I feel like a bad person...

I know exactly what your dealing with. Me and my husband received a black lab puppy in June for our anniversary from my parents. Our puppy is so adorable and we fell in love as soon as she turned those lovely eyes at us. But she chews everything even though we bought her chew toys and things. She chews on them for awhile but ends up going back to our stuff. After my nephew came over and played with her a little roughly which I stopped when I noticed. Well, now she not only chews but wants to bite everyone and grab at their clothes if they move she has ripped some of our clothes doing that. My husband has been telling me a few weeks now that she has to go and she is now tied up outside since she when we had her on the porch she got into everything and when she got off the porch she would go to the neighbors and chew their shoes and stuff outside. It is hard. I am trying to hang on to her as long as I can but my husband is constantly saying she has to go. I feel she is apart of our little family. He loved her till she chewed his stuff..and started the biting. I do hope you will be able to find her a special home that will treat her like the special animal she is.

It is not wrong to give him up but a shame you didn't think it through before getting him all the best urban

Hi lilangelspreschool, NO...you are not a bad person at all. Puppies are as much time and work as kids are and sometimes more. Where you already have little kids then I can see where it could be overwhelming. I think it is a kinder decision to find a good home for the dog than to keep him when you don't have the time or anything to properly train him. Labs are beautiful dogs and I'm sure you won't have a problem finding an owner.

I guess it all depends on how much you love the dog. If you really wanted to keep him, you could try many different things. But that said, there are some animals that just don't work out, too. It is a personal choice. To have a dog, a big breed like that, you have to be willing and able to walk them or have a big fenced yard to give them tons of exercise. Keeping them inside all the time makes so they have lots of pent up engery to expell and they have to do it somehow. Plus, puppies (considered a pup up to 18 mos) have new teeth coming in so they are 'teething' and NEED something to chew on as their baby teeth are lost and their adult teeth come in. You can provide many suitable things for them to chew on. Rawhide bones, pig ears, wood sticks, etc. Garbage..that is a very bad habit and some people must keep their garbage outside or in a room that the dog just cannot get into for that reason. It is a very difficult habit to break once established. Really and truly, dogs are easiest to train as puppies, so now is the best time to nip those bad habits in the bud, or else the dog may have these habits ingrained in him for all time. Routines, regular routines, are one of the best training tools for dogs. They get to know routines and count on them staying the same. If they know they will get to go outside, they will get excited in anticipating it, because they love to have space to run and romp and play. And they need it, too. But, you need to be dedicated to keeping the dog as part of the family to go to some of the lengths that are needed to keep you and him both happy together. It is your choice, ultimately, and maybe a big breed dog just wasn't what you were prepared for. A person should research what is required for the type of dog they are considering getting first, to decide if they are willing and able to do what is necessary and put up with some things that simply won't change.

I will try to be nice. Being nice might not help your dog. The trainer you r paying. What is she doing. Jumping up on people can be shown not to do in a short time. 1 st by the the trainer then the trainer has to show u how to manage your pet. Leash, jumping up come , sit alll your basic. Nothing happens over night. Persistance and will p[ower, taining is important for all pets. Training starts when you bring the pet in your house, then like kids, never stops. How do u think all these dogs on T v etc. learn. Believe me not by showing just once. I train dogs Professionally for obediance and guard for households and companies.. If u don't show the dog who is the boos and NOT BY BEING MEAN OR BEATING IT, the pet will show u that it is the boss...

You are certainly not a bad person to give him up if you can't handle him!! It is better that the dog gets a home where someone can handle him. But these dogs need exercise, and lots of it! And not just play time inside the house. The dog needs to be walked at least 30 minutes twice a day. This is fulfilling your dog's needs. The dog needs to be challenged, physically and behaviorally. He cannot be allowed to dominate and must learn that you are the pack leader. Dogs are, after all, pack animals and they understand the role that the alpha plays. Yes, crating a dog for long periods is sure to make things worse, because the dog has no outlet for his energies. That's why they need plenty of structured physical exercise. Many people use the treadmills they have for their pets. It just takes a little persistence to get the dog used to walking/running on the treadmill, and many dogs end up loving to do the treadmill. But, like I said, if you can't provide the best environment for your dog, the environment that your dog needs, the exercise he needs, etc., then it is indeed best that you give up the dog to someone who can better care for him. So, you are not a bad person at all! It is much more commendable and brave that you are simply doing the best thing for your dog. :-)

