perfect age to get marry

If you are not mature enough to say "NO" to your parents. You are certainely not mature enough to get married. And since you had no girlfriend. You obviously have little interest in them. You have to do what works for you. And if you are happy the way things are, You should not change them. A man is never too old to get married. So you have plenty of time. I believe it is a case of your parents being selfish and wanting you to give them grand-children. You obviously also living in a culture where parents rule the life of their children. It would not be so bad if you wanted a bride. But since you don't, it is not a good thing.

Hi Shibham, After going through other's responses i really don't have much to add to what they have said, but i can only say, that since your parents are searching a women for you, they would be quite considerate about choosing the right girl for you. They would choose the kind which would suit you best, i mean like someone who would get along with you easily and not make it look like you will be the only one who carry the whole burden of your family, so you should not worry too much about that. Even then, you would have to make up your mind for committing to this relationship and taking the responsibilities as a husband, there is no escaping from that.

I see you have several sympathetic and helpful replies but mine is not like that. You are 31 and you are relying on your parents to find you a wife. For goodness sake grow up and get a life. I am not suprised you are worried about being a husband as you are clearly living under your parents influence and domination. Get out there and find yourself a girl to marry and find out who you really are not who your parents want you to be. I found my girl on my own and we have been married for 53 years and brought up 4 children. There is no perfect age to get married there is no perfect marriage. We are all humans and none of us are perfect. You just have to do the best you can with what you have got and deal with the problems as they arise.

I think marriage is not for everyone. If you force yourself into it, this might be the cause of unhappiness in the future. It is better that you wait some more until you feel that you are really ready for it. Find a good woman who can be a good life partner to you. Know her background and from here you will know if she is the right person for you.

For me there is no ideal when to get married as long as you yourself is reaady for that commitment and of course stable in these are which is emotional,spiritual and finacial and you are ready to go. Do not worry you are just only 31 years old,Did you know that when my husband and i get married he was 37 years old never been married he is a bachelor and i was 28 years. So in short do not worry everything has a perfect reason and saeson. before we got married i myself really pray for a husband and the same for my husband he prayed for a wife. I think you should do that pray for a wife and ask GOD that he will give it to you and i know GOD will not disappoint you. GODBLESS.

While most of us plan to marry and want to marry, marriage isn't for everyone. By now you know whether it's something you really want. If you do not want to be married, then DON'T. You need to be fair to yourself AND to the woman who you would marry. It's not right to get her into a relationship where both of you are miserable because you wanted to live up to your parents expectations. Ultimately, you need to decide what you truly want. As for the type of woman you DO NOT want, how about finding one who shares the same values as you? Surely there are women out there that aren't in a rush to marry, will not become 'dependent' upon you (find a strong, educated woman who can support herself now, without you, and she probably will continue to do so even after marriage). And maybe one who doesn't want kids, if you don't want them (is there anything worse than a child brought into this world with only one parent really there because the other uses work, friends, and other interests as an excuse not to interact with the child?). Also you keep talking about how SHE must not be dependent. How SHE must support YOU. What are you offering? When she needs someone, will you be there for her? If she decides to do something that perhaps you don't agree with, but is important to her, will you compromise to help her achieve a dream or goal? If you can't do these things for her, you shouldn't be marrying ANYONE. Just my two cents.

I think you should get married when you find the right person and when you are both ready. And not everyone can raise a family, it is very hard, but it is also very rewarding. And I wouldn't worry about how your children will see you, as long as you are doing what is right, then that is all you can do..The most perfect parent in the world had children that rebelled, we all do, but sooner or later that child does come back to you..:)

shibham, I have literally read all the responses here and I was contemplating if this is really YOUR problem when your silence has been nothing but deafening. You do not even speak for yourself after so many responses and as such I will sound off just what is on my mind. I believe that the words "perfect" and "marriage" seems to be overwhelming and frightening to you. Is there really perfection in this world? What's with this obsession with a failing relationship? Have you become so rationalized with obtaining 'perfect scores' and 'good results' that you cannot have the imagination and higher understanding that there are times in love (and life) when you must fall in the beginning to win later? The irony of Love is why focus on the fact that a relationship would fail when one should focus on leading the relationship while it last and make the best out of it? Think about it!!

Hiya shibham, I would agree with getbiswa2000 to a point. It´s very difficult for me to say anything but I would first meet up with the Girl and see how you get on also. Maybe your Parents would be happy with that for now. You might well like her and fall in love with her. You are bound to have those kind of doubts anyway at any age this kind of thing does not belong to one age everyone has doubts about things. In my case I had no doubts I don´t know why I never doubted he was for me from the first Day so I feel a bit silly telling you that but if it was me and I was in that position I would try and meet and see how it works out. Can you turn back now if you want to say no? I mean if nothing works out between you? Maybe talking to your Parents might help if they will listen. Wish I had some better advice than that but above all just keep your cool whatever and don´t rush into something that does not feel right. If it was my Son I would tell them to take things easy if they are not sure give it time if they can and see what happens. They have both had serious relationships before but are not with the right one yet I don´t think. But I just take it as it comes with them.

