what do you think of being a hands-on mom?

Hi genevy04, I think you have the right idea about how our children should be raised. You have chosen to give up your career to be a hands-on mom, I commend you on your choice. However, many women, who are still good mother, try to joggle both, career and mothering. Not being a stay-at-home mom does'n mean that you are a bad parent, but so much of a child's personal growth is missed when a mother is working and the child starts to walking at the daycare, or his first words are spoken. If a parent chooses not to be a hands-on mom(24/7)she needs to make sure that the child is in a quality daycare center or home. The parent should not have to wonder, all day, if here child is being properly cared for. Some parents, like yourself, genevy04, don't care if the daycare is a quality one or not, they choose to stay home and raise their own child. They are not willing to miss out on the precious moments that can only be seen once. Seeing your child grow up healthy, strong, and confident is important to you. So, career is not your top priority, but raising your child is. You can always resume your career when your child is older, maybe in school, or you can do a little work related to your degree at home, but your education and career is not wasted, they are just on hold for a moment. Children grow up very fast.

as of now i'm a hands-on mom to my 8 mos. old son..but since i'm only 18 yrs. old i have to go back to school this november to continue my studies..i know i will miss him a lot when this time comes..but i must also bare in my mind that if i won't continue my degree, then what life will i be able to give my son if i don't have a job and enough salary to feed and raise him in the future? so i've decided that i'll continue mu studies. i'll just put in my mind that i'm doing this for my son's future.

I have been a "hands-on" mom for 6 years now. My oldest son is 6 and my youngest is 4 and will be starting school this year. At first, I was resistant to the idea of beign at home, but now I would not change it for anything. I have the best of both worlds. I work from home for Alpine Access. My hours are 10a-12p and 10p-1a which gives me the full day to be with the kids and to do my housework. I still get the satisfaction of contributing to the household, even though my husband works full time and I get to watch the kids grow. When the oldest started school I participated in PTA and other activites at the school, which gives me something to do outside the house. I also I have my own small design business. Being a SAHM, has been one of the hardest and most rewarding jobs I have ever had and I would not change it for the world.

Hi Genevy, It is priceless to watch our own kids grow, and the process is only once in a year. Whereby our work and career can be bulit at any time. I am happy to hear from you that you have done such a great sacrify to your kids. No need to worry too much, just enjoy every moment with the kids. You will be amazing about the motherhood.

I had always planned on going back to work, then I had a preemie and my job delcared bankrupty while I was on martinity leave. I now do home daycare as my income is need. I get to stay home and I still work. I am so very glad that I have been home with her this whole time and she loves having the other kids around. I don't know what I will do when she goes to school. I have been strugling with that for a while. I still have 2 years to figure it out. I have to work but it will be a question of where, at home or out of the home. I will always be greatful for all these years at home and not missing any of her firsts. I can't imagine leaving her with someone else. I dread her going to school but I know that she must. So I love being a hands on mom and wouldn't change it for the world.

its good to be a hands on mom in the first few years of theri childrens life. but they need to have their own careers when children are big enough. moms who are left at home doing househld chores alone are stuck on that part of life and nothing happens for them. Its good if you are young, but what if they grow old??? ud think that u never did anything for yourself.. youll feel sad :(

I think that it is wonderful to be a stay-at-home mom if you can. I am a single mom, so I don't have a husband that can go to work and pay all of the bills. But having said that, I am not sure that I would quit my job even if I could. I like going to work and school. My kids need a break from me, and to be honest, I need a break from them. I did put off college for a number of years, and now am finally getting my chance. I guess I think that each mom's choice is a good one as long as it is the right one for her family and herself. We may have children, but we can't forget to put ourselves high on te list also.

Hi, I am in the same position like you. After getting married and have a kid, I gave up my job and stay at home taking care of my son. I just don't feel comfortable to let others to takecare of him.worry on how other people may treat him. So after full consideration, I decided to give up my job and back to full-time housewife life. It is not an easy job and can be more stressful than work outside,especially coping with active and demanding boy. SOme times, I was thinking am I making the right choice by staying at home with my boy rather than go out to work which earn me an income. However, there is no point to regret and the best part is that I got to see my son's growth everyday and it is a wonderful moments to spend more time with him all the time. I am blessful to have such a cute boy with me,he can be playful and naughty sometimes,but when he gets cute and with those cute action,it makes my day lighten up and his smiles definitely melt my heart.

I think it's great to be a hands-on mom! I admire friends who really take care their kids by themselves. It is better that you take attention of the growth, physically, mentally, socially, and emotionally. In that way, you will help your child grow to be a better person. You will also discover her talents and skills. I'm single, but I use to see my sister-in-law being hands-on mom to her kids. I see them grow healthy and adorable.

I am a full time mom and I feel the same too. I even started working about two months back, but found my daughter missing me too much and since my husband too works long hours, it was very difficult for me to continue with it. But now, I feel that my family is my first priority and my daughter needs me more. Well, to gain some we have to loose some, right?

I am a working mom for a year and I encounter such hardships in managing my time between family and work.. I am glad for you that you have given up your career for your daughter and that you could see her grow. You have made a good decision... I wish I could give up my job too.