Do you give your child an allowance?

Hello Suzieqmom. I think it is a good idea to have a certain allowance plan for your kids. I don's think you should associate the allowance with their chores however. You wouldn't want you kids to think that they will get money for doing their chore, but that they don't have to do them. Kid's should always have chores that they have to do. If you put money into the picture of doing their chores they see it as, if they do the chores they'll get money for it. But if they don't they won't get the money. Chores are called chores because it's something that a child has to do in the household, it's not an option. I think that the allowance should come from side chores that the kids don't need to do. Like pulling weeds, or watering plants, good grades at school, etc. That is the good way to keep your kids in line and giving them a little extra reward in the middle. You also can get them to do a little more around the house. ;)

Hi Suziegmom When my daughter started preschool until Grade 2 they were not allowed to go to the canteen to eat. So she has her food and snacks with her. She only get to have money when she was in Grade 3 and that was just to buy her lunch. Until now that she is in her Sophomore year in high school, I only give her food allowance no more no less. If you were to ask me I will not allow my daughter to have too much money.

Hi Suzieqmom, I do give my daughter a small allowance. I really can't give her much but is for her to use if she wants to go to the movies with her friends, snacks or maybe just save. When she first started getting it, it was spent pretty quickly. It did not take her long to realize that I provide all of her real needs and that saving it was maybe the better option. As for chores and housework...I agree with you. They are separate. I let all my kids know that it was not MY home but rather OURS and it is up to ALL OF US to keep it clean and to take pride in it. When they were young of course that meant tolerating the house being decorated in beanie babies and crayon art etc which was a part of what made the cleaning fun for them. I only have my 16 yr old at home now and while I've never demanded that she do certain chores (never did with any of them) she does vacuum and clean the bathroom etc. when I'm at work. If she is going out, she will grab the trash. We work well together. She has even cleaned "our" car knowing that she will not be paid. It just makes sense to me to make them a part of things. Why do we bother doing dishes and other chores? Because it is our home and we care about it. That is what we have to instill in our kids.

I do not do chores, therefore I do not get any allowance. I have asked my mom what chores I can do to make money so I can pay for my texting, and she said she wouldn't give me allowance because that would just count as her paying for my texting anyway! Haha! I don't think that allowance should just be given to kids, because that makes them believe that if they don't work they will still get paid, which most likely won't work out in life unless you're either very lucky, or on unemployment.

i did give them allowances when they were in high school and college. son is still in college so he receives a daily allowance for fare and food. not really big because i dont have lots of money to give. but even if i have lots of money, the allowances will be considerate and not over.

I don't have a family yet, but I want to have that kind of discipline to my future kids, I want them to earn their allowances, so they will learn how to value money, and really experience how hard it is to earned it in an early age. Because i want to trained them early before they learned to live a happy go lucky kids... I want them grow mature and fulfilled. But i want to make sure that they understand what is my gal why I am doing that, and make sure they will still enjoy their youth... but as I grow I learned that I would enjoy life if I learned how to stand on my own and support myself in an early age. God bless you and your whole family, I pray that you will both raised your children well and according to God's rules. may God protect and cover the unity, love and commitment of your family forever. And may God bless you a heart and mind full of humility and understanding and courageous increasing faith as a wife and mother. Have a wonderful mother and wife day!

I haven't really formally started giving allowances to my kids. I am not sure if they already have the concept of money, I have one 6 years old and one 5 years old. I am just starting to train my 6 years old regarding how to handle money. I don't think I want my boys to get used to helping out in the house only when they get to receive money. I plan to give them a regular allowance and teach them to save some of their money and then use the rest to buy what they want. I don't intend to give them a lot, only half a dollar a week hehe

It depends on their ages. If they age at around less or 7 years old i dont think its the right idea to give them allowances. i can remember when i was in grade 2 my grandma give me P1 allowance for the whole week.She made it clear that it should for the whole week if you used all of it on day one then you will have to go for the rest of the week with out any allowance. As to the completing the chores before giving the allowance i dont know but i disagree with the idea. It seems that you are teaching them to do household chores in return of the money. Just what exactly what happened to my cousins. My grandmother and grandfather cannot ask them some help if they cant pay for it because they are taught that way. Let them do household task without paying. If you want to give some incentives for doing good you can just treat them to eat out or have some family picnic or anything that will make them enjoy without having them think they got it becuase they do household chores.

For me I gave them if they have knowledge how to buy the food they eat and budget the money i gave.