Hi, Your age is just perfect for marriage. Don't worry about that. This dilemma you are having is quite normal. But don't worry things will be all right. If you don't want to have a family right now, then just don't. First start by having a friendship with your wife. Family is not always a burden. A family if supportive enough manifolds your strength. But you have to take the responsibility and focus on building a healthy relationship with your spouse. Always respect her as a person rather than as a woman. Until you get yourself into a serious relationship you will never learn to handle it properly. It hardly has any association with your age. Thanks. God bless you

Hello shiby. You sound a bit distraught, sweetie. Relax, will you? You don't really get a perfect age to get married. Anything between 25-35 is the best options, but it is for you to decide. You don't get a perfect husband or wife. No one on this planet can or will ever be perfect. Not as a human nor in any relationship. I would say you are the right age, but it is still your decision. If you want to wait another 4 years, then wait. You do not have a mental problem. TATA.

well, if marry is ready for the picking, why wait for any particular age to get marry? probably, what you meant was get married, not get marry?

Prior to getting married, one has to be mature enough to realize: Love is not enough; the stresses of a young couple are real, and the struggle for decent jobs, housing, and health insurance are real stresses that can destroy any couple. Why rush to take on difficult adult responsibilities? Consider your own needs, goals, and relationship requirements. Does your partner satisfy them? It is rare for a teenage or young adult to have enough life experience to know what they really want. You MUST be totally emotionally, physically and financially independent from your parents. Healthy marriages require two independent individuals to make a complete whole. Young couples typically marry to get away from their parents or a negative home environment, but there are other ways to cope. Relationships need time to see if behavior patterns are consistently healthy. So ask, how long has this union been happy and healthy? Get to know yourself. What do you want in life? What do you wish to contribute to the world and how? Live purposefully, then you'll meet others with similar world views and life visions. I think there age doesn't matter my friend...as long as you realized the above factors then you are now ready to get marry :)

when my parents got married my mom was 29 and my dad 34 and they havent separated until now i guess they were matured enuf emotionally and financially stable when they settled down. so i think it would be the right marrying age but theres really no guarantee in marriage that it would last forever nowadays. i wouldnt say anything so i wouldnt eat my words later on hahaha!!

you are not too young to get married many marry from much younger ages. I think that you should marry when you know you are 100% happy to spend the rest of your life with the other person. When you are truly inlove you will know the feeling and know that you have met that person who will forever light up your life. When that day comes (or if it has been) then you are ready to marry pick a date your comfortable with. Forget what other people say. marridge lasts a life time, so you'll have plenty of time to make your mind up!! Goodluck.

hello dear bhai, I don't know what to say about this thing,becoz,you were saying here to marry someone you don't know or love at all,an arranged marriage with your parents choice. In building a family,love is the best foundation. It takes two person to build a home and a family. And building a home is not just about marriage of two person. I married someone i love,someone i trust and someone i share my life with. Becoz,living together and not knowing each other will be quiet hard to understand each other. If lovers deal with trials and problems,what more with two strangers getting married to each other and lived together (to think it is lifetime commitment) If i were to be ask dear brother,why don't you look for someone whom you really love and feels comfortable to live with. If you think you are not prepared to start a new life ,it is becoz,you don't have someone to inspire you. If you love someone and wants to marry her,you will not think if you can be a good husband ,but,you will always have in mind to be a good husband to her becoz you loved her and your life won't be complete without her. So,marrying is not just a matter of getting married to start a family,but,it is a lifetime commitment that needs inspiration to face trials and sufferings with someone you love. And not someone whom you always doubting if she can understand you or not. Love can stand the test of time,it holds you to go on and face whatever difficulties there is to start a family of your own. Better marry someone you love,to live and to die for. Happy Monday dear bhai

perfect age for new married man is unpredictable maximum 40 and women is about 30 because if you married a woman which is have an age of 30++ it will become dangerous to give a birth .if your parent forced you to get married don't listen to them if your not ready to become a father, follow your heart. getting married is more complicated rather than having relationship. you'll have to be able to become a captain of your own ship. actually is a methaphore. bottom line is follow your heart.

I don't believe there is such thing as perfect age to get marry . As long as you are ready to settle down with that one person and be able to face all the consequences.That's the time you can say you're ready for marriage. But if you have doubts about marrying then do not . Don't get marry just because you were pressured by the idea of it.

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it won't happen in china that if a man still single above 30 years old, and he would surely get many gossip and the great mental pressure from his family and friends. at prsent, most of post 80s'generation are eager to find their better-half and get married. For ur case, i also think it is the right time to be together with someone who would share the rest of her life with you. we can also learn more things and find the answers for your mentioned questions during the time when u r with somebody. Time flies, it is not that easy to get married at your expecting age like 35. Just take action right now and wish you find ur right girl and company her to the end of the life!!!