Has Your Libido Ever Died Because Your Date's House Was Filthy?
By jswindell10
@jswindell10 (417)
United States
August 10, 2010 5:05pm CST
If you had asked me even six months ago if there was anything outside of a tragic event that could kill a libido, I'd say nothing for a healthy person.
I went to someone's house on a date recently and if they lived in the Sanford and Son house, it would have been an upgrade. Especially the kitchen, which looked like it upchucked 40 years worth of turkey gristle all over the stove and walls. The living room was about the size of a regular (not apartment size) bathroom and there were papers, clothes and God knows what else everywhere. From what I could see, the bedroom was for standing only because it looked like a hoarder lived there.
Yes, I went to this house as a way to relieve some stress but got more than what I bargained for. Thing is that they called often so that they could cook for me (yeah, right) and get comfortable/laid (I don't think so!).
The thing is that they were very proud of their "cozy" home and had no shame in me having to sit in a pig sty.
Has this ever happened to you and how did you handle it? Do you still date or was that it.
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3 responses
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Hi, jswindell10. Dating someone that has a filthy home is a turn off, I know. I once dated this guy, his apartment was very nasty inside. I went to move a wig that had weave on it from the lamp shade. And when I did, nothing but roaches was all over the wig and lamp shade. This turned me off totally. My cousin was with me. This really made me sick and I changed my mind about hanging out at his house when it was in this shape. He did told me that he planned on moving out from here though. I can see partly why.
@jswindell10 (417)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Hey,
I've dealt with roaches when everything else on the outside is nasty. If you didn't break up w/dude then bring him a big can of boric acid on your next visit. FYI, it works best when the carpet (where roach eggs live) has been shampooed first.
Oh yeah, he can deduct this from his rent if the place is otherwise habitable.
Good luck and thanks for the good answer!
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I have to agree with meluan. Even the cleanest living people can have diseases like that. You never judge a book by its cover. Really I think you should know more about a person before your going off to their house anyway. I don't do all that stuff so it never happened to me. I have seen some pretty nasty houses though...
@jswindell10 (417)
• United States
11 Aug 10
One, To you and meluan - I never mentioned a disease of any kind.
Two, I know of people with transmittable illnesses that clean their homes with cold water and expel fluid such as mucous in meals they are preparing for guests.
Three, a filthy home attracts insects such as cockroaches and gnats. Rats and mice also love to hang out in filthy homes.
Four, your comment was a little condescending and if you live a virtuous life that's good but don't judge the rest of us, especially if we are not out to hurt you or your children.
Finally, I'm glad you "have seen some pretty nasty houses though...(OK, where's the rest?) You still didn't answer the initial question.
@jswindell10 (417)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Oh yeah one more thing, if you read my reply in comment 1, I've known this person since the 90s. Do the math, that's more than 10 years.
When it comes to my health, I will make a judgment about what makes me feel safe and comfortable.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
12 Aug 10
When I read the title of this discussion and then read a little of the discussion the first thing that came to mind was "Oh no this isn't such and such's gf is it?" 
Seriously I thought you might be this guy's gf! He has a filthy house. He doesn't cook very much, he doesn't clean very much, well he's also not there very much either.
It's never happened to me, but I have had to use the bathroom in the guy's house I just told you about...
Seriously I thought you might be this guy's gf! He has a filthy house. He doesn't cook very much, he doesn't clean very much, well he's also not there very much either.
It's never happened to me, but I have had to use the bathroom in the guy's house I just told you about... @jswindell10 (417)
• United States
12 Aug 10
That's the other thing. For as long as I've known this guy (since '94) he has never held down a job. When we got re-acquainted, he told me that he found a way to collect SSI at 41.
So yes, he has more than enough time to clean his house. Nothing fancy, just so that it does not leave a too much mystery as to what happened in which room.
