Thieving daughter

i would suggest your friend to bring her daughter to a phychologist to get her problem fix or someone who could solve the problem for her. it also depends why the kid is doing that there are a few reason maybe insufficient pocket money, friends/peer pressure or it could be that she is seeking for attention. But it is best to settle the problem soon as if there is no more money she could find at home she might shoplift or something more serious and there is no turning back by that time.

Hello cbar86, We have to find out the reason for stealing money, if she is not getting money for her needs she decided to steal money as revenge. I think she can observe her daughter in a period of time. In this time she can even provide some money to her daughter. If she steals money she won’t accept it, her mother should find it out from her friends like what she is doing with money and how she spends her day…etc. I heard that this is a disorder in some kids and they tend to steal something. Her mother can solve this problem by sitting with her and asking the same in a beautiful manner. Here the violence won’t get any result instead adopt the way of ‘Love’. Love the child more and know her closely so you can solve the problem very easily.

I have an idea. How about buying a vault and put all the moneys and credit card there? Would be really nice to prevent the child from stealing. Electronic vault would also be nice, so she can hardly try to find out the password and the mother can just change the password easily.

Hi cbar86 I think your friend's daughter has a problem. Don't you think it is better for your friend to talk to her daughter--maybe she is spending the money either for herself's addiction or someone else. Don't wait too long, curtail it now rather than later.

I feel sorry for the mother ending up paying the bill. Its pretty dificult thoug because there are people behave like that, I mean they like stealing others property. I knew a number of people like that at my place. May be the mother should spend more time with her, talk to her that what she has done is wrong.

don't scold her.she doesn't know that it is such a crime.tell her about the situation in which she is binding and what the effects she will face in future and ask her what she is doing with the money.fulfill her needs so that she may change.

I havent had this problem as all my kids are still pretty young. I would however say your friend could change her pin numbers to her cards. As for the cash put it in a safe and never speak of the lock code. When it comes to power tools and other items I would have your friend contact the pawn shops in town and tell them that her daughter is taking things out of the home and not to except anything from her. I hope your friend can get this figured out and quick. If my kids were doing that to me at that age, I'd be trying to fix it and give them a fair warning that if they dont smarten up, I will call the cops.

That is awful and I feel sorry for your friend. I think your friend should have a sit down with her daughter and tell her that she knows that her daughter is responsible for all the things you mentioned. Your friend should also try to find out what her daughter is doing with that money. Is she buying things for herself? Maybe your friend should confiscate her things until she admits that she stole from her mother, and promises not to do it again. I'm not a mother so I don't really know. I hope your friend is able to find a solution to this problem.

I would make her go out and get a job and pay me back. Until she did this all she would be getting from me is a roof over her head, meals, and 7 sets of clothes. Anyother perks that she might have I would take away. She needs to learn that things have value. If she refused to get a job I would take all but mentioned above and sell it until enough money was earned to payback what she has taken. There has to be some sort of punishment. That is what I would do.

They should find the source of her "money shredder", or try to bust her for stealing parent's money with money prey. But i personally think hiding them is more sufficient