Vague Question / Scenario

The situation that is happening now wouldn't cause the person to go to jail, but could kill them, or hurt them. I am kind of nervous about confronting anyone with it, but I know it's the right thing to do. One thing I didn't mention is it could potentially get someone fired or terminated because of it.

I would not call the cops, when you say "legal authorities" It makes me think of that. It's my family, just not my family name (I am quite literal person). There is more then just one person who could be doing better in this situation, so confronting just one person might not work at all. I know I am very vague so no one really knows what I am talking about, I may start a discussion later with the specifics, but until then let's just say it's more complicated, and yet not so complicated as it looks.

Yeah, i can understand who tough it can get sometimes to come up with a decision. I think lets just cut out the legal authorities. You might want to bring in more than one person, get the elders and quite a few people of your family involved to discuss things over. Hope all gets well soon.

Atleast two others then the one that is doing the wrong will need to be invovled as they are involved, but thanks so much for your advice, it's much appreciated.

Well even if I've found out early enough it might not help anything at all. I've got to call the "elder" today sometime, but I'm kind of afraid to at the same time because confronting him, even in a gentle discussion like way is scary!

I called the elder yesterday and talked to them. One thing I wasn't certain about was whether it was true or not, atleast whether it was completely true. I did get the facts, and before I could ask what he was going to do, he told me what he had done, so I am glad atleast now that everything will be better.

I called the "elder" the other day (My grandfather) and talked to him, he said it was true but that he had taken care of it. Basically while it's not been confronted to the person directly (atleast not that I understood or am aware of now) they no longer can do what they were doing, not unless they bribe another person who I am pretty certain wouldn't be bought.

wow killed? No not killed, it was just what was being done was harmful to someone's help. That's been put to a stop though, as I've talked to the "elder" (which literally meant my grandfather)... All is well now, or to my knowledge.

Actually a lot of people know about it I think, and the longer I wait I become no better then any of them. One person could get fired if I in fact could contact the outside organization, though I am not sure that even if I could I would want to. It's all a confusing mess but first I have to make sure it's true as the person who told me about it, though I love and trust, could have imagined things or exaggerated, or the person she got the info from could've been lying or exaggerating. When I do find out if it is true or not I will have to say something to the elder who is in charge of the person who is doing the illegal thing, but well I do not like to be disrespectful and I feel also that even if I were to say something, nothing may be done about it. Either way I know I should try, and if nothing happens then I may have to go straight to the person who is doing the wrong. The person who is doing the wrong thing also has a few diseases that could partially be causing the misjudgement but the fact that people are allowing her to do it anyway, when they could stop it, is wrong. I don't want any of this on my conscious if something were to happen, especially if I knew I could do something about it, if at the very least just make the person think.

Well it's not necessarily the norm, that isn't to say that everyone in the family doesn't respect the elder, we do, but this situation is different because in a sense he is her caregiver. The person to whom it would directly effect would be mad at me I am sure, but I am only looking out for her wellbeing. I know I am being terribly vague about everything. There is also another person who might be mad at me and now that I think about it other people who would be mad at me because I may cause the person to get fired. I suppose if I were to disclose the relations it might help give people a better picture but I hope by saying Elder people figure out to whom I refer.

There has been a lot of things going on in my family too. This most recent thing has happened before I believe, but this time it is a little different because there are things that could be done to stop it from happening but yet nothing is getting done. Then again I am not quite sure if it's even true, but I believe it is. I don't want to have to call and talk to the someone who could control it without it causing a confrontation with the person who is actually doing it, but it seems like I might have to because it's for the benefit of the person who might be doing something wrong. I am also the youngest out of all involved and though I should have a right to say what I wish, I still have to respect the people. I maybe could go a different route and kind of behind everyone's backs but that might not work, and if it does might just make things worse, if not for people being mad at me, but for the end result which might cause the person who is doing wrong to be even less supervised.