Is it hard to make friends in a new school??

United States
August 9, 2010 10:03pm CST
I think it is really hard to make friends in a new school because you don't know anybody and its a different environment plus you don't know where your classes are.Another thing is that you don't know who you are going to sit with in lunch or also when your teacher tells you to pair up with a partner so its very nerve wrecking. I was almost going to go to a new district because I had moved and all my other friends where going to another school so I was thinking who I was going to sit with and all of that but my mom kept appealing to the district and I got to go to the school with all my friends.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
i think it may take some time to make good friends, but people always do make friends in school. just a simple hi, hello, is the seat taken, etc can be a start for a good friendship, right?
1 person likes this
10 Aug 10
No it should not be, just be open, sociable, communicate with people. I went to 3 high schools, 2 middle schools and 2 elementary schools. Most of the time kids just come up to you and introduce themselves.
• United States
11 Aug 10
Really because in my schools if you were knew nobody really came up to you and introduced themselves.In my school every body were in there own little groups.
@Tresaqwe (376)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I think that becoming friends with anyone is hard, so becoming friends with someone you don't know at all surrounded by people you don't know at all is probably twice as hard. I wouldn't know where to go or who to sit with. I think it would be harder to transfer in at the beginning of the year than transfer into the middle of the year, since people know when you are coming in the middle of the year.
• India
11 Aug 10
generally its not hard..but at first time of the school its really hard because you dont know anyone and how are they. But you will be used to after many days. I had also been in the same situation.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
It's pretty normal to feel shy in the first day of school. I think every body feels the same way with you. Even me, I remember when I was in pre-school most of my classmates cry at loud when their guardian leave them. I feel the same way but I did not cry at all for I knew my mom will go back to get me. ;)
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
For it has never been hard to befriend some people when I transferred school in mid high school. There had been like discrimination because I was put to the last section. The reason why we were all been gathered there is because we are all transferees. Since we are all aware of that, we made a pact that we will all be making good with our studies. Our class made it to the top because the top student and top 2 of the class (ahemm, that was me) made it to the top 4 and 5 respectively of all the rankings out of 600 students. Then a lot of students tried to befriend us knowing that we are from the lowest section. everybody from the class got along well because we, the top students, are very helpful to everyone else.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Going to a new school is definitely a change. Everyone has their own circcle of friends. As a newcomer, you have to find your way to fit in. For some, making friends comes easy. for others, it can be a challenge. I was always one to make friends easily. It is not the quantity but the quality of the friendship that is important.
@joyce318 (139)
• China
10 Aug 10
absolutely not. We can find close friends in new school because everyone will enter into new school at different phase. Don't be worried about acquainting new people and open to arms to embrace them. And pls cherish the time in school. Your best friends are always the ones who meet in schools.
@sami00 (891)
• India
10 Aug 10
Hello, Making friends is a difficult problem.You should be good in earning friends .I also have the experience to make new friends in my new school.But i got some good friends in my new school.These are some of my experiences in earning friends.I have contacts with them till now.If you had a similar situation,you should express yourself to others.Something for you must impress others.It must be related to the education.These are some of the ways i learned from my childhood.
• Canada
10 Aug 10
I have actually found it easier to make friends at a new school. I would rather be at my own school in my comfort zone.. But when I started at a new school there was so many people who I didn't know.. So many people who didn't know me. At my old school I had known everyone and if we were ever going to be friends it would have happened already. I like to look at it in a positive way. A new school = lots of new opportunities to make friends. It might be different where you live, but where I live many people started to talk to me and I made friends within the first day. When you have no friends somewhere it also pushes you to find some fast.
• India
10 Aug 10
In my case i don't have any difficulties in making friends in new school. 'Cause i am jolly person, i come up to speak to all the person who is unknown to me. If we don't turn up to know about other who will be willing to be friend with us. If you are very shy and stand in the corn-or of the school, then its really very hard to make friends. So foe me thought its a new place for me to visit place or be it in new school, there is no problems in making friends to me.
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
adjusting to a new environment and a new place is difficult as you think it is. But it is not. This is just in our minds and we can overcome them. The qualities should be in you: 1. positive thinking 2. flexibility and 3.social skills!
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
i feel you.i also experienced being in a new school.always thinking about my old school and my friends there.i feel alone and a stranger.the first few days or weeks is very hard,adjustment time.people are still curious about you but eventually you will talk to one or two people.it is hard the first few days though.i hate going through that phase.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
As long as you know how to communicate with courtesy, respect, and a little bit of humor, it would not be impossible for you to gain friends instantly. This may sound corny but from my experience it works. When you get in the classroom, try to look for a person who is also alone. Try to sit next to him or her then start a small conversation by asking a question. This may sound too common but it is very effective. It is undeniable that it may seem difficult to establish a relationship with others at first but if you try then you will find out that it is worth it after all.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Just keep a good smile on your face and you'll be on your way to make friends. When someone talks to you, answer them politely. But you don't wanna be confused for being guillible.