My friend wants to work for me...

Canada
August 11, 2010 12:34pm CST
I built, own and run a series of small businesses that bring in a fair amount of cash into my personal bank account and I am very proud of these accomplishments. However, I am in need of some personnel right now and I am a bit of a pig-headed manager in the sense that I only like teh ebst or who is going to listen and do what they are taught to do and do it right and on time. A friend of mine approached me a while ago and asked if she could apply for one of the job opening I have. She is quite qualified actually for it and if I had not known her and she had simply put in an application then I would have probally have given her an interveiw and eventually hired her. However, because I know her I know her faults and I know that after I would ahve hired her she would ahve lasted a onth before I fired her. This is a waste of my time and a waste of my training, money and experience. For all I know I could have passed up a very good canidate instead of her. She is never on tyime for anything, she dosnt answer messages (phone or otehrwise) and sometiems she just wont show up for something. When she does this she will eitehr call you last minute, after the fact or you ahve to conatct her for her to give an excuse for why shes late. She isnt a very ahrd worker and she honestly dosnt care about the business but rather getting a paycheck for the smallest amount of effort put forth. I would not and will not hrie her. However, I'm not quite sure waht to say to her... Have you ever been in thsi situation? I know I ahve to be direct and tell her why but I dont want to put it in a way that wuill ruin our friendshuip.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Aug 10
I've never in this situation. I guess you'd have to be honest with her if you want to decline her request. You'd have to say that you know her well enough that you'd know what the outcome will be. And maybe say that you value your friendship enough not to let a working relationship possibly destroy your friendship.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
11 Aug 10
Listen, you have a choice of either upsetting her a bit now, or upsetting her more and possibly ruining your friendship later. And I think it is by far better to tell her that you don't want to jeopardize your friendship by hiring her now, than to hire her and then have to fire her. If you do this now, she will me a bit upset with you for a few days maybe, but it will pass. The consequences are much worse if you choose to hire her I think!
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I think that probably the best way to decline your friend's request without ruining your friendship is to tell her that you don't want her to work for you because you don't want to ruin your friendship. You don't have to elaborate on her less-attractive qualities if you don't want to. It can be as simple as that you don't want your friendship to become a boss/employee relationship because you're concerned that it will create strain. It's a realistic concern, and your friend should appreciate that you value her friendship enough to be concerned.