belonging
By figurativeme
@figurativeme (1089)
Philippines
August 13, 2010 10:03am CST
I have often wondered why youth (or perhaps all) need to belong to a group and continue to belong to a group even when one is no longer happy with that group. I have heard complaints or cries of woes from the young on this matter but they keep on. Is it really that hard to separate from groups?
3 responses
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Wanting to be part of a group is not just in youth, it's part of human nature. We are programmed to learn from others, watch what they do and want to form social allies. It's like part of being a human being. No one wants to be lonely. Everyone wants to have some form of belonging and being in groups help us to feel in place.
@figurativeme (1089)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes, I can understand that and I agree with you. But what if one is no longer happy with the group yet one stays on. Being unhappy I suppose straings that sense of belonging. What makes one stay on? I really would like to understand because I observed this in one of the youth I know.
@inedible (768)
• Singapore
14 Aug 10
If being in the group makes them unhappy but being alone makes them even more unhappy, why wouldn't they stay in the group? Besides, they might dislike some aspects (or members) of the group but like others. They can complain about the parts they hate, while still overall liking the group more than they dislike it.
@quaye_sage (5)
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13 Aug 10
you know the qoute that says: "No Man is an Island..." ? that's the answer to your querry of belongingness...because as humans we need to feel that security and acceptance somehow...and being in a group even if that group creates a chaotic environment for that person...it still means you are with that group, there will be someone in that norm that will acknowledge your presence...right?
