Do you easily forgive and forget?

I can understand about what you feel. It is becoz,you been through pain,sufferings and hardships not to mention the humiliation while being pregnant and unwed. And now your boyfriends parents came to see their grandchild as if nothing happens. It is their obligation to give support to your daughter (good for them) Regarding your feelings (pain) it is normal to have been there and stays till this time. But you have to let go of your pains,it is not good to lived with hatred in our hearts. Just try to see the good sides of your experience. Consider your bf's parents acts as their way of saying "sorry about the past" I am sure you can overcome all those pains,looking at your small angel with innocent smiles

Oh dear, Sad to hear what has happened to you and what you have gone through. I pity that guy to have left you and your daughter in such a way. But thats all. Life goes on.... You are aware of this by now. See nothing will change and it will be you and your daughter who will have to live and stay together. You have already been so nice not to get the pregnancy aborted, not to leave you newborn at an orphanage and things like those. I am happy that you have stood by your tests and Lord above is watching you. May you have the courage to face the world and continue to live on... Now for the last part of the question - Some people are that way. I would say that what has happened has happened for the good. Think what would have happened if you two were together for some years, and then he would have left you all alone! That definitely would have been more painful. At this age, you can always start your life and I am sure you would. Take care.

Whatever happened with you is really sad. You were cheated in a sense and this could be one of your worst experiences of your life. I know it will take time to recover. Keep you faith alive, the God is great, all I can say.

I am sorry to hear that, somehow in due time they will realize what they are ignoring. Its a kid and even if they are supporting your daughter its still not enough.

Child bearing is a major event in life for most of us. I remember i was in shock when my daughter told me she was pregnant. Although she was married and happily living with her husband, the reality of her giving birth bought out hidden issues in me that would have perhaps influenced my decisions. You will find in the distant future that as a parent you will try to support your child in his/her life's experiences and if one's son denies it, one would probably lean towards his side since he is one's son. But as time passes and the truth comes out, then one tends to change one's perceptions. It seems that your child's fathar's family have realized their error and want to be a part of the child's life. Children deserve the benefit of having all that love them become part of their lives. It would be sad if the child misses a lifetime of not bonding with the child's extended because of hard feelings concerning personal life's experiences. Didn't that kiss on the forehead go a little way into her expressing that she was wrong? Shouldn't you give her an opportunity to present her point of view. You will probably see that she was just being a mother like you are. Forgiving her will probably go a long way towards healing the pain inside. And when you experience the love she will pour onto your child and the happiness she will give your child, you will see that it was worth it.

..did the family of your ex-boyfriend care to explain and ask for forgiveness? I can understand it is not that easy to forgive and to forget. But if I may ask, do you still love the father of your daughter? Whatever you answer maybe it would still be good to forgive and forget. But it is easily said than done.

i always forgive as i do not hang on to disappointments and grudges but i never ever forget....ever.

Hi, Sad to hear about your incident.Stay positively and carry on with your life. Since your daughter is under their care,at least your burden is not that much,but do try to spend more time with your daughter.Do visit her frequently,no matter what she is your daughter. What ever have happened is the past ,just look forward and forget all the past. I know talking is easy,but when come to action,it may be hard. But you have to be open-minded and can't always live in this suffering life. Get out from it and start your new life.

I usually get into a big fight, with my brother or friends, sometimes they would do something stupid to annoy me, sometimes it gets to me and i become really angry but then i just easily forget it and forgive them, easy as that.

yes i do always forgive and forget easily, sometimes i only sleep and then when i wake up, my bad feelings are gone already. i dunno, but i have this kind of personality.

i would like to easily forgive and forget as if we will not forgive then it will make us under stress which is itself harmful. So it is easy to forgive and forget

With me, forgive and for get is quite easily. But something is unforgetable. In this situation, I think I cannot forgive nor forget what they have done. But if you can, forgive them, as Jesus says :)

Live, let go and let time heal you. Maybe your ex boyfriend wasn't ready for anything serious that's why he denied your pregnancy. But extending financial and domestic support means his family acknowledged your daughter. I hope in time your ex boyfriend will have the courage to take responsibility.

I have a big issue with forgiving and forgetting...

I believe that your bf will mature in time and accept the fact of his child. If he dosen't then so be it. The grandparents are in the child's life ans I believe that you should allow them because there will be a time when your daughter will want to know about her father and her grandparents, so I say allow them time but supervise the time so you are sure of their intentions towards you and your child. You don't want to find that they are only helping to later file for custody and leave you with nothing. Pray that they are good and God fearing and want the best for you and their grandchild. Keep your thoughts and actions as positive as possible.

I think I have seen this topic a lot in Mylot. It may be because I have been working with Mylot for around two years. It is easy for me to forgive people especially if I am close to the people. But, it is very difficult for me to forgive people. I can forgive small things, but the things that hurt me so badly are not be forgiven after many years.

I have always tried to be a compassionate person. Forgiveness has always been something I tried to give without too much hesitation. Sometimes pride would make it more difficult, but forgiveness would come from my heart soon enough. Forgetting is another story. I may be able to forgive the deed, but forgetting is something not something that would come easily.

Yes actually I do easily forgive and forget I'm just that kind of person. I could never hold grudges against someone because then I would be upset with myself. It would be horrible for me to do something like that. That's why I always just forgive people easily and people do tell me that I'm to forgiving, but that's how I feel.

Sorry to hear about what you went through. It must have been difficult. Personally, I've been through some tough situations in my personal life. I was betrayed by the person I loved. It took me sometime before I was able to say I'm okay. I did not forgive and forget easily. It was a process for me. The betrayal I felt was too much that I could not just say okay I forgive you. Today, I can say I forgave him already but I have not forgotten. I don't think a person can forget.

Uhh..I can almost feel your pain. Having been denied and being talked about is really a traumatic experience. The hell w/ your boyfriend. He is completely insane. I hope you can get over your pain. Just pray, it works.