For you, is it okay to live in with your partner?

I am actually living in the house of my partner's family since I came to their city to find a job.., we had been dating for four years now and his parents knew me ever since we started dating.., they offered me a room in their house because it would be safer and convenient for me to stay with them while i am still looking for a job.., My parents were against it at first but once they met my boyfriend's family.., they learn to accept that arrangement..=)

hi ggravago, sounds like your parents have some pretty strict moral standards. I moved out of my parents home back in the 70's when I was 18. I ended up marrying my boyfriend, not because of what my parents wanted but because it was important to him. I would have been ok with living together. My parents would have been like yours I think at first because in their beliefs, living together without marriage was a sin. Well the marriage didn't work out and I got a divorce. Next time around, I did live with my boyfriend. I was about 25. Oh they were furious at first....especially my mom. My dad was a lot more understanding and accepting. It bothered me some but it was my life. They came around and even ended up getting along with my boyfriend. I bet your parents will calm down and come to accept it. They love you and you are not a disgrace to them. They just want what is best for you and obviously they don't believe that living with your boyfriend is what is best. In the end, whether they agree or not, they will find a way to just deal with it.

not for me, no i think it is not advisable to do so. living together should come after the wedding, after marrying each other. it would be too convenient for the both of you, especially the guy when you live with each other with out such commitment of marriage.

So this is some kind of fairytale situation because you were able to live in with the one you love with out marriage. If you are totally happy with it and your partner also then you must get married soon before everybody else know about it and it might cause sadness and conflict with other people. Sometimes you have to do the right thing just to make others happy. Seven months already a long time and I think getting to know each other with you partners is long overdue. It's about time to plan on the next step. But if you think you still not ready yet don't get in to marriage. Just take your time.

aww your bfs parents dont know about you and him? what do they think? that he lives alone? i think that his parents should know about it. is nothing wrong that you guys live together as long as you love each other and both work so you can support yourselves and be happy^^ also live with someone you love is not about age mostly what matters are feelings you both share^^ be happy with him but dont forget that his parents must know what is happening^^

Gravago, if you really think that you are in the right age to do it, then it's all right. But maybe there are something you are wrong that you should take him to your parents before you are living with him. What's parents doing is all for their children. Maybe to some extent, they are disappointed or sorrowful for this things, the ultimate purpose is good for you. Don't worry, what you should do is taking him to your parent, asking them whether you are suitable or matchable.

If your over the age of 18 then I dont see anything wrong. But why wouldnt your boyfriends parents know about you guys? I can see as a parent being alittle upset especially if you guys just started dating, then yeah thats alittle too quick. But if you guys have been together for awhile which it dont sound like then I dont see anything wrong.

wow...it`s forbidden in my country and in my faith mind...tell me, why do you choose that decision?i mean the decision live with your partner before marriage?

I too had a live in relation with my wife before marriage...Its not the right thing to do in a country like India. We were togather for 5 months and then we got married as i was flying abroad...My parents didnt like it...nor did her parents. But after marriage things have been fine. Never let yourslef get the feeling of disgrace. Time is the best medicine and things will go fine.