Do men change after marriage?

As you yourself say, both have to change with time and its only our immaturity which makes us crib about how good the courting days were and how boring the present days are! Marriage and family means a lot of responsibilities and as responsible spouse or parents, our priorities lie more with our families than ourselves…hence most of us cant hold on to our former physical self, mental set-up or carefree outlook. It would be foolish really to point out either men or women…its true that women suffer more (specially in Indian / deeply patriarchal society) but men too need to change a lot and give up a lot of good things of their bachelor days. It has to be mutual otherwise the marriage will soon disintegrate.

Unfortunately in most cases that is true. Even in relationships that is true. Today you are happy and in love, tomorrow it is a boring game and you look for something else to entertain yourself with. That happens. That is life. We all get used to it. TATA.

The status of men or women changes Vijayanths, because the two get added responsibilities[become husband/wife, father/mother etc..]. Apart from thIS their intrisic qualities may not change but their attitude changes.THis change of attitude is more pronounced in a woman than a man. As far as the spark of love not being there normally it is the men who should complain becasue once a woman gets her child her priorities, her life revolve round her children.But women may tend to say "UNNAI PAARTHAL THITUVAI POLIRUKKIRADHU.NEEYE NAASAMAI POGA"

Of course people change, that's what life is all about. Who stays the same?

Hi Vi, As per my experience, my man did change after marrying me. He did change for the better. I do the same too. We make a good pair, support, care and inspire each other for a better self...a great relationship. i am blessed with a great husband and a partner

Hi anna, both are equally responsible for love or affection on both after marriage, if we give more interest on the appearance of the partner then there will be changes, because age and responsibilities of a women will be varied from time to time. If men or women is keen on the affection, love and understanding than the appearance then there will not be any changes in the minds of both. That will be a happy family forever.

i don't think men change after marriage... but i do think they are only showing their true colors when you already live with them. of course just constantly being with a person does not mean you would already be knowing the person, his whole personality. we think the person we are with or the one we marry has changed but in reality it is just them, the true nature of their personality that we have not seen because we only see it soon after we marry and live with them.

hi vijayanths this is not all men and all women. some of us change for the better, I did not know my husband very well at first but after a year of marriage I realize he was one of the kindest, most interesting and truly funny men anywhere.So he improved and I also came out of my shell too and became more outgoing and not so shy.So for me the change was really lovely and I think we should all get to know each other better before getting married as some people should never have married the mates they did. I do think we should all try to look our best for our mates and be our best too.Also for heaven's sakes cultivate a sense of humor.

After marriage, the husband the wife have to really change their way of life. If they used to spend more time with their friends and outside home, now they should spend more time at home together so they could cooperate well in building their home. Of course the spark of love is not longer on the level as they used to experience when they were not yet married. But this does not mean the love should fade. In fact in my case, the love has turned even deeper. After marriage the love should reach the highest degree because the two has turned into one flesh, so just as one loves himself, he loves the other just as much or even more.

I believe that people change from time to time but regarding to that problem is that after your marriage there is a possible that your partner will be change not because you are already married but he made an adjustment for himself and to his family because he knows that he has now a bigger responsibility and he must work harder for the future of his family, but there are lots of cases regarding this kind of changes for men after marriage.

im not married yet ahah but there was a guy that really cared so much for me before but now that i like him too he is acting different like not interested in me anymore. why guys change this way? men always act weird and is hard to say if they love a girl or not. why guys are so complicated? anyway i think maybe you are right many women feel that after marriage things change bcs you are already together and doing all together and while just date is different. maybe the relation is not as interesting as in the beginning but you must always make a challenge exist on it. try to do different things^^

Yes definitely, because when a man is still single he can stay overnight just drinking and doing other stuff with his friends, but he got married he became considerate for the feelings of his wife. He tend to save up also for their future unlike when his single he can spend to buy anything that he wants. if he's married he only buy things that are needed and not wanted. and also household budget is his priority.

Yeah, they tend to change a lot. People become more mature and responsible in most situation. Love is also a problem in marriage, it becomes a lot more like "normal" because it seems like it has turned into a strong bone more than something sprakling. You have to give it chances to show up

I can somehow relate with what you express here. But I saw the answers in the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by Dr. John Gray. What struck me the most in that book was the discussion about the primary needs of men and women, which are, predictably, widely different. By understanding our needs and the needs of our partners, and then acting accordingly, loving communication simply springs back to life. That's not as easy as it sounds, but that's as predictable as night is unto day.

I think women change more than men, truthfully. What does change with men is that they don't need to "court" the woman anymore, so they stop doing a lot of the nice things that they did before . . . now they have access to her anytime, so why bother? But the basic guy doesn't change nearly as much as the woman, it seems.

It is very true. I changed a bunch after my husband and I got married. I became more responsible and stopped hanging out with my friends. My husband on the other hand just doesnt seem like there's anything there anymore. It seems to me that he's just there to be there. Although I know he love his children and I very much I do see and feel the difference. It has change quite a bit in the last 5 years. I'm hoping to get all of this 'fixed' though. :)

Hi Vijayanths, Yes, unfortunately the sparks seems to become dull after years of being in relationship.. I don't want to think about it coz it hasn't been a long time for me at all, lol. I don't want to understand why the spark seems to fade away but i think men get to hear the complaint first because they get pre-occupied with other things and the woman feels she doesn't receive as much attention as she used to receive in the earlier days. I don't know what changes take place on the other side but i want to find that out with experience on my own. All i wish to do is to keep the sparkle last as long as i can make it last....

most people said so but maybe it depends on the person. i know someone who didn't. actually i know three men. oh, rare to find.

as a women and a wife i have to admite that i have this fellings sometimes. sontimes is wihout any real fundation, but still can't help what you're feeling are. than when i sit down with my hubbie i found out that his feelings are pretty similur to mine. so than the spark is back. i think that every realtionship has it's ups and downs and you have to work for something to work ,not just expect the other one guess what you feel.

Your question is a bit misleading that men change rather it should have been men and women both change...yeah..its a general saying that both men and women change...yeah it happens really...because marriage brings in more responsibility and relaxation too as in ok now i have a spouse so i need not worry about things which i used to before marriage.. Sure marriage makes men and women both change for the better if not good.