Whether Spoken Or Not~

You know the old saying: "Actions speaks louder than words". And, in this case, inferences do, too. You are right to feel good about these things. I bet he looks at you with pride when he introduces you, too. That says tons more than words ever could. I did learn something this week, but this is a happy discussion, and I don't want to bring it down, so we will let it go for now.

This is kind of a funny thing I noticed when I was growing up! My parents bought 4 new tires for the car for Christmas! On the other hand some of the men in the neighborhood would be jerks and everyone knew it, they loved to buy expensive things for their wife on their birthday,etc. Then they would go around the neighborhood and brag about it! Hello?! Of course our neighborhood had it's fair share of divorces. Those seemed to be in direct proportion to how much money they made! So I came to believe at an early age it's the long, hard, daily road that counts. The rest is grandstanding. I can't stop. Ha ha ha ha. My parents were good friends with this one family who strived hard at looking wealthy. For example, they had name brand furniture and proud of it. They drove used Catilacs. The upscale sewing machine didn't work. Go for the electric knife and you had to beat it against the counter from time to time to get it to run! I agree, there is no perfect marriage. Be careful what you expect out of marriage. It's what that marriage becomes after years of tweaking and working together to coincide under the same roof! Keep observing. Keep paying attention!

well..nice to hear about your husbands. .. finding a good husband or spouse is a very difficulty these days.. u are very lucky. yaa. at the starting it feel awkward... sum-one not appreciating ur work..but the way u have explored things.. i find it very int interesting.. never thought of it before...buts it awesome observation i must say :)

I'm happy that you are thinking that way. I mean you are not acting like a 'yet another woman' who is like 'See, I am the one who does all the household work, yet I don't get appreciated' I mean, appreciating somebody is a good thing, but like you said, just because someone doesn't appreciate your work or say it, doesn't mean that person actually doesn't like it, or doesn't like what you are doing. Thanks for thinking positively and having your life in a good tone.

I agree with you. Before whenever I was getting too close with my male colleagues, my partner would ask me: "Why was he so nice to you?" I would then know that he was jealous of my friend and I would withdraw myself from getting to close to these colleagues.

Definitely yes, that's the good way to look at it. Let me share some experiences that I have with my hubby, as he is not very vocal with his feelings as well. An example is when I cook, he wouldn't say it taste good but he would just nod his head a few times while eating. Another example is, if he thinks that I look good on my dress he wouldn't say it, he would just ask me to turn around and smile afterwards. Before, I expect his appreciation verbally. Thus, I have my doubts then but when I learnt to look at it differently things turn into a different perspective.

Sometimes what people do, speak louder than their words. Many have problems with expressing their feelings so it may take time and some training to find out what their inner thoughts are. But it is well worth the effort to learn to know our friends and relatives, especially family members. Sometimes we find the key that helps them open up and start talking about how they feel. It may help them if we can be open with our own feeling. Wish you a happy marriage!!

Hi! I do not agree with you. My belief is if we like something or we like any of the acts or deeds of our partner, we must appreciate her quality and should 'highlight' are quality as much as we can. Till we are told, what good things we are doing for others, we cannot make out ourselves, so easily.

hi lilangelspreschool oh yes I used to hear it from my husband I would tell him I love you and he would mumble me too. and if I complained he would give me a funny look and say, I just brought home your favorite ice cream a nd the nose spray you wanted, I am not good with the mushy stuff. lol lol lol. but then I realized he believed in action instead of just talk.So I felt really warmed because he did those little things just for me.as for anything interesting UCI at Irvine medical researchers have found a way to regenerate spinal nerves in mice that cou ld not walk and are going to be making some type of medication in a few years to help humans regenerate spinal nerve cells.

you know i have to give you high five on this. this is a very good point that you did make. yeah with men we dont always say things you females like to hear, we dont show alot of emotions all the time. as we were growing up most of us was tought big boys dont cry, we dont share or show our emotions or feelings because it mean we are weak. i do tell my wife all the time i love her, or if she cooks it was good. but yeah i have to use this on some people

You're right. My husband isn't expressive in words. I also feel bad before but now I understands him and turn him sometimes to say what I wanna hear. Isn't it good? Learn how to make things in your own ways without speaking about it. Love love!

i think your thought is right. sometimes what are not spoken are better. it depends on the person. just feel him and see it from his gestures then. =)

It gladdens me that you are looking at the end results as opposed to analyzing whatever your husband says or does not say. You are allowing his actions to speak, which is what many men ascribe too and more women should consider. Of course it is nice to hear him say it once and a while so maybe you can find ways to influence him to tell you once in a while. Learning is the most important element of development and when we stop learning we stop developing. A true educator does not pride him/her self so much in the knowledge they have to share as much as what new knowledge they can incorporate into their teaching. Everyday is filled with learning experiences and our challenge is to take advantage of these learning experiences to enhance who we are.