Giving him up to good home is not bad. Banishing him to the outdoors or neglecting and abusing him would be bad. It is hard to have an animal and keep a house as well.

no, your not a bad person. bad people neglect their animals by leaving them in very cruel conditions such as leaving from home and not returning for months,not feeding them,or violence. people certainly can't let animals tear their house apart. i also had a golden lab that did the same thing except he wasn't a puppy when we first got him. we decided to have him as an outside dog. a few times i would try to let my golden lab stay in for the night but like yours he was into everything dragging things out as well as chewing on things. i still even have a coffee table where he had chewed the side off of it even though he passed away back in 1996. anyway after those few tries I knew I could not have him staying in the whole night. he was a very good dog otherwise and was very friendly. i had a good time as a kid playing with him in the backyard. he was a very big dog and probably weight around 100lbs. he would run up the hill and then run back down and jump on me and of course I would fall to the ground as he played and licked my face. yeah he was rough but i enjoyed it.

I know all about puppies chewing everything in sight. I have a 14 month old dog that still chews things. They do eventually grow out of it and you can teach them not to do it by telling them no when you see them doing it. You can train the dog yourself. He will want to please you so you tell him no and then give him something he is allowed to chew. When they are teething they chew most of all. I do not have a lot of money so I made toys of old sheets. I tore the sheet into strips and plaited it into a sort of home made rope bone. She had lots of fun with it and I would just clean up the mess later. She hardly chews anything now except her own bedding and twigs she brings in from outside. If you want a dog you have to learn to train them not to chew your stuff. You don't need a trainer just yourself. It takes time. While you are training him you keep all your stuff out of reach and restrict him to areas that are ok. With the garbage you need to store that in a place he cannot get to. We use plastic bins with bin liners and our dogs never get into it. With the kids toys you need to train him not to chew them by saying no adn giving him his own toy or keeping them off the floor. The same is true of jumping on people. You just need to tell him no and let him no how angry you are at this behaviour. Dogs do not like disaproval.

hi lilangelspreschool no you sure are not a bad person. we once had a puppy who was so destructive and so over keyed he destroyed everything in our living room with just the swipe of his tail. we finally could not take it anymore and gave him to a family who was family with black labs and their ways and also lived on a farm so he had more places to run.He chewed everything and nothing was safe from him. We later got an older mixed breed dog whom we loved dearly and finally a pure bred doxie who was drowned b y some teen aged boys who wanted to see if it could swim. the parents did pay me the cost of the dog but that did not stop the hurt, I loved that little guy so much. I never had another dog after that, too much hurt tooo much pain.

I can easily relate to your situation, and I don't think that you are a bad person at all. Almost one year ago my husband and I got a golden retriever puppy, we love him, but he is hyper and he has damaged many, many things. We have talked a lot about giving him up, because we figured that it would be better for him to live on a farm or at a bigger place than our house, and because he was too much for us to handle. Eventually we decided to keep him and the situation has improved a little, he still pretty wild, but it is getting better. It came as a big surprice for me that he was so hyper and difficult to handle, because I have had other golden retrievers who were completety different and I somehow expected that he would be like the others, but that isn't the case at all. I don't think that you have a reason feel guilty, when he is too much for you, the best thing you can do is to find a great home for him. I know how hard it is to make that decision, but sometimes it is nessesary to make a decision like that.

When I started reading your story I thought you were going to tell us you had abandoned your dog - I got to tell you I was mad at you already. But this is a completely different situation, dogs have personalities too. My dog is very quite, she doesn't chew, she doesn't bite, she's not euphoric and is really easy to take care of. Some dogs, like yours need a lot of attention, and sometimes we just can't give them that. You're doing the right thing. If he's such an handful it's because he's not that happy in your home either, he needs more space or attention; hopefully his new family will be able to provide that for him and you'll all be much happier.

Hello, Dog is like a child. When u bring a puppy home, the feeling should always be that I have brought another baby home. Your puppy is too young. He will chew everything he likes till he is minimum of 1 year old. Then slowly he will leave all these habits behind. My dog is now three and a half years old. Earlier, whenever I changed bedsheets, he had to chew them. He made holes in every blanket. Even the expensive ones. But now, he is so calm that sometimes I wish he was naughty again. He sleeps through out the day. It is only in the evening that he is fully awake and plays for around half an hour. So, my advice to u is to drop the idea of sending him away, keep patience for few more months and u will hv a lovable companion. More considerate and more affectionate than yr own children. I am sorry but it is a fact. Our children are busy in their own world, but the dog lives for us only.

