what would you do if you have a easy-unhappy partner?
By hbsztsyx
@hbsztsyx (85)
China
August 7, 2010 8:30pm CST
Hi,mylotors:
what I mean is if you have a partner who gets unhappy easy because he/she always thinks too much,emotional sensitive,which probably roots from the stress of life, what would you do to confort him/her?
4 responses
@dptstretch (120)
• United States
8 Aug 10
hi Jazeera :)
Remind him that partner means that you are both in it together and that selfishness is not an option. Probably can't word it that way...but you two have to be on the same page so that you can both move forward together. Maybe you start by asking nicely, then move on to "this is what I need", and then maybe you have to decide what the consequences are...I don't know...hope that helps :)
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
8 Aug 10
WELL theres always a reason...maybe theres something wrong on her [artner or on the relationship that she cannot tell...or she already told why...but still everything seems to be the same... in that way you have to find out why shes acting like that,,,coz if you will not do anything then both of you will continue have that STRESS
@roxxtime (299)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Sadly I am her. Just be reassuring it's probably more insecurity than anything else. I seem to over think my relationship also and I let my own insecurities make up issues that aren't real, but can easily be calmed with some reassurance and attention. I think my problem is he is comfortable in our relationship so doesn't try as hard anymore, and I have personal insecurities that make it hard for me to be comfortable even though I know I should. My advice is just be patient if you love this person go a little out of your way to show them. I'm sure you probably do this already but trust me a little extra helps a lot.
@dptstretch (120)
• United States
8 Aug 10
This, to me, sounds like insecurity...has less to do with the stress of life than it does about a low self esteem. You can be reassuring and supportive to some degree. My thinking is that if your partner fell in love too quickly, there's probably no cure for that. Either your reassurance and support will be enough to bring a level of comfort to the relationship...or...you can continue with the complaining until the whole thing unravels and you go your separate ways.
