Do you stay in a relationship even if you're not happy at all ?

Hello my friend am pleased to answer your question.One straight forward question why should one be unhappy? We feel unhappy because we feel exhausted at someone.We feel its all over and the person's mindset can't be changed(He's final and can't be changed).Most of the problems arise because no body are trying to understand oneself and about his fellow beings.They are intersted in pointing mistakes in someone's. Love and confidence are always needed towards each other. What i mean to say is "dont get interested in blaming others but just understand others(what made him/her behave like that)" Sit together and sort out the problem(Have a nice talk). May be this will solve most of our problems. At the worser case some kind of family counselling may be helpful. We shouldn't put an end to something because its difficult to handle.Look at the consequences you are going to face if you put an end to that something(divorce) if that problem can be corrected. Can you get back those sweet experiences having family.(Because you are divorced). "Having a meal with a family is different from having a meal alone" Having family or living alone? That's it.

yeah! whatever happens, i will stick with him because its the choice i made and a covenant i made. Marriage shouldn't be taken lightly, because its a lifetime commitment. Marriage isn't like hot potato that when you're burned you could just drop it.

Hi Cajimenez, No I would not stay if I was completely unhappy. I also would not leave at the first sign of trouble. I would first do whatever I could to improve things. If in the end, the problems were still there then yes, I would leave the marriage. I can't imagine spending my life in a state of unhappiness and subjecting another person to that same unhappiness and that includes the kids. I would not want any of my daughters to stay in an unhappy marriage or relationship either.

I think it depends on the reason/s why they're unhappy? Is it because of third party? Did they already fall out of love with each other? Vices? If one can't stand being with a person every single day, I think it's better for them not to stay with the relationship. Life is so short. We should live it to the fullest. If you have relationship problems almost everyday, you'll die early.

no. if you feel you dont love this person anymore you must leave the person. bcs we all have someone for us that will love us forever and we will love also so we must not being with someone we cant be happy with. even if we have kids they will understand it bcs for sure they dont want their parents to be unhappy. is true that some people stay on it but about me i dont agree with it bcs we must live for happiness thats why we are alive to be happy^^ so let a stupid marriage and find someone else you can be happy with^^ life is too short to be wasted with someone that is not right for us^^

Happiness in a relationship is dependent on a lot things. Sometimes we are just depressed and attribute it to issues we have in that relationship. We must know that quiting in a relationship should be the last resort.

I'm not yet married but my opinion about staying a relationship particularly marriage even if you're not happy anymore is that... First and foremost, before you marry a particular person, better check and see for yourself if that person is worth sacrificing for and worth spending the rest of your life with no matter how boring it becomes. Even my parents told me that they get bored with each other at times but they just compromise and stick with the marriage not because of their children but because they respect each other and that they value their marriage vows. I have always been told that your should respect your partner more than you'll ever love him/her because in the end, throughout the course of the marriage when romance disappears, that "respect" remains mutual.

For me, it depends. If i was not happy anymore or suffering from something that is not good from someone, i would really forget all of that. Life is too short to be a prisoner of loneliness and pain. Happiness is my top priority.

Part of being happy is accepting your situation in life. If you can't accept where you are, you'll never be happy no matter what you do. I remember a story about a guy who was 65 and absolutely miserable. For months and months, he was unhappy and lethargic. He had a wife, several kids all married with families, an expensive beach front property, a luxury car. Yet he was depressed. Finally his wife called a preacher from their church, who came to talk with him. It turns out he had determined he wanted to be a millionaire by 65, and on his birthday he only had $890,000 net worth. Only $890 thousand. Why was he upset? Because he couldn't accept where he was in life. He couldn't just be happy with what he had, but rather sad over what he didn't. I've met some of the wealthiest people, who live the most unhappy lives. I've also met some of the poorest people, who live very happy lives. What makes the difference? Accepting where you are. That doesn't mean don't try and change what you can! But if there is something you really can't change, then accept it, and move on. There's a reason why the average divorced person, has been divorced 3 to 5 times. They can't accept it. They can't learn to live in the situation they find themselves. So they divorce him, and find another. But she's no good either, so he dumps her, and gets with this one over there. But that person isn't perfect either... and off they go, bouncing around from person to person to person. Marriage isn't like other things in life. It's designed to be a one time thing. It's designed to last forever. And, it's designed to force you to learn to adapt to who you are with. If you can't do that, you'll never be happy in marriage. There are very specific cases where divorce is required. But short of that, for some short-sighted 'I'm not happy' problem, no. You should stay and work out your relationship. Change who you are, and learn to be happy in the situation you are in.

I'm all for marriage and believe in its sanctity. However, if it is already killing you to be in a marriage not worth keeping, it is better that you stay out even though you had made a vow. Marriage should be taken cared of by both parties. If one of them is no longer behaving/responding properly then it's time for you to leave.

I will stay with my marriage that I vowed. I will stay with here, as long as we both work out for the best for our family. I know sometimes marriage are defied by problems. However, it is part of marriage that we should conquer. If you both feel that you are not happy anymore. then ask yourself why? Why these things happens? Going out of town would be recommended. Children will be alright if the parents are right.

No that doesn't work with me. I only stay in a relationship if both me and my love are happy. That's what i look for. For me the most important thing in a relationship is trust and that can only be possible when both the people in a relationship have faith and keep each other contented. It's all about feelings. Marriage is a completely different thing. There one takes vows to keep each other safe and sound no matter what the problem is. The bond of marriage is done between to and a hundred people who see that the persons getting married make sure that the vows are taken and they are fulfilled.

i would like to know the reasons why they are not in love anymore. I dont know how the feeling would be of not being in love. I have been married for the past 2 years and i have been happy with my wife and i love her like before and will love her till my last breathe.

many times we work with adjustment ,perhaps we see interest of family ,children and socity ,as age grows people understand ,then imp period of life is lost

i want asking you before i response you discussion in yhis mylot , you not happy with who law or wife ??? if this happen to me i wondering to get some new situation from my married , like go to camp or vacation my self or with my child nad wife too if she want join as well and if thats not get me or make me happy (unhappy) i drunk and just keep it married just for the child .. in priority child is number one to not see her parents divorce ..

For me, i will not stay in a relationship if i'm not happy at all. Because if there is happiness in a relationship the rest will follow love, respect, trust...If you're not happy all you feel is anger and not knowing that you are really miserable. why wait for that. so don't stay anymore...

Happiness is relative.

Not if you're utterly unhappy, i mean if you're unhappy and haven't tried to fixx it, then you should try to fix it, if you're unhappy and you've exhausted resources thats unfortunate and you should call it quits its not healthy and inly going to lead to infidelity and arguments.

I want to keeps the relationship if i m not happy at all.every time we appear the same relation.extremly we don't forget with others.every person is important our life.every one is considered friend as our life.

ok so the situation here is unhappy marriage... and the question is why should i? stay together for the kids? children shud be out on their own starting at 18... they shud get their own life.. but if couples are happy they can stay together though as long as they like.