how would you take "NO" for an answer?
By czanwell_30
@czanwell_30 (717)
Philippines
August 7, 2010 3:08am CST
It really hurts sometimes when you ask something from a friend and she will say "Oh I'm really sorry but..." How would you take it? Sometimes you feel rejected or you pity yourself that you never expected for the other person to say no. In my case I've experienced it and I realize that they really wanted to help it just that... they can't or they have no capabilities to help. But I know when the person really doesn't want to help and I write him/her on my list of friends that I wanted to forget.
5 responses
@Bdaniels123 (14)
• United States
7 Aug 10
If it was something that I needed and can't get it and got told no I'd be pretty mad and sad, but if it's like a toy or a new car or something I'd be mad but I'd get over it
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
If that's some personal favor you are asking it's really so hurting inside if you can't get any help. Anyway, if one door closes, it doesn't mean that no more doors will be opened. It just happens sometimes. :-)
@ReViewMeMedia (3785)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I wouldn't feel too bad if someone told me "No." People have their own lives and all. So people can't say "Yes" to everything.
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
Yes, I will take that. Sometimes I think that, too and I'm trying to put myself in their own shoes so I can understand. But if that person is someone I know that much and I know that he/she's just making lots of excuses then that is the time I really feel hurt.
@dreamkeeper (455)
• United States
15 Aug 10
That is lif efor you, you cannot have almost everything in life. Life is not fair but life is beautiful. For me if someone will say No to me in any situation at first it is kinda hard to accept but i will just give a thought about it and weigh things out. I will try to be logical and then after that i can take No for an answer. Everything has a reason and a season
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
3 Sep 10
hey there czanwell_30 :)
i try not to make it such a big issue. whether the person really can't or simply doesn't want to help, if he says No, then No it is.
i am one who believes in karma, and when the time comes that he needs help, he should be expecting a similar answer that he gave.
i believe it's not for us to judge people. though i know it's hard not to. but as much as possible, i try to accept them for who they are and what i can learn from them.
ummm... hope this helps!
@mrs_bones (34)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Whenever you are asking for something always be prepared that the answer may be a yes or a no. Never expect rather just be thankful for whatever honest answer they will give you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and just accept whatever response they give you because there is always a good explanation behind it.
