Would it be nice and possible to be friend with your EX's partner?

@SimpleBB (1329)
Philippines
August 13, 2010 2:09am CST
People are naturally having difficult times in conquering the pain of a broken relationship, and its really hard to get over it. It is usually asked if being friend with your ex is possible. If there is a potential in doing so, how about being friend with your ex's partner? Will there be possibility too on this? How do you think it will affect you as well as your ex? Just asking and want to know your opinion on this.
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10 responses
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
13 Aug 10
There's a possibility that you can be friends with your ex's partners, but it depends on a few things. First, if he or she left you for the other person, you'll probably have a tough time with it! Also, if the new partner is suspicious of you or jealous, it's not likely to work out. I'd say it's fairly rare that it does happen.
• Argentina
13 Aug 10
Its possible to be your exs friend but.....i would only become one if they were worth it.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
For GuateMom and Segerer. I understand your point here, that's the common reason why it is rarely happened. Depends on the emotion and situation happened between people involved. Thanks to both of you for sharing your views.
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
It could be possible but it wouldn't be right. I have tried doing that once, except that I was the ex's partner. It wasn't right because I just ended up being told by the his ex girlfriend about my bf's bad side which caused conflicts. I think it would be okay if we decided not to talk about him. Because I believe that new partner is a new beginning and wouldn't need us to talk and recall about the past all over again.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Well, that is something again to consider. Situation...probably someone is not getting over it yet. And you're right in saying that new partner is a new beginning and should not live in the past. Thanks for your response and wishing you to have a good relationship and overcome those conflicts.
• Portugal
14 Aug 10
its ok to be friends with my ex's gf as long as i dont feel nothing for him anymore. if i dont is ok^^ but sure if i felt something for him wouldnt be possible bcs i would always be hurt when saw them together^^ anyway i think the most part of people couldnt do it bcs is strange to see your ex with someone else. i mean maybe not that strange if you feel nothing for him. but still is a bit strange ahah^^
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Hi sweetlvoeforeve, Got your point, it is difficult to be friend with somebody whom you invested an emotion and then broke up especially if you're not getting over the pain yet. Such situation is common reason not to be able to befriend with your ex. Thanks to melua too. I'm grateful to both of you for responding to this post.
@rkbazad (131)
• India
14 Aug 10
Hi simpleBB, you are right its really pain full . I think its very hard to being friend of ex's partner.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Thanks rkbazad, If befriending with ex's partner is hard, let's just hope to recover from the pain to be able to move on. Happy mylotting and thanks for your posted response.
• United States
13 Aug 10
I think it's not only possible but sometimes practical...especially if there are kids involved. My parents divorced when I was very young and were always friendly toward each other and my mom is still very cordial to my stepmom.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this post. It is well appreciated,dptstretch. Happy mylotting.
• United States
13 Aug 10
In my situation, I like to think it's possible, even though at the moment there's no way that's going to happen. I'm only 5 months into my new relationship and my ex, while not at all wanting to have a relationship with me, is still not used to the idea of me being in love with someone else. There are, however, several traits the two share that lead me to believe they would get along. After all, if there weren't common traits between them, they wouldn't have both fallen in love with me.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hi daaprice, Thanks for responding. Certainly, if you know them both as people who are open to such situation, possibility is just an inch away to happen. Good luck to your new relationship.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
i don't think it is nice to be friends with your ex's partner now. i mean, not unless you were friends before, or are friends when they got together, after of course calling it quits with your ex. i would think there is a possibility but it may not be really a good relationship.. it would be hard for you, awkward maybe and maybe for your ex too... i would think you have some hidden plans or agenda if this would have to be me...
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
You have a point there, chiyosan. Especially for those people who knows you both well, they would think there's a hidden agenda for that actuation. And we can't please everybody and the mere fact that we have no responsibility to explain to all the emotion we have deep within. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this issue.
• United Arab Emirates
13 Aug 10
yes it is possible...i have been friends with my wife's ex partners. I speak to them as if i knoiw them even before they know my wife. I have had no such problems with them. I treat them as good friends so do they.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thanks edwardjoy & meluan, Nice gesture edwardjoy, and yes meluan is right. Trust together with your love to each other are the keys for such nice relationship. Good luck and hope your relationship would last. Thanks for your shared views on this post.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
HHmmm this is a nice topic. It will depend upon the situation. It will really be hard for me to befriend my ex if the reason of our break up is so drastic. It is also more difficult to befriend his current girlfriend too. Time heals all wounds i guess. If I still happen to meet them them a good and casual talk is just perfectly fine. but to keep in contact with them would really be not advisable. The answer to your question is Yes it is still possible but let it pass for quite some time first. Have a great day!
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes, relationship is always a nice subject. Certainly, if would be awkward probably if you're still in the process of healing, but you're also right that time heals all wounds. In due time, may be we could find additional set of new friends. Thanks for your respoonse to this post, aaronfyzeon.
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
24 Aug 10
In my case, i'm friend of my ex partner, but with some distance between us, i think that we are friends because we end the relation in a good way, were there is no grudge, we tell each other the things about each other and agree that it is better to end the relation at that moment.