How do you tell a friend that he or she is a bad dresser?

What I did with my friend who dressed up like a wannabe scene. I'm not sure if you know what that is, so just in case it's like an emo who is more bright and happier, and an emo is someone who is like goth but in a different way. I told my friend that it didn't really match her personality and it wasn't looking good for her, and eventually she changed her ways and I think she's happier that way. :]

Well if this person is a friend of mine I would imagine I would know their persona and how to go about it. If I knew this person would be hurt yes I would be reluctant to express true words as to not offend them. I think I would sort of bring up examples. I would also say things like I really liked what you wore the other day it really brings out your personality more and bring up examples on how unflattering certain people look in some of the choices of clothing. This would be very difficult to handle as no matter which way we handle it the person will be hurt as if they would not be hurt then they would not have been wearing the outfit in the first place. So it has to be handled on a case by case basis. It would be different if the person were asking what are opinion is about their attire.

Correct bingskee.... sometimes its not the word that hurts but the way how we deliver/say it. And we must be more careful to the sensitive one, all criticism for them is destructive. I experienced it. ^_^

Hello welcome to mylot Yes there are persons whom we may term as 'bad dresser', the dress we wear should match to our age, profession, body size and social status.. If i see some of my friend dressed wrong, i will tell on the face... Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

I have never really had that problem. I don't think it would have bothered me. Other qualities like trust and loyalty are what are important for me in friends. What they choose to wear is none of my business. I might however say that they really looked good in a certain outfit, rather than saying that they looked horrible in the clothes they were wearing. If they wanted my advice for dressing or buying clothes I would happily give my opinion, but only if they wanted it. Otherwise I think I would prefer to keep my mouth shut and enjoy their good qualities. My maternal grandmother was a wonderful woman, kind, loving and giving. I don't think I ever heard an unkind word come out of her mouth. Everyone who knew her loved her, but she was a horrible dresser. She had no sense of style, or colour, or what matched. I can remember her putting on a plaid skirt with a paisly blouse and asking how she looked. Instead of saying a paisly blouse looks horrible with a plaid skirt, or lying by saying she looked fine, I just said she would look much nicer with a plain white blouse. If she hadn't have asked me, I would have just bit my tongue.

Everybody have their own taste. If a close friend is dressing in different taste,I will talk with him. But he is just a common friend,I wont bother him. Sometimes they will think that their dress is very fashional,so we should respect their choice.

Having said that, i think what you really need to do, or what you can do is to let her/him know that you can accompany her to buy dresses that would compliment her features more. I mean, we all have our days, our times where we just feel we are the lousiest dresser of all - and we just need to find the right set of clothes that would bring out the best of our figure, our shape our features, and i think this is what your friend can do... Tell your friend that she can be both trendy and comfortable with the fashion that suits her and im sure she is just at least bothered to wear other things because she is not used to them... it may take time but you have to be there for her all through out.

I won't. Especially if I see him or her comfortable and confident with what he or she is wearing. However, if he asks for my opinion, then I would try to tell him in a matter-of-fact way. Straight. Just my opinion. And if he needs help, then I would gladly help him. Have a nice day, bingskee

Hi bingskee, I think we should try to be sensitive to people"s feeling if we approach them about any personal matter that concern them. I am not sure I could tell a friend that he or she is a bad dresser, because they are a bad dresser in my eyes only. They are dressing according to their personal taste, whatever style it maybe. As most of us believe that you should judge a person by the color of his skin or what neighborhood he comes from or what language they speak, now we should add or what clothes he wears. Looking at him for the person that he is inside is what matter. A guy could be in a very expensive three piece suit, but has no integrity whatsoever. Clothes does not make the man or women. We are always preaching, "be yourself" but when people are being themselves we want to change who they are. If they are not cause harming to themselves or anyone else, I say leave them alone. Maybe they don't feel that they need to keep up with the fashion trend or they don't have the funds to suppose that action.

Perhaps telling a friend she is a bad dresser is not the way to go about it. Maybe some helpful suggestions from you could show your friend a little fashion sense. Try showing her what would look good on her. I am sure she will be appreciative and not offended.

Honestly, it doesn't bother me much when a person doesn't dress according to the norm, what's more important to me is that the person dresses appropriately. I'm not really a fan of trends and such so what looks good for me is pretty relative. However, if my friend's outfit really ugly, I will try to suggest an alternative before telling the truth. I'm gonna try to be as polite as I can and make sure that she understands that I just really mean well.

Weel, i wiil try go with her at shopping and give her advices!

If the person is your real friend and close to him or to her you can tell to her/him straight. And I think he or she could understand.But telling that must done in a friendly manner so that he or she could accept it.After all if you tell to him or her it is for he or she own good.

To take the easy way out, go shopping with them. The second way, which I don't understand why I'm saying at all, is that real friends don't actually rate or criticize each other.

Plan a shopping spree! Help her find her style without telling her she needs to find a new one! Ha ha! Or if there is an upcoming event like a dance, or a date or etc. plan on getting together with her to help pick an outfit! If it doesn't work then just let her be...if she likes expressing herself through her own style then whatever, that's her choice! Hope this helps! :)

well... yeah.. but the who are we to change other people.. bad dresser doesn't depict quality.. he might be comfortable in those shirts shorts or whatever he is wearing. if i really think hes a bad dresser.. and as he is my friend .and i will tell him directly.. he wont feel bad or anything.. as its the right of the friend to tell what his friends is doing right or wrong..

I don't think you should tell them 'you are a bad dresser', because that could be very hurtful, but you could give them small hints regarding specific items they are wearing that you don't think is appropriate. Also tell them why. This will hopefully get them thinking themselves, and they might come to the same conclusion as you!

I love it. Your a bad dresser. Well your hair looks like hell. hahahaha. I go with complimenting them on what I like. I've had close friends criticize my toe nail polish! I had just come back from Jamaica and dressed my feet like it. Who cares?

I won't tell a person I know they are a bad dresser because it's their style. My friends boyfriend would try to change the small things in her and she just got upset. She said it was a control issue in trying to make her change. I just looked at it as if he didn't want people to look bad at her. One time we went to a health fair and she took slippers, sweats, and a worn out tank top. I kind of looked at her funny but didn't say anything. I am not a keen dresser either usually jeans tank top, and flip flops. I try to look decent but sometimes running around with kids I find it hard. I make sure they are ironed and cleaned but for me well.... my time has passed in trying to impress anyone but don't criticize my kids. I have seen moms who care more about themselves than their kids. You see kids in the same clothes two days in a row and they only have 2 or 1 child. Someone told me once you can be poor but be clean. Don't let the poverty get to you that you don't care about what is around you. So maybe if they dress poorly but at least they are clean they deserve a thumbs up on my part...

for me i'll give some possible situation. like, i will take her to the mall to have a little walk and talk. then go into the women's clothing section. and try to choose clothes for her and recommend to change her outfit sometimes like by saying... "you look really good on this dress!" and continue talking about "dressing" and tell her everything she should know about good dressing. in short, i will never point out that she's a bad dresser.i'll just tell her some tips.