Trapped in a Relationship

ohh my god :( well or she still loves him and dont want to admit it, or dont want to be alone or maybe he threatened her. you must pay close attention to your friend. something is wrong. also the police should be warned about it bcs he might be bad to her again. there are really mean people so she must be careful. please talk with her and try to find out what is happening. also tell her that if she leaves him she can count on you that she wont be alone. maybe she is afraid to be alone if he goes. so be there for her^^

I guess she has to relocate herself completely away from his current boyfriend. She may just be pressured and afraid that the guy might do something odd and hurt her.

why is she staying with him? i wonder what makes women go back to men who abuse them?

the story sounds like a movie. relationships are varied. some are liberating. some are restricting. from the outside, people see differently. but for the people involved like the couple, they see their relationship different from others. they are emotionally involved. it is difficult to rationalize the feelings and their actions which are mostly blinded by the sensational affection for the other. as you said, your friend is trapped. this is your evaluation. what is hers? she has to see it too that she is trapped, otherwise she will not get out of that trap.

She might love him still because she's still letting him stay with her. She might have denied it when she said she doesn't. I had a neighbor before, an unmarried couple. The guy used to go out their house around 4 in the afternoon and used to come back late at around 2 in the morning. When the girl asked, he only answered he was with his friends. It was later when the girl found out that the guy was only at a bar partying and that he had a girlfriend there. The girl used to come to me to share her pain in her relationship. It had been like that for almost 4 months until the girl finally decided to leave. Now, the guy is still running after her to come back but she had enough. Your friend should make up her mind. If she doesn't love him no more, he should let him leave.

Oh my God! that is actually some kinda weird! I can't even imagine myself with that situation and even the fact that I should let the guy live on the apartment as if they are married. Yeah there is nothing wrong if they are still in the relationship but then the fact that the guy did something horrible with her girlfriend already then I don't think he must rely on her ex girlfriend.

Hi vjenkins86, I am so sorry to hear about you girl friends plight. She may not realize it, but she could be in a dangerous situation. The shelters for abused women are filled up with women such your friend. Women who are afraid to leave their abusers become their enablers, allow them to continue the abuse. You have witnessed verbal and emotional abuse first hand, but just as sure as there are those, the mental and physical will follow, if they are not already happening. Physical abuse is more visible than the others, the many visits to the emergency room for different broken parts of the body are clear evidence that abuse is present in the relationship.. Why does your friend stay with her abuser? Or have allow him to return once she had gotten rid of him? She has some courage, she was able to get him out of the apartment, with the help of the police, but after a brief parting of the way, she allowed him to come back to live with her, to resume where they left off. Some women in this situation have very low self esteem, they don't think they desire anyone better or a better life, some o them have grown up in abusive households where the parents fought and abuse the children. No two cases are alike, but the abuse is the same and it will continue if she doesn't get out. Maybe she allow him to return because she didn't get the proper help, counseling, that she needed to stand firm in her decision to get away from this abuser. It can only get worse. How will it all end? No one knows, but it is up to your friend to do everything possible to end this relationship before it ends her, if you know what I mean. Good luck to her,

Is the guy your talking is the first boyfriend of your friend?If that's the case maybe your friend think that she not worth it for any other guy.She locks her mind finding other guy.My advice to you is talk to your friend that he can find another guy that he will lover her and feel her special.Or maybe for some reason there's something about with this boyfriend that your friend can't lived without.Is for you to know.

its realy up to her there isn't much you can do, besides let her know you're there if she needs anything, you can lead a horse to the water but can't make him drink. you can tell her to get rid of him incessantly until shes dedicded shes had enough you'll be at a standstill with her, just always try to be avaible for her just incase you ever get that call, and don't lose touch with her. Abusive relationships are hard and I can't imagine him changing if he's already abused her once he's not gonna back off, so i'm sure hes treating her the same way, just pray for her and hope that she will be ok and learn before its too late.