Dealing with other People

Philippines
August 14, 2010 11:18pm CST
Hi guys, I just wanna know how do you deal with other people around you. I am not good dealing with other people. I am not a person who will use to do the first move in knowing a person. Like, when I am new in one environment like in school. When i move at AMA University, I don't know what to do. I don't know how to have a friend. I also don't know how can i deal with those person that I don't know the personality. But thank God because time went by, He gave me friend. You guys, how do you deal with other People which have the personality you hate most?
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10 responses
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Well, I easily adjust to people. Most especially that I am in the business of meeting different kinds of people everyday. I do training and travel a lot. With my work, I meet a lot of people from all walks of life. I easily get along. But there are those that you could see that are different from others. There are those that really feel to great about themselves. I do not have a problem with such. As I have said, I am a person who can easily adjust. Despite that fact that I do talk a lot due to my work, I also listen. What is important is that each of us will respect each other.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Thank You! I am a person who can't adjust easily in new environment. I hope I can develop that kind of personality so that i can win in this life. Thank You Again!!!
@cjsalas (109)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Hi princejhaizee! Dealing or approaching with other people - should we say stranger - is really difficult. But one powerful tip that I can say is through non verbal communication. When somebody looks at you and you also look them as well, put a smile. If they approach you, it's a start of friendship. Hmmm on the other hand, one should develop confidence in talking to people in all walks of life - ask simple and short questions could build a strong friendship in the future.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Thank You!!! Hmmmmnnnn. Nice Advice... I like your answer. But i sometimes even though I smile, i am afraid to talk. Maybe my problem is that I can't have enough confidence. But thank you again. God Bless!
• United States
15 Aug 10
Hi, If you come across a person who's personality you dislike just try to avoid them I guess. But it's still good to be polite and acknowledge people. As for me I've always been a shy person. I tried to make friends in my apartment complex but people don't seem interested in being friends. One woman talks to me outside her apartment but she doesn't want to go get coffee or seem to want to do anything (go out) with me. This other woman I tried to be friends with by keeping her packages safe for her until she returned home from work but afterwards she did fill out a reference form I needed. However she never would talk to me even for 1 minute. From things she said I've drawn the conclusion she thinks she's better then me since she is studying to become an Engineer. My best advice in making new friends is to be friendly and helpful. Just know that some people will like you while others won't.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Thank You for your advice. It helps me a lot. I'm avoiding strangers people that has the personality i don't like so that i can get away in trouble they can make. thank you again
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Aug 10
I have never had a problem with dealing with other people. i have had several jobs in the past where dealing with people was a necessity. i just try to treat people in a way that i would want to be treated. Kindness and respect are qualities everyone needs to show each other. This usually works out well for everyone involved.
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
hi princejhaizee I don't have any problems dealing with other people. I am normally the one who starts the conversation even if I don't know the person. That is one way of earning friends. Of course, I will choose the person that I want to talk with and its not any Tom, Paul or Harry. Try it and come out of your shell. If you feel that you won't be able to tolerate him or her, then promptly say goodbye.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Oh,,, thank you! Maybe you have a good self-confidence. I hope I can do what you are doing!!! Thank You Again for your advice.
@srineeya (52)
• India
16 Aug 10
in my orkut i deal with other people in my way is comedy. joke is the suddenly picking up friends. a man without joke living. so always keep smiling face and nice talk to others
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
15 Aug 10
well, its really hard for us to deal with the one whose personaity is not as per your like but we have to deal with them. Come infront of every people smiling and make them feel that you are comfortable and are happy always. Present yourself infront of then giving your introduction whenever you come across new friends. Be friendly top them but not open at first time. You meet them talk to them and know them slowly. Even sometimes it happens that the person who have the personality we hate bedcome close to us after few time...
@jugsjugs (12967)
15 Aug 10
If there is a person that i am not sure of what kind of person they are then i will tend to not get too involved with them.However i think that everyone no matter what kind of personality they have are worth in giving a chance.I tend to avoid the people that i can not mix with well.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
15 Aug 10
It is easy to say "just avoid them" when talking about someone that behaves in a manner we don't like. Unfortunately, it is something that we do need to deal with since we never know where and when we are going to meet people or how much influence these people actually have on our lives. You say you moved to AMA University. Have you gotten along well with all your professors? How about the support staff? Other students? Your boss? The list is endless. If we are going to enrich our lives and minimize outside interference that affects our reaching set goals, we need to develop strategies for dealing with individuals that we don't like in ways that will not hurt others or ourselves. We should not focus so much on those behaviors we cannot control in others and perhaps find things we can. Meantime, we need to focus on those things inside us that we can control and change so that we can utilize them to control our lives and insure success in achieving our goals.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Dealing with people is what I do everyday. If you are just new to one environment then all you have to do is be yourself. Do not pretend to be somebody who you are not just for you to fit in or be liked by other people. Being yourself will come naturally in you and don't miss the opportunity starting friendship with anyone you came along with. Not everybody will be your friends but then just be nice and stay cool. If you are thinking that your personality or theirs won't jive into yours then don't fret, each one of us has our own differences. There will be some qualities that would fit with you and other people. Just don't forget to smile when you talk to them because this is a good thing for a first impression. Have a great week ahead.