Love Marriage VS. Arrange Marriage

Arranged Marriage exist among royal families and ethnic tribes. I get to see many movies about arranged marriage that end worthless. For instance, the "Boys Over Flower" Korean Series.. Jun Pyo was arranged to marry Jae Kyung. Although Jae Kyung loved Jun Pyo so much (while Jun Pyo loves Jan Di) he objected to allow the wedding because she knows that she wont be happy even if she gets married to the person she loved so much. Jae Kyung knows that whatever she do, even if she becomes Jun Pyo's wife, jun pyo's heart will always belong to someone else. That is why she let go of him. With the short summary above, let me define both words since it is entitled against each word. Love Marriage is the sacred ceremony between couple celebrating their love to each other. Arranged Marriage, based on what I know, a null and void ceremony. When you enter into marriage, all parties concerned should be willing to enter into that contract. Since it is a contract, you can enforce it in the court that you were forced to get married and you were not having your free will. Therefore, you may nullify it.

how could one attain ultimate happiness with someone he or she does not truly love? it is like when you cook rice and the end result is half cooked rice which is not good to eat.

I agree celestial. I just can't imagine marrying someone who has been appointed to me. Isn't marriage meant to be for two people who love each other? I feel sorry for anyone who is pressured to marry someone they are not in love with. I do understand that there are cultural issues for some people but I imagine it would be a very unfulfilling relationship for people who are involved in an arranged marriage.

I am an indian and from goa. And i have heard that there are more successful marriages when the marriages are arranged. Also maximum number of arranged marriages that i personally know about have been successful. But then it might be more here due to the culture. But personally i think arranged marriages tend to work as the couple are more focused on each other to know each other and accept their partners good and bad parts. Whereas in love marriages the tendency to accept others mistakes are less and tend to lead to a lot of fights.

i prefer love marriage because it is much more sweeter than arrange.if you love someone you feel very much comfortable with him/her and you want to spend time with each other everyday.arrange marriage tends to go into phase first phase is getting to know,adjustment period because the couple hasnt been together for a while to get to know each other.its really hard to women in an arrange marriage because she doesnt know the attitude of her husband yet.

I personally believe that the way the two people meet does not really make a difference in the long run. Love marriage probably has a more romantic start but the success of the marriage and true love that comes afterwards has nothing to do with how it started. Also, sometimes, the person who arranged the marriage may do so based on knowing both people and seeing that they have a lot of things in common. This is actually a good thing as it gives the relationship a third person's verification and neutral view on the couple's compatibility. People who are in love usually chose to ignore critical difference between them blinded by their emotions for each other. I'm not defending arranged marriages. I'm just trying to shed some positivelight on commonly tabooed concept.

There are some traditions that they prefer arrange marriage because it was their elder's traditional way. And they don't resists if this is implemented because this is their custom way. But I prefer into love marriage. It is so sweet romantic and can lasts forever. They can still feel the love to each other until they reached the old age of their life. And another fruit of it is they can easily understand themselves.

Both have an equal chance of failure if there is no element of compromise.Only thing one must remember is that the search for the right partner is never complete. To find a right partner one lifetime is not enough. Both must settle down by making a concession that no one is perfect in this world. Why does most marriages ‘love’ or ‘arranged’, more often than not fail? This happens because either both or at least one of them pursues their search even after their marriage. There could be other reasons as well. However if they think that they are not married to the right person then they refuse to make any sort of compromise. They must learn to be happy with what they have rather than be unhappy with what you do not have. Learn to be happy by enjoying the most what you already have and generations after you would thank you for what you did.

That's also what I am wondering of, a lot of unsuccessful marriage they got married because that is their will be with each other for the rest of their life. But along the way on their marriage life they somehow did not blend and do good that is why they got divorce or annulled. However on the other hand, I never heard any stories that they got divorce or annulled because it is just an arrange marriage. In short, I did not heard any unsuccessful marriage out of arrange marriage. Mostly of what I heard is the love marriage as what you referred here got unsuccessful marriage. That is just my thought.

of course, I want to tie the knot with someone I really love not that I really like. I can't imagine to live and to sleep with someone that I don't love. It just like a bitter pill to swallow or pain in our both heart. If my parents want me to marry with someone they like. I would tell them that they should be the one to sleep with that person they have arrange to marry. Marriage should be the done by the one who will get marry not themselves

I married the man I loved and chose, and I would not have wanted to marry someone that others chose for me. Still, it must be noted that on the whole most arranged marriages have been more successful than the Western fall in love and get married variety. Is it because these marriages begin with the support of a lot of people, the two families involved and perhaps also the community. Maybe the couple is less blinded by romanticism and more resolved to make the marriage work. I don't know. I would not have wanted an arranged marriage for me, but I cannot say I am against them. They seem to work for the most part.

I warned my parent of arranging my marriage with someone they think of suit to me. My warning sounds like "If you arrange my marriage, I will find another wife and marry second one." This warning prove that I also believe that finding love on ourselves and having someone who attach to us through emotional cultivation, should ends in a happy way without any problems. Just need to be pure and not brought through ill intention in the relationship, which will be fine.

I am happily married and mine is a "love marriage". I also wonder how would it be to be married to someone and the whole thing is arranged by people around me. My Indian friend, who is also happily married in an arrange marriage, came to me an asked me this question: "Were you not scared to decide on your own to marry your husband?" I was surprised that this was one reasoning behind arrange marriage. I told her that i would be scared if I'm not the one who made the decision because I will be living with my man forever and not them. She said that it is more safe if many people are involved in the decision, not just both families but even the community, and the old people who knows better that the young ones. She made some point there, and I must respect her because she was brought up in a culture different from mine. She wasn't able to convince me though , and so wasn't I. So if we say "this must be hard for both of them" they also think the same for us.

hi, i feel love marriage vs arrange marriage is best one. because Lovers are asked parents permission also they wishes also important one is beginners of Marriage couple. so parents permission also important one our beginners stage of life. they are help our life start also.