Is it normal to lie?
By juliusports
@juliusports (274)
Philippines
17 responses
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
9 Aug 10
In a way, I think lying can be normal but unfortunately some of us do it much more than others. Recently I heard that the most common lie that people tell is when they say "I'm fine" when asked how they are doing. However, I do not feel it is really a lie, but rather a way out from telling people how you really feel when you may not feel comfortable in doing so. I think I am guilty of that one.
@katiesueg (257)
• Italy
11 Aug 10
I wouldn't consider the response "I'm fine," really a lie in most cases. It depends on who asks you. If it were someone who you had an intimate relationship with and who asked the question not out of normal politeness, then it might me. For example your husband, or a parent, or good friend realises that something is wrong in your life and asks "How are you?" expecting more than the traditional response and you answer "I'm fine." when your are not, you are either lying or really saying "don't butt into my business."
If however a casual acquaintance were to ask you "How are you?" and you were to answer truthfully with everything that is wrong in your life it would sound very odd to say the least and probably upset your listener.
Years ago when I was a teenager we lived next door to a man called Stu. He was a little elderly, had a few medical problems, but on the whole was a fairly decent fellow. My father learned one thing early on after the first couple of conversations with Stu. Never ask the question, "How are you?" because you were sure to get a complete, detailed run down on every one of his aches and pains and anything else that was bothering him.
@mzbunnylove05 (223)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Sometimes you really need to lie in order to make things right or to avoid some "situations". These are called "white lies". All of us lied, I know. You cannot be truthful all the time. Just don't make it a habit. Happy mylotting!
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
I'm not use to tell lies. people will notice me if I do because I'm not good at it. We must not let this be a bad habit. It's not normal to be a liar. But sometimes we ought to tell white lies so we can't hurt some people. And we can't avoid to tell a lie if we can't decide yet what to do in a very unwanted situation.
@Fritzlyks69 (68)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Yep it's pretty normal. It would only matter on the frequency, the weight of your lie and who you're lying to... hahahaha.. If you have seen the movie "INVENTION OF LYING" then it would really open your mind to new things. A world without lies is boring...
@wintersonata (46)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 10
depends on the case, I think.
if someone's life is in risk, and lying is the only way to rescue / save his / her life, then it might be okay to lie.
too much lying, of course, is not normal. I mean, like the case where someone lies in order to make excuses for his / her mistake, while the mistake might be too big to ignore.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Lying is something that is learned at a very early age. Usually it is used to avoid punishment for misbehavior. It is the parent's duty to teach the child that lying is not acceptable.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Hi,
I believe everyone do tell lies before.
Of course, I also tell lies before ,be it my childhood or my
current life now.
Telling white lies is pretty normal.
Sometimes, we just don't want to make situation getting
worse and we have to tell a white lies.
I still remembered when I was in school time, I did tell lie to my
parents too,just to keep them not to worry that much.
I knew that I am not doing the right thing,but the situation has forced me
to tell a lie.
@princesslawyer0515 (270)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
It's a sad thing that lying has become a normal thing. I lie, and I hate doing it. Being compelled by the circumstances is not a good reason. Lying remains to be a sin.
@MirandaKay (231)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Lying is automatically in our human nature. It takes work to end the bad habit. I refuse to lie. It is so much better to tell the truth even if it brings consequences. I hate to be lied to so therefore I don't lie.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Yes I have lied some time in my life. I have to admit. most of the lies are just to cover for myself and not the type of lie to ruin other people.
@ree_yah (462)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
yup lying is normal... its just bad that other people are making it a part of their everyday lives, because its becoming a habit, it becomes a normal thing to do... LIE..
@Fantasy17 (38)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Lying isn't something normal for me. But of course, I have lied. But when I do lie, I feel terrible inside. It definitely isn't/won't be a normal thing for me.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
9 Aug 10
There are definitely different kinds of lies. I think in some cases to spare someones feelings, if it isn't going to hurt anything you can lie a little. Like when your friend asks, is this pimple really noticeable?
But about big things and about those you are really close to I think lying is not cool. I have made my mistakes, I have lied in the past but I have learned that in the end honesty helps the most. Being honest with yourself and others is best. It's hard to remember and track your lies, and all it does is hurt.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
9 Aug 10
Hi. Nobody is truthful. All of us lie at one point of time or the other. Lies which are harmless and needed in everyday life are ok. They are normal. But big lies are something which I am not very good at and always get caught. I am scared of the humiliation which comes along with getting caught. So, I am honest most of the time. And no, big, fat lies are not normal for me.
@Ceekay1989 (323)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I think its so easy to lie, because we often have the misconception that the truth just isn't good enough, so it leads to little strings of lies that seem harmless at a glance but add up in the end. How many times have I added or exaggeratted a story because I felt that sharing the real details without the additives just isn't enough. Lying is normal and apart of life it really is, but it's just how far that one takes it is what matters most.
Lying has become so prevalent in our society because of socila tendencies, we all would like to be accepted and often will take acception at any cost available to them.
We often have to remember whats really important and is it necessary to add on to an already truthful perfect story, the older we become I think the wiser we start to see and depict what is really of importance and thats all that matters.