Don't feel so bad. Getting a dog is like having another baby. If you're not ready to take care of one, then finding someone who is ready to take care of it, is the kindest solution. My daughter recently got a three month old shih tzu as a gift. She really tries to take care of it well but I still get my share of the job when she's at school. Fortunately, I am a housemama. Lately, it's been trying to chew on our slippers so we are right now trying to train casper (that's his name) on our own. But it really takes time and effort to do that.

Hi lilangelspreschool You are not a bad Person I have been with Dogs all my Life I love Dogs and I have always had a Dog, mine have been rescue Dogs and all turned out the most loving Dogs you could have Dogs that are rescue and Puppies need a lot of attention and caring, also training, it is hard work, you have Children so a Puppy is not easy to cope with, the little Fellow is only 6 months old, he is still going through teething stage, also through the stage how much can I get away with, they are like children I am glad that you have realized it is to much specially with little Children about to, you are finding him a good Home and I hope that you will find a very good one, but no you are not a bad Person, you are doing the right thing Till you do try this Chewing...............when he chews show him the item, tap him on the Nose, then put a Mussel on him for about 10 minutes tell he was naughty, also try getting him a Chew Bone it might stop him getting the Toys Jumping up............... they do this because they are happy, you need to put him back down and tell him no in a stern voice Garbage................make sure he can't get to it when he tries again tell him no Always look at him direct when you are rectifying him I hope this helps a bit till you manage to find a good Home for him

My new puppy was about 9 months old when I got her and she was into chewing things. She too had had no training.I gave her lots of toys to play with but she would still chew the old piece of carpet at the front door.I moved her out the back with my other dog and the goats and she is much busier out there. She follows Lucy everywhere and now she sleeps when Lucy does. I brought her back the other day because she was full of burrs and prickles after just a couple of hours outside so I again put her out the front and she no longer chews the carpet. Puppies are like children, you have to train them and discipline them and give them lots of attention. For the first 2 years pups need a LOT of interaction with the family. Some very active dogs continue to need lots of attention and activity, if they are left alone, they become bored, just like humans do. Dogs are a pack animal, meaning they belong to a group of dogs and when they go to a family of humans the humans become the pack. Have you done the right thing? Absolutely. This doggy needs lots of room, another dog and an active family who have a lot of time for him.

All dogs need training. If he chews shoes or the kids stuff it's not his fault. It's the humans fault for not picking everything up. All dogs need a walk every day. Even if you have a yard, the dog still needs to walk. You need to spend countless hours training a dog. It's a lot of work. It takes a lot of time.

No, you are not a bad person. Remember you are doing the right thing for the dog as well as yourself. On a personal level, I too have labs. They are hyper and enjoy rough housing. I had one, I named her Newbie and had I been smarter I'd have had her trained but instead she got run over and killed. I now have another one against my own rules for labs as they are too much dog........ Labs are hunting dogs. They need to run and also need much discipline. I have kept this one cuz some idiot dumped her but I've had to be really rough with her. I've disciplined her and cried. But, it's paid off. I've not beat her but had to spat her and use loud prompts to make her quit jumping on people, me and even destroying things. Give the dog to someone who knows labs and remember they are just too hyper for a normal person. The dog's rights are as important as yours are. Take care and get a more domestic type of dog. The lab will be a much happier dog in the care of someone who knows labs.

I donot think you are a bad person . I suggest that you should train him firstly , making him correct his bad behaviors . If he still can not fellow you . Then you could give him to your good friend who love animals , so he will take care of your puppy . Good luck .

Labs need lots of attention. My friend got one for her mother in law, and since she was elderly she wasnt able to train the dog properly.She had to give him up. Labs when trained are one of the best family dogs, and are exceptional with kids. Like with any puppy, they need lots of attention just like a child does. They go through their phases. If you have a nice sized yard for the dog to run it, that might help...have someone through a ball or a stick and get some running time in.I have a Pom puppy and I keep teething bones on hand for her, Nylabones found at Pet Smart, she loves them, and it deters her from chewing on our shoes..... Labs love to play but need lots of room. I hope you find a very good, and loving home for him. I wouldn't think you'd have any problems.