parents is to feed them not only good food but also good deeds. :)

Growing up is influenced by many factors. Although parents play a very big role in it, they are not the only ones to be blamed for how a child has become. And to be fair, we don't owe all our achievements and successes to our parents as well. No offense but that seems to be the truth. Well there's environment, friends, teachers, neighbors, genes, and even individual uniqueness to contribute to the growth of a person.

Definetly! Every parent plays a vital role in child's behaviour Whichever way they be with him he gradually turns out to be that If the child is bad then surely the parent has to be blamed!

I do believe the parents are to be blamed for raising up bad children. I mean who else could be blamed for this. You can always tell how a parent does their job on how well the child acts. I'm not just talking about punishments. I'm talking about parents that let their kids do whatever they want, whenever they want. You have parents that will throw money to get their kids out of trouble. That only teaches the kid that whatever I do, my parents will bail me out. They don't learn from their actions, until it's to late. I see it all the time with people in the spot light. In some of those cases, it's not just the parents fault. It's also the court of law that lets them slide by and they don't learn from their mistakes. Once a person grows up, we as parents can only hope and pray we did our job as parents and we showed them the right path to take.

i think we has parents play a role in who are children become to a point. If we love them, hug them, let them know how special they are to us, a long with disicpline and structure, we have a better shot at having amazing children turn into amazing adults. then there are just those people who are born to be bad people. and those people are just they way things are...

Parents are the biggest factor in how a child will grow up. Although a child are also taught and see a bunch of other people. This can range from care givers, teachers, friends and even bad influences. No matter how well a child is brought up if they dont feel comfortable talking to their parents about a certian thing can then lead them to make one big bad choice. There are times where the parents are to blame whole heartly but then you also have cases where the parents had no control over the issue and it wasn't their fault. I believe 90% of how a child is raised has a big impact later in life. Also impacts the way they will raise their children later in life.

there are a lot of factors why children become delinquents or public enemy no. 1. most of these factors are not within the control of the parents. as children grow, they are exposed to many things. we parents are not there all the time. there are instances that the children spent most of their time with the peers. though it is said that the parents play an important role, the children have their own mindsets when they grow up. they have their own choices. they decide with their own volition, too.

I actually tend to believe that parenting or the lack thereof plays the most major role over whether or not a person will grow up to be a good or bad person. The reason that I feel this way is because of what I've been able to observe about the children that I see in the world. The children that are the most well-behaved are those that have parents that are always there for them. However, the children that tend to be the ones that get in trouble are those whose parents don't keep an eye on them and let them get away with behaviors that aren't really acceptable.

I believe parent key role in shaping their kid personality. We need to teach them with example its our life. My parent always said a kids is like a plain white paper its up to the parent what they wanna write with it. I believe in every kids life their peer group pressure but as long they had place they call home, I think they will be alright.

According to some books of personality development and child development. There are lots of factors that affect and influence the character of the person. But the first one that the child be influenced with is his parents. The environment and peers come on the later part. But they also give a big impact on the development of the child personalities. However once the child start to grow up you should not lost tract of his developmental stages. As a parents you should be there to guide and see him growing up so that you will implicates the good and bad personalities. Child development is really fragile they can be easily influenced by someone. At first hand once they knew its not good because you told them then they would not have that personality anymore.

I think the parents are mainly the ones to blame for the most part. A lot of parents will say it's something else because they don't want to take responsibility for their actions. There are some things that can be part of it but the biggest factor is how you raise your children. I do believe school, friends and neighborhoods are somewhat a part of it but only a very small part. If you raised them right, no matter where they live or who their around they will know right from wrong. I think it all stems from how they were raised and who raised them.

Seeing that all human beings have flaws and make mistakes, and some of them big ones, then if we blame our parents, they will be also entitled to blame their parents (our grandparents) and then it will go back to great grand parents and their parents, and then their parents before them. Blame it seems, is an endless chain back into the past that no longer exists. Much better to give it up, look at how we are here and now, forgive everyone and everything including outselves, and then we can truly move on. As a therapist, this has always been what my work consisted of.. Helping others to forgive their past. Blaming others has the same effect as blaming the self, and we can end up feeling quite stressed about it, and this in turn can lead to illness. No point in blaming anyone for something that cannot be altered. That's my opinion. _Derek

Hi, jinjer168. It just all depends. If the parent have been abusive in any kind of way to the child, the child can react negatively. And sometimes, it is never this way. The child can be a decent child even though that they may have been through stress around their parents. If the parent is a good parent and does all that they can for their child, then it is not their fault, that their child is doing things that they should not be doing. Especially, if they are a grown up. I feel that parents can't always be the blame for why a child has turned out to be a problem child. It is just in certain cases that a parent can be blamed. If the parents have a negative attitude towards their own child, chances are, this child may attack back in a demanding kind of way.

Not totally, no. I have two sons, both adults now. My oldest (now 29) has grown into an amazing man. He's thoughtful, kind, generous, frugal and always trying to make his life better. My youngest is a huge disappointment. He's ungrateful and irresponsible. At the age of 26 you would think that he'd have something to show for himself, wouldn't you? Nope. Not a thing. Sadly, he is EXACTLY like his father, whom I divorced when my youngest was 2 years old. My ex has shown almost no interest in interacting with any of his children. (He has 6 that I know of, probably more.) Seeing as how my ex was not around while my sons were growing up, I'm amazed to see how very much like his father my youngest son is, right down to several mannerisms. His father has sponged off of other people his entire life and also blamed everyone but himself for his misfortune. My son is behaving in the exact same way. I treated both of my sons exactly the same, yet they turned out so completely different. I raised them both to be good, honest, hard-working people, yet my youngest hasn't followed one example I've set for them both. So, in a genetic sort of way, my ex is responsible for my son being the way he is, yet he was raised to have good values. You just never know how a person will turn out. There are so many different factors that formulate who and what you will be like. Personally, I think the people we choose as friends play a bigger role in our behavior than the way we are raised. But, from knowing my son and how I raised him, genetics can also be a major factor, regardless of upbringing.

who else... just watch the mother of the road rage killer... also, the mother of ivan... and, most of the time, the environment reinforces it... whether it's good or bad... and the basic environment is the home... then the larger is the community...

hi jinjer168 The home is the first place where a child is nurtured and taught good manners and right conduct. If both parents are out one should take charge in nurturing the child. Like you said Ivan Padilla's parents were both in jail how do you suppose Ivan felt about it? There is a saying that "whatever the elders do the children will emulate" see what happened? Yes I believe parents has a lot to do with how the child will grow up.

I definitely agree that parents plays a vital role in raising up their kids and molding them to be a good person. Unfortunately, there are other environmental factors that influence kids while they are growing up. There are new technologies, peers, media, etc. that may also influence a child. Sometimes, parents are too busy working to secure the family's future, but the sad thing is, while doing this, they often forgets that they have children that needs their guidance and security. Even you are the wealthiest person in the world, but you did not play your role as a parent, I believe your child will not feel the love and security of a parent, then there is a possibility that your child might take the wrong path of his life. God created good for all mankind, but it is our duty as parents to unleash this goodness to our children.