Why am i the only one?????

Hey Saphrina, you are definitely not wrong nor are you stupid. My theory is, if a relationship is meant to be, it will build it's self. If it requires building work from one or both parties then something is missing. On the other hand, if a bit of building or tweeking is needed because of personal differences, then it should be a mutually reciprocating relationship.

Hi Saphrina Is this one a Typical case? I must admit that many of us around feel that they are the only ones who are going to or are doing all the efforts to keep a relationship. But as you mention (in one of your comments) it takes 2 to Tango. Unfortunately, there are somethings that are better explained or told instead of relying on your guesses that these would be understood. If you have a feeling for someone or trying to build a relationship, you have to ascertain the following two things as top priority - 1. How important that relationship is going to be for you 2. Will the other person agree and be a part of the relationship? Once you have answers to these, you can identify where you stand. Once that is done, and you are on the positive side, you have to find out the limits that you can go for this relationship. It would be good if you had ascertained the above 2 points to your side. This will help you decide how far and what are you going to input into the building and strengthening of this relationship. The interesting thing that adds to the spicing here is the fact that the other person may not be interested in the whole matter at all from the start... This means you have to do everything from ground zero and be patient. If you win it is your luck otherwise.... blame it on anything you feel comfortable Good Luck

Hi Sweetie no you are not wrong, it takes 2 and both should be working at it For 21 Years I tried to make the Marriage work but the Ex Husband wanted the best of both worlds so after 21 years I gave up and came out of a meaningless and abusive Marriage If both don't work on it then it will never work

maybe he doesn't want it. it's easy to say, it's the two of you who should have work it out, but i wonder why he isn't doing it. there must be wrong with him. either he doesn't like you anymore that he's afraid to tell it, or he had enough what ever it is. I am a guy, i can detect frustration in a man when he doesn't work out in the relationship. talk is the answer. not fair? yes, guys can be so silent, that leaves you wondering why this guy isn't doing anything...

of course,when you want to build a relationship,you should work as partners,not just one sided love.i guess being busy ain't good reason enough.that's so stupid! if you really loved a person,you'll try to reach out to that person and show how much you love them.i really don't like people who just there but is really hard to reach out for them.

You should learn to a personal life ,live a wonderful person. You should learn to enjoy yourself . Don`t try to change yourself for another ,if he love you ,he may accept your faults , it includes love and friendship except your parents.

If you feel you are trying to build a relationship withsomeone and they are not giving those feelings back then you need to find a new person to be with. what is the point of feeling like you are in it alone? Either sit him down and let him know how you feel or walk away.

the feeling is right but the action taken might be wrong..if you dont love the person that much and you cant withstand the situation anymore i guess you have to end it...because in order to make the relationship work the two parties must work out coz as it said it takes two tango....it is a two way relationship coz sometimes its tiring if you are the only one who is always giving and trying to make the relationship better... on the other hand, if love the person, better talk to him and ask why he dont even bother to make any participation to build a strong relationship with you..dont hesitate to ask if thats what makes you feel better....you have to know things first before you take any action or decision coz at the end you might be the one who will suffer the most..Have a nice day!

One sided relationships never work. You are not wrong...

Ur new avatar is really great !!! Well, in the case of relationships, it's like building a house or a construction.. It has to be done brick by brick.. It needs time to get set, like ways ur relationship need to be built in a similar manner.. Anyone should start first and in a while, the pair should join.. U are correct, that it needs mutual interest in building a relationship, but there should be an initiative and it can be u..

friends forever. ready to create a better friend ship sweetteee...

It takes two to build an honest good relationship. Two must get together to have mutual happiness. If there is an misunderstanding trash it and explain what went wrong. If you are in the wrong admit it and say 'sorry.' Your friend will then shake hand and accept your apology. Once you admitted it was your faults, you friend may then may then apologize and say it was actually his faults.

Nope, you are neither wrong nor stupid. Both people in a relationship need to work at it in order for it to be a good, strong and lasting relationship be it friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend, marriage or family members (other than spouses). All relationships need nurturing and attention, so why would a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or marriage be any different? It obviously wouldn't be any different.

rants, rants, rants! lol, Relationships should be give and take. But reality sucks and sticks us with wrong partners, someone always pushes and someone always pulls. And here you are getting angry with reality... Would you want to meet reality and give em some good spanking?

Hi Saphrina, It takes two to work on a relationship and to keep it going. There will be times when one seems to be more into it than the other but those should just be temporary moments and not the entire relationship. I think if it were me, I would set up a time with him to talk about "US" and see if anything can be done to improve things. You should let him know that you are not happy with how things are and that you are considering leaving if you can't work on things together.

I kind-of know how you feel. I sometimes feel like I am the only one trying to make my marriage work as well.

I think if a person realizes that he or she is giving way too much in a relationship, it is time to talk, and if nothing comes out of it, then may be its time to face facts. There is no point in being in a relationship that makes you feel cheated everyday!!! Sorry kiddo!!!

It would seem pretty difficult to build a relationship on that basis. Unless it were truly a one sided relationship!! I'd be off if I were you. I have that T shirt, and it was no fun.

i strongly agree that both sides should build a relationship.it takes two to tango.here are my humble insights...a relationship starts with the two getting attracted towards each other.but at the very start both must be honest to express what they want out of the relationship...it must first be defined..so that both will strive,both will take care and nourish, and both will cherish..

Hi saphrina, I'm sure you are very frustrated about your relationship. Please remember that a good relationship should be two ways, and that you both know how to give to show to one another that you love each other, if you feel like it's one sided, have you talked with already? Communication is a must and maturity from both sides. So, hopefully, you'll be able to work it out. And please if you love him anyway and feel that there is no one else for you, then you have to accept him for what he is or do something about it. Talk, frustration can lead to anger and it's not good for both of you. Good luck!