My daughter is only 3 so she is to young but it is something that I have already started to think about. I do not think she should get paid for cleaning her room or putting her clothes in the hamper. These are things she alredy does now. She also feeds the dogs everynight. I think as she gets older she should get a set amount, but she also has to keep up with her chores to get it. I wouldn't feel right giving her an allowance if she wasn't pulling her weight. So I guess I don't know. It is a hard descission to make. I will want to give her options to earn extra if she needs to. I know at one point my mom actually listed everything that we needed to do and we got a set amount if those things were done. If we did everything then we would get so much each week. But when we didn't do something we wouldn't get the money. I got to make extra money by doing my sisters chores if I wanted to then I would get the amount for her chores as well. It was hard for my mom because my sister never wanted to do anything and didn't care if she didn't get any money. But on the other hand I would want to earn the money so I would do it. It is funny how different kids can be. So I guess I will have to try out a few things until I find what works for us. I have a feeling though my daughter will be like me, she already tells us she needs her piggy if she finds some change on the floor or while we are out and we can leave any money sitting out because she thinks it is for her and asks for her piggy! I guess it needs to be for doing somthing not just for free.

I don't think it will lead to some serious problems if we give some allowance to our children properly. When they are growing up gradually, they need to get independent, both thoughts and actions. If we can show our kids some allowance, then they will learn how to make a choice and choose the solution following their own needs, which is called judgment ability. They will live alone sooner or later, and they need to keep independent and make decisions themselves.

I think almost children still not mature yet. We will not know how they control themselves by right way. We need believe in them, but in advance you should know how they can solve the situations. If you sure your kids are mature, you can do your way. If you are not sure about their thinking, you can agree to your husband's way. Good luck to your family!

I think giving a child a weekly allowance is a great way of making them understand the value of money. I believe the allowance is to be used for what they want to buy and do (within reason). My view is if a child is given everything sometimes they do not understand the value of money and I have seen it when they have bought items themselves they value them. Its a tough one as when they want to buy with their own money something they want which you don't approve what do you do?

I think it should be a mix on allowance and earning it. They have to realize that to get money they have to make an effort, money doesn't grow on trees. Give them enough money to spend but also the need of saving for bigger reasons... that way they will learn to be patient and will enjoy twice their achievements. Good luck

I believe children need an allowance so that they get an idea about how to manage money. I am with you in your views. That is pretty much how we did things at my house when the kids were still here. I read somewhere that all members of the family should have a share in the resources, and so children should have a reasonable allowance. By the same rule, all family members should share in the responsibilities of the family, such as cleaning up and foldin laundry. They are privileged to be part of a family and need to help within the family. Now for extra money, they can do things that are usually beyond their responsibility. You child may be supposed to take out the trash, as a chore. If, in addition, after trash day they wash out the trash cart, then they should get paid for the extra work.

HI, My son is definitely too young to get his weekly allowance. The best time to give some allowance for my son is when he reached his Primary 4 level,at that point of time, he knows more things and know what is good and not good to eat. Of course, I will be strict on his food intake. I don't allow him to buy sweets with the allowance. Of course, by getting our child to help in housechores,it is to train them to be a responsible person and let them to be independent. Once a while,it is good to give them some rewards for being helpful at home.

My dear I never give my kids a school allowance. I have talked with the canteen operator in their school to give my children the kind of foods that I know are healthy for them to eat. And in the house I give them a reward for accomplishing their duties and responsibilities at home. Because at a very young age I want them to become a responsible individual, so I encourage them by giving what they wanted if all their tasks are done. If I gave them money it would be as less as possible because they want something they can deposit on their piggy bank. Allowance in school can be given to high school students because they are old enough to handle cash than those of the elementary students.

I don't give my kids an allowance but I do buy them what they need. Although if they want to go out with their friends and such, they have to do work around the house to earn the money. Cleaning their rooms is not something that they get paid for as it is all their mess so they have to keep them clean. If their rooms aren't clean then they can't earn money until they clean their rooms and then do other jobs around the house. As a parent I feel it is important for me to supply them with what they need but if it is something they want then they must earn the money.

I do give my kids an allowance but it is based on chores. If they do their chores, then they get and allowance. If they don't do their chores, then no allowance. I don't give my kids money "just because". I believe that they should earn it just like we have to earn money at a job. If we don't show up for work our employer won't pay us "just because". I give allowance for chores to teach my kids responsibility and that they have to work for what they want. I don't ever want them to think that everything can be handed to them "just because".

heloo friend your husband did it well. the purpose of an allowance for kids is very small only. but in kid's mind, more creativity power chance to raise for this allowance. you did also very well because kids clearing their plates, feeding their pets and extra. for their small allowance the kids creating new events. it is very secrete to growing kids. because now a days kids are more power. so we must utilized kids power thank you