Who loves the other more, you or your partner?

i think that both should love each other much. im sick that i always care more than the guy. why guys say i love you and then almost dont care? im so sick of those situations :( anyway about the guy loves more i dont think is fair to him thats why i say both should love the same but much. not one caring more than the other. i always feel bad with these situations. i really hate when a guy that says he loves me acts so careless.

it make sure that the guy should love the girl more,but in the girl's heart,the guy is the only one,although there are so many guys around her.

my partner loves me more. I've never said that i love him. Everyday he says to me that he loves me. i also think that the guy should love the girl more because that's a rare thing. Usually, the guy is the one who jokes around and leaves the girl. If the guy loves the girl, he will do his best to take care of the girl, he will be responsible, he will work hard and he will keep the girl safe, also respecting the girl's decisions/ point of view and he would take the girl as his equal.

It is definitely my husband. Even though I do not agree in front of him, that is the fact. I can stay without talking for a day or two..he cant for more than a few hours...I was once in love with a guy..that time this thing was just the reverse..may be I had a bad time breaking up and bad experience led to these...I now take a lot of time to like somebody...leave alone love...

Hmmmm.. for me it should me mutual. both should love each other the same intensity. that when i can say i will be happy. Both should be crazy with each other, both should think they need each other.

Hello kafueenu, I think in a relationship it goes back and forth. Sometimes the guys loves you more because maybe he good day at work or he fun with you the other day on nice walk and you remember something about him while you talked previously or remember to make his favorite dinner... the little things do matter. Then sometimes you like him more for the same reasons. It maybe you like him more 1 day and he may like you more 3 days and then if flips again. Another example is you are having a bad week or day or month and he is really there for you doing his best to show he cares and you fall in love all over again visa versa or you find out you something more in common etc... so many varaibles why this happens. Good luck on your relationship. Sincerely Unique16

I agree. The guy has to love the girl more. I was in a relationship before where the guy loves me more than I love him. I believe that girls are more emotional and that they are easier to be pleased. A girl's heart is easier to be developed than a guy's heart. When we see good things, pamper us, show us your affection, those are primary factors that our heart melts easily. In turn, guys are hardly pleased. There are times that they take girls for granted which girls desire. Girls can naturally love a man unconditionally because we have the heart of a "mother". Therefore, find a guy who loves you more than you love him because by and by that love will be balanced.

I actually don't know if one of us loves the other more. I think the love is divided pretty much fifty-fifty between us, which is good, because neither of us gets the feeling that the other one loves him/her less. Why should the guy love the girl more? I don't understand, but perhaps you have a good reason for saying that. Can you explain it to me? :)

well..THats sure a tough one to answer.. Love is a 'powerfully wonderful addiction'...its grows and grows .. to a limitless boundaries.. u just cant know wat next to occur.. .. . . love is a competteion whrere to people fight fight to come close. . and its not the guys weawy that girls expect more but in the opposite case.... guys will ultimately loose intrest on her.. if she doesnt loves him . so u cant compare the love-boundaries for both. . its goes on to infinity :)

Hi kafueenu, Why do we have to put a measurement on love. We all love with different intensity. So, what would one do if their partner loves them, but not as intense or as passionate as they would like? Will they be willing to give them up and look for another that has just the right amount of intensity or passion that they desire? I don't think so. When we fall in love with another person, we must accept them for who they are and not try to change that person into someone we want them to be. If they love us and show us affection and respect, we should be happy to have a partner like that. How are you measuring the intensity of this love? Has he stop doing certain things that he used to do for you? He doesn't look at you or touch you the same way? What have you noticed that is different about him? What have you done that has increased your love for him that you didn't do in the beginning? If you love your partner more, that is not a bad thing, just don't let it become an obsession that will scare him away. Girls, in my opinion, can sometimes get too clingy and they call it "loving you more."

Hi Kafueenu Let me tell you one secret of love - "It is something that can never be measured". So it is a wrong concept that who loves more. I and my loving wife do sometimes have this discussion between us too. But the fact is that they dont have any measuring units here. Ebery one has his /her own way of showing the love for the other person. And it is all about understanding. At anytime this understanding fails, you start yelling to your partner - "you dont love me any more".

it does not matter as to who loves more, as long as we have trust and love i know the relationship will last long, every couple should have that two factor, if one of them is not applied then i know the relationship will not last long

We're the same. At the start of my relationship, he loved me more because he loved me first. I eventually fell in love with him when he became my boyfriend. But now I guess we're equal in how much we love each other. I think it's best if the love is equal. A relationship is a give and take situation. If it's not equal, someone could start feeling bad. What's important is that we express our love for our partner so that they will never feel that we love them less than they love us.

The same with me...in the begining i used to tell her...i love you more than you, she used to tell no. We love equally. But now she tells me on the face i dont love you.