hi guys. what would you do in my place?
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
Portugal
August 15, 2010 8:52am CST
hi guys^^ there was this guy i loved truly much. we met online and were best friends. he really did care for me but after awhile he started to change his attitude. and when he met a girl that he loved he acted even worse. she knew i loved him and she said to me he loved me and i said i dont believe that and she said is true and he said why you say that? that was a secret and he said he loves me. then i said no he doesnt love me he loves you and then he said he loves her. and they said they were just joking. i became so upset and told i hate him and he said dont be on hating me and was saying i love you to everyone.the girl said was her fault and for me dont be angry with ian, the guy name.then he said he knows im good to him that he was the bad for me bcs he also started to ignore me when i talked sometimes. then one day he admit to me he likes that girl and i said i will help him and ask her how she feels for him. bcs she had a bf already. she said she has feelings for him but cant do nothing for now. so i let that and continued talking with him. then one day she said i was fake bcs pretended was her friend and told ian i didnt like her. well i didnt tell ian i didnt like her i just said i didnt like her attitude that day bcs she knew how i loved him and even joked about he loves me. and she said was her using his account that day and saw it. then she said i talked with her bf and said she likes someone else. and i never did that. i just said hi to her bf two times bcs she wanted me to meet her bf so i said hi that day i met him and two other times and how he was normal questions. so when she said i did that i said i didnt and the guy i loved he was reading all she was accusing me and he said he doesnt know in who to believe :( and didnt defend me when she humiliated me :( and she even said i love you ian do you love me? just for me to read him saying that but he didnt say. i talked with her bf and i said you know i didnt talk with you in yahoo bcs she said i talk with him in yahoo. and he said a girl called catarina, that is my name, messaged me in tagged and said that khulitz, that girl that humiliated me, likes someone else. i never did that! so me and my sis think that maybe she created a profile with my name bcs she was only one who would win something with this :( how can i prove to him that she lied? :( i really loved this guy and his profile is just dedicated to that girl. she was mean so mean and even people think she is a saint :(
6 responses
@choconut (297)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
he's not worth it! I know this sounds harsh, but accept the fact that he doesn't like you so move on. You can't defend yourself to him, because he's too blinded of love for her, and she's using that to her advantage. You said she knew that you love him, and she and ian have a mutual feelings but she has a boyfriend. So the only way that she could get ian is to let you meet with him, so she can use you as an excuse to let go of her relationship to go with ian. Ian will not listen to you even though you tried you best, or even though you use a lie-detector test just to prove your innocence. Because your a friend, and she's someone special. Normally at times like this friends, especially those with hidden feelings, should be the one to say goodbye. If he's a true friend, he would stick by you because a friend will never lie to a friend just to get what they want. A friend will stick with you even when the world's against you. A friend will let a date with the hottest guy/girl in town just to be with you on your lowest moment in life. That's real friendship, sure it may sound idealistic but its true. He's not worth of your live, your time and your understanding, so just leave him alone with the other girl. And start living your normal life. Besides, how can you say that you truly love him? You met on the internet, he's nice and sweet and all those positive attitude you see in him at first, is that all the reasons you have? Don't you think that its just infatuation? Love is deeper than that, and mostly it wouldn't start with just a peek on his good shoes, love is loving their totality, meaning their good and bad shoes. If you can't accept the bad shoes then better hold your heart, because you're in a roller-coaster ride.
Girl, guard your heart, don't let it break just because you thought it was love but it was not. Don't let it slip, and fall too hard too fast. You deserve better. God bless (",)
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
15 Aug 10
yes i didnt meet him near but i really loved him :( even after that girl humiliates me and he ignores me so much i continue trying to come close to him :( even was in internet i really did love him. i cried so so much :( and still hurts me now how he could think i lied :( and believed her. i really thought he was the one for me and i really wanted to meet him in his country :( how could he act like that? :(
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
15 Aug 10
Hello :)
If i was you, i would step back. It looks really confused and i'm sure you can't do nothing to change that. May be that guy has feelings for her and may he trust her more ... i don't know and can't know what is it, but i would really fill my mind with something else. I know what is it to love someone and he to stay away, living his life, at the same time i wish and dream about him and care, also ... :) But this is only time wasting... Let the time change this things, if you can't prove that you are not so mean and wouldn't do that kind of things she said you did :)
I'm sure that the truth will be understood :) it doesn't matter when. But it will be.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
15 Aug 10
yes sugar but what makes me so sad is that we really were best friends he knew my personality he knew i would never do something to hurt him :( and he prefered to believe that girl :( thanks for your advices and i really wish he finds out who she is soon :(
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
16 Aug 10
Sweet, you are really sweet :) I always read your discussions about love, and last days i found a lot of them ;)
One lie can't live so long, don't worry. He will understand, i hope that will be soon. All we got cloudy moments when we don't think with our brains, but with our feelings or wishes, but at the end, only truth is live, nothing more ;)
Don't worry. Just wait a little. Hugs.
@homiejoe2 (57)
• United States
16 Aug 10
Yeah honestly i would not wait up for this guy. Just get on with your life. I'm a guy and this is my attitude towards things, if you don't like me and are a stiff to me, piss off why do i have to try so hard to try and get you to like me. I would stop talking to him and then maybe after a while he will begin to realize what he's missing. Hope this helps!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
16 Aug 10
thanks joe^^ yes i know he was so bad to me but this makes me angry how he is happy with her that she humiliated me and even lied about me. he doubted about my word and we were best friends. how can people be so blind? how couldnt he see she was lying? even i loved him why would i talk with her bf and say to him she likes someone else? for her to be away from guy i liked? i wouldnt do that and ian, guy i liked, should know that bcs we were best friends. how could he think i did that? even she humiliated me and he didnt even defend me.
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
16 Aug 10
I would walk away from the lot of them. Why would you want to love someone who doesn't love you enough to believe you over her and not stick up for you no matter what. Sounds like him and her deserve each other. Maybe you should hook up with her boyfriend and tell him what she has been doing.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Plain and simple! all you have to do is block them to view your profile in tagged. do not talk to them for a while. make the guy choose once and for all if it's you or his friend. We sometimes need to set an ultimatum for them to realize that what we feel to is real. It should not be joked about just like what you stated here. And I think a week ago you posted here that you already have a bf that the guy introduced you to his family. Just be with this guy because that is a real relationship. Any relationship that was here on the internet is purely superficial. You have to dwell in the real world.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
16 Aug 10
yes aaron i told about other guy the one i like right now^^ but this guy i told in this message was a guy i loved before him and today i saw his profile and he is all happy with that girl and she lied about me thats what i hate. she lied and humiliated me and he even is happy with her like she didnt do nothing. why he acts like this when i always was so caring to him?
@xinpusenyijia (3)
•
16 Aug 10
hello:
i know it is hard for you to choose now , i never fall in love with a girl on the internet ,but i do konw the feeling you have now . you know what ,i have had date with a girl ,she is my best friend ,and we just hang out everyday , i love her but i didnot have the guts to say i love her ,but one day i have the courage to tel her " i love you " ,she daid you must be kidding , she said she does not have the feeling to me . and she does not want to see me any more .i feel so sad and i am a loser .
