Can you fall in love online?
By bcote212
@bcote212 (1112)
United States
August 7, 2010 4:09am CST
My friend recently told me that he thinks that he is falling for someone. I was happy for him when he told me this. After talking a while he told me that the other person is in New York City, we are located in Baltimore MD, a couple of hours away. I was very supportive and told him that he should follow his heart. When i got home I started wondering. is it really possible to fall in love with someone you have never actually seen in person? Someone you have never touched? What do you guys think?
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@celeste2224 (160)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
I have been using the internet for a while now and I say that yes you can fall in love online, but not my own experience,it was my friend's actually, she told me that she fell with someone whom she didn't even met yet.I told her that it could be possible. The heart knows no boundaries as they say, only the lovers put boundaries on it.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I don't think I could. It would be hard for me to trust someone enough to fall in love, when over the internet they could be anyone. How can you verify anything they say, if they are in another state? How do you know they are who they say they are? Or even who you think they are? Sometimes your mind can make another person into who you want them to be, because since you don't really know them in person, your own mind fills in the missing parts on its own.
I knew a guy and gal, who met online, and they thought they had a major thing going on. Talked about getting together, and having something long term. Well, he lived in Alabama, and she lived in Canada.
He spent money on phone time, and bought the long distance Skype plan, and sent gifts and stuff. Finally, after about a year, he bought a plane ticket to Canada. When he got there, he discovered she really wasn't what he thought she was. They broke up a week or two after he came back from Canada. Tons of money, and end less hours on the phone, and an expensive 'vacation' in Canada, all to find out he wasn't interested, and she wasn't the girl for him.
In this case, she didn't intentionally mislead him, but many girls do (and guys), and results are worse.
So, if I did meet someone online... it would take a LONG LONG time for me to get to the point I thought about a long-term relationship. It would be a year before the first date, and likely a year before anything serious.
@efendi62 (37)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 10
Yes, we can, why not. As long as your communication with the girl touch your deepest hearth and you are happy with the girl then it can be. TQ
@jamuhuri (17)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
i think this could be possible.. coz some people can easy be inlove.. i knew some couples..and they started only here in this cyber world.. we are in the advance technology.. maybe 10 years from now.. you can easily touch someones skin using this..hehehe...gudluck to your friend..
@nicolecheezy (177)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
it depends on what the person wants and likes.me personally i dont date people online.i prefer choosing a partner in person not met in the net.there are some people who are looking for love in the net and i respect that.if they are happy with that then im happy.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
8 Aug 10
I think that people can fall in love online, but there is one problem, who are you falling in love with?
Online, people can make up things about themselves, or they can use different photos. They can play pretend. You really do wonder who you are falling in love with.
Another thing is pheromones. When you are face to face with the person that you are in love with, you have what is called a "pheromone attraction". When you are online, you don't have that attraction, and that attraction is what has kept humanity alive for several thousands of years. When you fall in love with a person, you fall for their personality, their physical appearance, and their pheromones.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
8 Aug 10
I suppose it's possible but it isn't probable. From my past trying to date online experiences and writing emails back & forth, I really don't think a person can fall in love this way. They might think they are in love but since they haven't met the person in person they really don't know all they need to know about the person. The only way you can really love (or fall in love) with someone is to spend quality time with them in person. Falling in love online; I'd have to say no. Don't be fooled!
@preppy (28)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Aug 10
i think so, sometimes this things happened its up to the people who are involved in this kind of relationship on how they can work things out... i have lot of friends who has the same situation but they are both happy... its like our faith in God we believe and love him even though we cannot touch nor see him..
@lindsiko (355)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Yes, I think it is possible to fall in love with someone you've never met in person. It might not be healthy because you could be filling in all the missing details of the other person just to fit your liking. I would say it is definitely possible to connect with someone on an intellectual basis only... you just have to be careful that the rest of the details aren't just fantasy.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
probably, but it would not be like when you know each other personally, meeting and seeing each other... sometimes, the power of words is as unpredictable as it is infinite... and that's the medium that puts the heat and delivers the message online...
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
8 Aug 10
Yes, it is possible. You can create an image of the person in your mind and find in love with that image. Later when you see that real person and find that he or she has no resemblance to that image you are left disillusioned.
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
8 Aug 10
Yes you can.
I for one fall in love online about twice a day. LOL
But then again I'm preconditioned to fall in love.
Those 4 women who came to live with me for awhile are proof that my love is real.
The last one is now living with me for over 4 years.
@parrot2010 (812)
•
9 Aug 10
I think that your friend is in love with the person he THINKS he thinks he is in love with. He may think differently of this person after having met up with them. Usually people can be different to what they seem like online even if they have seen each other through webcamming but I still wish your friend the best of luck and hopefully he will not be dissapointed in this person after they have met up, as that can be devastating to think you have found someone but then realise they are not really meant for each other. Hope this helps.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
I think it's really possible to fall inlove online. Have known a friend a fell inlove with her online friend. They were exchanging messages for 3 years but they just can't meet because the guy's from US, as what he had said and they were only students that time. Only that, the guy suddenly disappeared. We don't know what happened, I think he's a poser.. But my friend can't move on. It has been 2 years since he disappeared but my friend is still hoping that he'll be back for good and he has a good reason of his sudden loss. be blessed! :)
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I think it is absolutely possible. I met my husband in a chat room 6 years ago, we have been married for 5 years and we have 3 beautiful kids together. I lived in New York and he was from Florida. It can work, absolutely! We didn't even have a way to send pics of ourselves to each other so we fell in love through our personalities alone.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
7 Aug 10
A friend of my dad's found her husband while playing an online video game World of Warcraft...go figure...
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
8 Aug 10
I know that it is possible to fall in love through the internet because a friend of mine met her husband through yahoo chat. They have been married eight years and have four beautiful children together. I also chatted with my husband some online even though we worked together. We became closer through our nightly chats and our friendship blossomed naturally. As my mom always said if it was meant to be it will happen and hers was a long distance relationship. She lived in Maryland and dad lived in Ohio.
@mzgorgeous (85)
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
Yes it's possible I fall in love too in my chat mate :) i think that was 3 years ago but sadly it didn't last but w have good time together although we are far apart but we meet twice i am in the Philippines and his in Canada:)