Kids in their underclothes on myspace...
By natnickeep
@natnickeep (2336)
United States
August 13, 2010 8:58am CST
So I am a myspace and facebook user. I think these are great sites to find old friends and connect with people you don't get to talk to everyday. I have my friends and some of their teen kids on my page. I pretty much add anyone I know. I have noticed my a lot of very inappropriate pictures on some of their friends pages. A teen girl only 14 in a tank top and her underwear. The only thing I can think is where the heck is her mom and does she know or not that her daughter is flaunting herself in underwear only pics on myspace. Would you let this happen? What would you do about the situation when you don't know the girl or her parents? Is this right? I don't think so but what can I do about it? I know this will not be my kid, I am teaching them respect and appreciation for their body. And at only 4 and 9 they are also learning what should and should not be shared or shown on the internet. But I can't help feeling like I need to step in and do something about these other girls. But what can I do?
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10 responses
@Catana (735)
• United States
13 Aug 10
If the parents aren't responsible for their kids, then they're the ones responsible if something happens to them. I know how you feel. I'd feel the same way if my kids were on Facebook or anywhere else on the net, but it isn't your responsibility, and there's nothing you can do about it. Keep in mind that there are probably thousands of pages like those. What are you going to do, spend your life worrying about the few you can see? I just glad my kids grew up before the internet. Now that they're adults, they make their own choices about how to use it and they're mature enough to protect themselves.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
You are right. I have to worry about my own kids. Now if it was a friends kid, i sure would be calling them. Seeing if they knew and if they did, I don't know if we would still be friends.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
That is right in the end it is still their own decisions. But I would try to limit the possible bad influences. I wouldn't be friends with someone who was letting their kids act out of hand and not caring.
@Catana (735)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Hmm. I think I'd have the same problem. I need to be able to respect my friends. Not sure I could respect someone who doesn't take care of their kids. We can't keep them safe from everything, but at least we can teach them common sense and watch over them enough to make sure they don't get into avoidable trouble.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
13 Aug 10
I think the parents should keep watch on the activity of the kids not only in home but outside, more so if they use internet, join the facebook, myspace etc...
Thanks for sharing.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I agree. My older daughter is 9. She has a facebook because she enjoys the application games like farmville. I only allowed her to upload one picture of her and her cat. She can only add our family members. I keep a close eye on it for sure. Whenever she gets a friend request she lets me know and I check and say yes or no. So I already have her in the habit of sharing these things with me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I know that my children would not be permitted to post photos of themselves in their underwear on the internet when they are older. I did post a picture of my son in a t-shirt and a pair of underwear because we'd done tie-dye and he tie dyed a t-shirt and a pair of briefs. I thought they turned out wonderfully and wanted to share the result. Of course my son is only three years old so there really wasn't anything at all that we were flaunting with the picture.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I don't like to see anyone half dressed on social sites. This especially goes for children. It is just an invitation to trouble to expose pictures of children in their underclothes. Social sites are not the places for these kinds of pictures.
@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Well this is how social networks work. That cases are clearly a result of lack of supervision in the part of the parents, or even the upbringing. Sometimes these kids learn it the hard way. But there are lines that we need to take a close look at, these are private accounts, and a public site, these accounts have privacy's that we need to respect. What can you do? Learn to live with it, I guess.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Yes I didn't go looking for this persons pics though. This is their default picture and when they added my friends daughter there she was on my page. I do think it's a lack of supervision. I am glad I don't know this girls parents I guess. So basically I just gotta bite my tongue and deal with it right.
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@tymfactor03 (60)
• Australia
14 Aug 10
hmmmm it is not only is my space it is also on facebook. i saw lots of inappropriate photo and there are people who used vulgarities there but there was nothing done by anyone. So the kids may think it is right since no one stop them, and i think it is not only the parent that should educate them but also the admin of facebook and my space for not putting any restrictions for it.
i am not out to help the parents, but i think most of the time the parent do not know anything that their child has done or in doing as they themselves are "busy". To them(parents) so long my kid gives me good results that's all i want to know.
@grayxenon (1313)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
some just find an avenue in where they think they can be praised or look upon. somewhat it gives them the freedom to be a bit juvenile rebellious without causing much travel in the real world.
@scourge257 (60)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
It's normal for today's web standards imo... No, I'm not saying I do that too but, The problem is due to the lack of parent's guidance. It can be really disappointing but accept the truth. If only we could get hold of'em and teach them the standards.
@fpsninja (874)
•
13 Aug 10
Im on facebook, and i havent seen to many of pics like this, but inevitably i have seen a few. I always think to myself... what on earth are they doing? The worst ones are the ones that then add you as a friend, say they are looking for "fun" and that you look "cute" from your profile pic or something like that. Ever since then, i have changed my profile pic to the same i use for mylot. The number of these people has dropped sharply, and if anyone did do it... well then id know it was a bot!
