Why should we consider others

Hi Ramesh, I crossed many incidents like this. I think this might be your first experience. We cannot change our society int his matter. In my school days, my mother dont allow me to mingle with boys much. She'll fear for our neighbours. They may make stories. I also grown up without mingling with boys. In my co-ed college, i found difficult to speak with boys. I feel very shy. Everyone will tease me and i always cry. I was so sensitive. Slowly i realized mingling with boys is not that much sin. I tried to behave normal. In my Post graduation, i've good friends(boys). At first my mom dont like this. So i avoid to tell her all things like about my friends(Boys). Now am working. Its unavoidable to move with boys in working place. Now i can say i've more friends(boys) than girl friends. My mom too adapted to modern life. Still she always advice me to be careful from the eye of society. I can say if she is considering society more, you dont roam, dont speak lot in public place. But keep in touch. Communicate through mobile, in school or college where you studying, meet and chit chat. After sometime she'll realize that its unnecessary to fear for society. All the best for your bright future!!

hi rameshchow A friendship between a guy and a girl is nothing wrong."We all needs friends. I would assure your girlfriend that just sharing conversations about education and studies does not make her being with you any reason to worry about other people. my gosh, if you were sitting there necking and petting, and all but making out, why sure,others might be concerned, but You are just being friends with each other. When I was in college I had both boys and girls as friends, and the boys were not boyfriends in the sense of being romantically involved at all. Just friends.Assure her that since you are just talking that only people with dirty minds would think anything wrong of her.

Both of you are young Ramesh.I feel there is probably a difference in your upbringing.Moreover, she may be from a conservative family that frowns upon girls being friends with boys.In these days , when there is so much of co-education everywhere there is nothing wrong in being friends. But if the girl is from a family that strictly believes in arranged marriages she is likely to have a conditioned upbringing. She would therefore be wary of gossip among her friends becaue word can get round and spoil her reputation. If it is pure friendship betwen you two, go to her place, get introduced to her parents and carry on yur discussion about your studies. If they are open minded people, then they won't object at all. There is nothing wrong in such friendships. But, if you have started entertaining other ideas about this girl,I would suggest you keep your discussions to the minimum level possible and do not see her unnecessarily.

Hi rameshchow, Why is your friend so afraid of what other people think about yours and her relationship? I think, really is not one elses business. She should not worry and just live her life. Worrying about what others think can make a sitation worse. Is she worried that people would think that your are more than just friends? So what if you were? The world has changed its views. Most of it anyway. If your friend would rather listen to others or think that she can not be around you because people will get the wrong idea about your relationship, then she is not worthy of your friendship. I know that you miss her friendship, but would you want her to be uncomfortable everytime you are seen with her? Losing a friend is very difficult, but that friend has the right to choose whether the friendship is worth fighting for. Your friend has chosen that it is not worth fighting for, if I read your post correctly.

Sweetie, i cannot get why she always think of others. I mean really, what do others have to do with the 2 of you? Maybe you should talk to her about this and tell her how you feel about his. TATA.

Everyone considers how the others feel about themselves, and so do your best friend. She is afraid that the others misunderstood the relationship between she and you probably also because she considers about how the others feel about you. Therefore, in my opionion, she is very considerate to you. She doesn't want the others to have misunderstood you. Why do people conseder how the others feel about themselves? This is because we are living as a whole on Earth and we need to have interactions among ourselves. Hence, it is important that we should be considerate and to consider about how the others feel about different things. You may think that everyone has their own thoughts and it is always different to the others' and thus there is no need to consider how the others think and feel. However, knowing how the others think can help us to improve as he or she might have a different view point and this can help you to think further about the things that you have done or you are going to do, whether it is correct or wrong, whether it is efficient enough, does it need any arrangements to improve the result, etc. Therefore, try to consider how the others think and feel. This can be good to both the others and you, yourself.

I can't imagine why she would worry about others unless she is young and thinking of her reputation. People say bad things about girls and she might be afraid that people will think she is sleeping around. I would just tell her that she knows who she is and you know who she is and what other people think can not be allowed to run her life. They will not be living it and the sooner she starts living it for herself..the better it will be. Good luck.

As for my opinion, why should we really bother about other thought? People like gossip and don't really understand what is really between you two. As long as you two enjoy and like what you two have now, that's it. It will be very exhausted if you going to stop others from talking about both of you. Don't give up your friendship just because of others.

Ok rameshchow, I am sorry to say that she is not a very good friend. A friend cares and loves us unconditionally, they are not obligated by blood and or need, it is by true caring. It is unfortunate that she can not value you as a person as she should not care what others think. Seriously does she only relate to specifically females as friends. Nonetheless, rameschow I can tell you that it is her loss, I know this will not comfort you but you deserve a friend that above all and or anything will value you. I would suggest that if she only wants to be your friend and no one else no about it then this is not a friend for you. Sorry friend that you are feeling this way.

see, ramesh our career is more important than all, while designing our career we have to face like this small small problems, don't think about others, concentrate on your studies, and care to motivate your friend......

friendship is important but life is more important, the society is not your goal, your goal is achieve a good position, so read well.........and respect your friendship only.

every body can misunderstand the relationship between a boy n a girl. you don't care about it.........

you both are good friends, Don't think about others. And read well, all the best........... no tensions.......

I think some basic things need for your friendship. you compromise your friend...If you miss her then u understand this you like her. you must needed consider others opinion. you never confused for this. when you discuss with her like What she want take with you or what you give with her. Then I think its batter for her confidence... best of luck and good friendship...

The society is like, even you also think same as them when you are seen others in your position, so just blindly neglect them. and don't leave your friend........

you have to talk and clarify your doubts with your friend, and care to motivate her............... but don't miss her friendship.............