Why do people say 'working Mum' and 'stay at home Mum'?

@dorypanda (1601)
November 17, 2006 6:27am CST
Surely a Mum is working by default, if someone is a Mum and cares for their home and children, isn't that working?
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Of course it is. I think the expression working mum is very redunant actually. All moms work some just happen to work outside of the home as well as at home. They really should come up with better, more clear cut terms for such things because they are misleading. I know some feel if a mother stays at home they do nothing all day and that is so not true. Be nice if it was but it isn't. They work and often it is overlooked and never thanked.
@dorypanda (1601)
29 Jan 07
Thank you for your response, yes I do think there should be a better title than 'working Mum'.
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@nannacroc (4049)
17 Nov 06
I know from experience that I worked a lot harder when I stayed at home with my children than I've ever done since. There was no finishing time, no time off and no holidays. All of which I can have now that I go out to work. Maybe it was unpaid but it was the most rewarding work I ever did and I have three really lovely people as daughters.
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@dorypanda (1601)
18 Nov 06
Yes you do, and your eldest daughter is especially lovely. :P
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@chukwudi (1098)
• Nigeria
18 Nov 06
yes it working ,and the bset work to do is to take care of the home
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
17 Nov 06
Well, what most people refer to as a Working Mom, is when they work outside the Home somewhere to support their family. A Stay at Home mom is refered to one who stays at home and earns Income online from a Business venture etc. But I see where you are coming from in your thoughts. Yes, a mom who is staying home taking care of the home cooking, cleaning and caring for their kids works harder than a lot of the women out there who work for someone else.
@mistypq (673)
26 Nov 06
A mum is just a mum thats what shes here for to look after us!!!!! I have heard this many times but I know how hard us mums work 24hours a day 7days a week so where is are PAY we are worth a million!!!!!
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@pumpkinjam (8769)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 06
I agree with you. Every good mum works. People usually refer to someone in paid employment who also has children as a "working mum". I have stopped using the phrase "stay at home mum" basically because most good mums don't stay at home all day despite what some people think. I say "full time mum" instead. But I still say "working mum" to refer to someone in paid work outside the home but more specifically, I would refer to someone who works full time outside the home and spends more time at work than with her children. Bascially, I still say working mum because it would sound silly if I started saying "someone who works full time who also happens to have kids".
@nehakalley4 (1918)
• United States
17 Nov 06
It is the word working used in the sense that the person is ding something for its living, moreover when a mom is working outside it is sill taking care of the house as well as the kid
• United States
18 Nov 06
Moms at home work too taking care of the children and the house. When I had posted a question about working moms. I meant this :Mother's who physically leave the house to clock in and work at a company, and make a pay check. I'm sorry if anyone takes offense to this. but a stay at home mother is not technically a working mother, unless ofcourse your doing a money earning job at home whilst taking care of the children. Yes you are working because you have things to do at home, bathe the children watch them, take them places clean ect. but that is not technically a working mom, why? because those are your children that you chose to have and you chose to stay home and clean and watch them. That is not earning you a pay check. Your children are not clocking in and clocking out job. Hey I have a child too. I work at home (paycheck job online) and study and take come classes and I will work outside soon again. I cook and clean while I am at home too, I help my child with her homework and what not, but that is what I chose to do. I chose to have a child and it's not a paying job. it is a rewarding job but not a paycheck job. :)
@dorypanda (1601)
18 Nov 06
Sorry but I haven't seen your question. It just annoys me when people assume that when you are a Mum and don't physically go out to work and earn money that you aren't actually doing anything useful. I've been a 'stay at home Mum', a full time 'working Mum' and a part time 'working Mum', now I'm an out of work, no choice whether I stay at home or not because I haven't got a job Mum. At the moment I have absolutely no choice whether I work or not as there aren't any jobs out there for me, there aren't even any cleaning jobs going round here at the moment. I think the hardest 'job' in the world is being a Mum.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
31 Jan 07
You have a point there and I agree with you mom are the most hard working person. Actually this working mom term is to distinguish between the two sorts where apart from working for kids at home they go out also to work that is addditionally working moms we mean.
@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
17 Nov 06
I think a mum of any kind is a working mum BUT when i say "working mum" i mean a mum who works outside the home and when i say "stay at home mum" i mean a mum who stays at home looks after the children and the house!
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• India
6 Dec 06
mom are not workers they are home makers i love my mom all the things she do i will be glad if i can do a half of it
6 Dec 06
can I just say firstly that I dont see looking after my daughter as working she is my life. Working mum says what it is working and a mum and usually from home as a past comment refered to having a business from home on-line!!!!!!!!!