I miss my mommy

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
August 16, 2010 12:54pm CST
When I was growing up my mother was always at home with my siblings and myself. However, after my father passed away she had to start working to ensure that we had a roof over our heads and things that are important like that. Now, however, things are a little bit different, I'm grown with a family of my own and my siblings are also grown and she is still working. She is right now on her first ever business trip (five days in Syracuse, NY) and it is causing me a lot of anxiety. I think that I have some attachment issues because of the fact that my father passed away when I was very young. But it is really bothering me that she is so far away and though she is still only a phone call away, it just doesn't feel right to me. How about you, are you or were you very attached to your mother? What is your relationship like with your mother?
11 responses
@hotpink89 (134)
• United States
17 Aug 10
i am sometimes close with my mom and then i'm not, its like we try so hard to please everything these days, yet in all general. i love her so much, if it wasn't for her i would be here today. she had taught me so many things in life and i have made mistakes and just ignored what she told me what to do and what not to do, yet this is why god put me on this earth to make mistakes and learn from them and appropriate that i have a family that loves me and wants the best for me. i only live with my mom n dad and i'm only 21 and i feel like i dont want to move out or get married because i dont want to leave them alone. :((
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I kind of understand your feeling about not wanting to move out because you don't want to leave your parents alone. I was sort of the same way, but we only live a few minutes away from one another so it all really does work out.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 10
Very attached, no. Somewhat close, yes. Mom passed away in 2004...
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I used to be close to my mom, but I have realized that we are two very different people and that we will never be close again. She lives with me so we are constantly interacting with each other. It does sound as though you may have some attachment issues going on. I bet that your mom will enjoy herself on this trip and you should be aware that she deserves the time to herself as she has raised you and spent her time taking care of her chidlren by herself for years.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I won't deny that I have attachment issues and I can point at the stem of them as well. It is because of the fact that my father passed away when I was young and I'm afraid of losing the only parent that I've got left.
@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
17 Aug 10
Awwww . . . I think your mommy will be just fine! My mom is literally 5 minutes away from us - so we can call or go over anytime in an instant. We try to go to my parents house every weekend, so we are definitely in touch on a regular basis. She's always sweet to us and always willing to lend a helping hand. Having a family of my own now, I can totally appreciate my "mommy" and what she's done for us. My parents went on a trip to Japan a while back - and they've NEVER been away from the house on a major trip without us. My sister and I were to watch the house for the 2 weeks they were gone. I remember we took them to the airport and it was the strangest feeling for me while driving home . . . I know the anxiety you are feeling! It's like they were "missing", a part of me was just "far away". I guess I felt more attached to them than I had thought!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I am so glad to know that there is someone else that knows exactly how I am feeling. You see, she only lives six miles away from us and we try to get to her house at least a couple times a week and that is making me feel all off kilter because a part of me is missing and my schedule is thrown off as well.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 10
I sometimes miss my mom..and sometimes I rarely think about her. is that make me a bad Son?? When I am far from her, I oftenly think about her, I also pray for her good health. But when I met her, I rarely spoke to her... It is just hard for me to express my love to my mom... I only spoke to her when I got problems...eg monetary crisis..huhuhu aargh..I'm a bad son!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
No, this doesn't make you a bad son at all. I think that every person is different and the ways that we show that we care are also very different as well.
• Vietnam
17 Aug 10
my childhood was attached to my mother deeply. I lived with my parents, my siblings. we had many things to do together at a small house. My mommy has taken care of all. sometimes , my siblings got fighting and she herself resolved it in the harmony. Every weekend, she always spent her time to create some interesting news such as recommending to go to cinema, cooking and preparing a special family meal. And as to me, she is always a significant encouragement source before I enter a essential examination or even I got a bad mood. she is not only a wonderful mother but also a kind-hearted teacher. I love her than any sweet words could be said. It was the cosiest and happiest period of time all my whole life.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
It is wonderful to hear that you have a great relationship with your mother and I love hearing about the memories that you have of her.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Aug 10
i have a really good relationship with my mom and pretty much always have. my dad passed away last year and i am on only child.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Have you noticed that your relationship with your mother has grown since your father passed away?
• United States
16 Aug 10
It was just me and my mother when I was growing up so that made us pretty close and it is still the same to this date. I talk to my mom every other day if not every day and at times she calls me 4 or 5 times a day which sometimes drives me nuts but on the days that she dont call I get worried and end up calling her and she is always like "I thought I would give you a break for the day" LOL I think if my mom went out of state for a trip I would be a bit worried as well.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
There was a total of five of us in my immediate family, but we lost our father at a young age and didn't really have a lot of other family around and I think that has made us a lot closer than many families are.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
20 Aug 10
I've always considered myself a mama's boy. Even though I tried to get away from my family as much as possible, I still maintained a close relationship with my mom. When I went to college, I moved to a different city. And now, I live half-way around the world. I do miss my mom most of the time, but I try not to show how big a mama's boy I am. Not too good for a grown man.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I have become a little closer with my mom the last few years. She moved back after I had my daughter. But she has lived in another state most of my married life. So I would call her but it has been an adjustment to have her back in my life. At first I was almost reluctant to have her move back as I just really wasn't sure how she would fit into my life. It has been nice to have her back. We are still not really close but she is a wonderful grandma. It is nice to have her here. I don't think we will ever be really close. So I guess no I am not very attached to my mother. But I am very attached to my daughter and I am already sad that she will be going to school in two years I am not sure what I will do. I hope that we stay close and she is always close to me. I guess part of me wants that because I don't have it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
It is good to hear that your mother is a great grandma. My mother is a great grandmother as well as being a wonderful mother. I think that a lot of the reason that I'm as attached to her as I am is because we lived away from our extended family and also because of the fact that I lost my father when I was only fourteen years old.
@myiesha (96)
• Singapore
17 Aug 10
I'm very close with my mom, she's practically my bestfriend or like the big sister that I never had. But it wasn't like that before because I was a Daddy's girl, we only got closer when my father passed away.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I think that my mother and I were always very close, even before my father passed away because we had things that were just for the two of us and we bonded from the time that I was a very small girl.