Do you have to learn to look the other way......?
@Linda4ualways (2282)
United States
August 12, 2010 8:56pm CST
I feel sometimes we have to learn to look the other way. I mean if your spouse is upset about work or bills. You get into a big fight and they say things they really don't mean. Could you look the other way and forgive them? I find it is hard for me to except anything mean from anyones mouth. Mouths are very leathal weapons we use everyday. I think people say just what they mean when they are upset. Stuff they wanted to say but,had not been brave enough to say it. How do you feel about this?
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@MrDollars (454)
• Australia
19 Aug 10
Yeah I try to look the other way and I actually have but that makes me think about it more later on. So I do not like thinking about it but I guess it is not as bad as having an argument.
Not everyone says things that they mean when they are angry. They say it to hurt the other person because they know it will hurt them even though they do not mean what they had said.
$-MrDollars-$
@hotwheels20 (400)
• India
13 Aug 10
If you have got no good thing to say, then please don't say bad thing also. Our word is more are some time more dangerous than weapon.
@Ceekay1989 (323)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I can see where you would feel that but from experience I know I said things I honestly didn't mean but was soooo angry that I had to say something do something anything to hurt the other person, just so I could be sure they were feeling twice as bad as i had felt.
@pillaim1981 (64)
• India
13 Aug 10
i feel that in relationship we should actually understand the root cause why our opposite partner is reaction for any issue and we should try to solve the root cause of the problem rather than getting into arguement with person.
@darklord2065 (49)
• Vietnam
14 Aug 10
I think its easy to look away and forgive em, i usually treat them as trivial stuff since im hard to get angry. But i have to admit that mouth is a lethal weapon that can even kill, im not worried about stuffs people said to me but what i say to them instead
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I think it is a human nature that when a person is mad or upset, he keeps on complaining without realizing that he is uttering words that are unpleasant. They never realize that when the heat goes up, you cannot think discreetly and with reason. My bf is sometimes like that. he easily burst out and unaware of what he says. What I do is calm him down.
@charmaine36 (145)
• Jamaica
13 Aug 10
A fight is usually to see who can hurt whom the most whether it be verbal or physical, words said in anger are always with the intention to wound and sometimes even after apologies are given and accepted things are never the same. That's why it's always better to discuss things in an amicable way.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I have always agreed with the phrase that if you have nothing nice to say just do not say anything at all. 
As yes words can kill more than a weapon. 
As yes words can kill more than a weapon. @edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Aug 10
I was seeing a videos on youtube...change your brain change your life. It speaks about reverse thinking. sometimes we should stay away from things that we really want to do or say. Anger is such a feeling where you dont think of anything...and words start to flow which you relaise later, but your ego does not allow you to repent to apologise. So what you need to do is just pick up the words that you want to listen...you have a choice.
@choconut (297)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
to avoid conflicts, you have to look the other way. People often say things they don't mean if they're angry that's why when i'm angry i don't want to talk to anyone because i might just vent out my anger on them and regret it later. I suggest that if your spouse is having a hard time at work, rather thank asking him about it, hug him so you don't have to end up fighting because of misunderstanding.
God bless (",)
