Is being happy with yourself possible to learn?

Thanks for your response =) First, I want to say you have an incredible way of writing things and I admire you, your very intelligent=) I love to write so that isn't the hard part. The hard part will be thinking of my successes. I'm not completely sure I have any success in my life at all. I am just a stay at home mom, that's all I've done in my life. I do have a hard time letting things go sometimes... I will try it, I hope it works!

I used to have a great many 'stay-at-home moms' as students. They had spent, perhaps, 20 years raising a family and looking after their man and, now the family had flown (or was more or less self sufficient) they wanted to get out of the house, get jobs and begin to feel useful again (as well as, of course, earning some money). In those years of being mother hens, technology had passed them by and they found that they needed basic computer skills. That was my job - to make sure that they left our place with a little more understanding (and rather less fear) of computers than they had before. Part of the process was, of course, to help them compile CVs (resumés, I guess you would say) and it was really rather sad to see that many of them couldn't at first see what invaluable skills they had learned at home. People management and time management, for example, as well as the ability to self-motivate are things that are incredibly valuable in an office yet, at first, they often couldn't appreciate how running a busy household had taught them all of those things! Learning to value oneself properly is, maybe, one of the hardest things to do. We are so used to being undervalued and even criticised by our children, our parents and even by our spouses that we begin to feel ourselves to be 'nothing special' after all. I have news for you! You are special, you are of value and you have skills and abilities that you, like everyone else around you, has come to take for granted. It is up to you to winkle out your 'specialness' and put those good things on top. It's as if you were serving up a dish of curried prawns (if you ever do). The ordinary, every-day way would be to ladle out the prawns and the sauce together and just expect people to eat (and enjoy): the chef's way would be to make sure that the prawns were singled out and arranged attractively on top of the sauce (with, perhaps, a leaf or two of garnish). The dish is the same but the effect is entirely different! Thank you for your compliments on my writing. I hope that I write as I speak (or maybe as I would like to speak. I believe that I can thank MyLot, to a great extent, for encouraging me to do that. When I look back at some of my writing of several years ago, I am quite embarrassed at how stilted and awkward it sometimes sounds! As for intelligence, we have what we were given, I guess. I dare say that I am no more nor any less intelligent than anyone else. I know that I can be quite as stupid and dense as anyone else at times!

Thanks for your response =) I will try that. I always appreciate my blessings but I don't feel that I have anything to do with that. God does. Ooh, thankful about myself...That's a tough one. I am thankful that I'm a thoughtful person, does that count? Thanks for your help with this, I'll let you know how it goes after a while =)

Thanks for your response =) Yes, I think I am a little too critical of myself though. I'm not sure if that's good but I don't think it's to healthy. I don't have much confidence at all. I need to learn that.

Thanks for your response =) I had no idea you felt the same way as me with this. You seem really happy on here most of the time so I thought you were confident and genuinely happy with yourself. I'm sorry your like me =( I don't really want anyone to feel the way I do about myself. I hope we can both figure this out and learn together to be happy with us! Good Luck with it =)

Your stronger than me, that's for sure. I cannot do that. Unfortunately, I'm not very good at hiding my emotions. I try not to tell people how I am feeling but emotionally I rely on other people to help me through. I know that's a bad quality of mine but that's the way I have always been...

A very long time ago I met this lady her name Christmas, funny name. Anyways she told me as a female we are not allowed to show the world when are sick and or not feeling well with our selves. It is amazing how she taught me well. I am genuinely the type of person that does not tell and show the world how I feel, ya never know how destructive my life is as I unless I tell you would not know it. It does not make me feel better but when my exterior side of looks good I feel a bit better.

Thanks for your response =) That's not good. I have never been to happy with myself. I guess I should start telling myself I did something good instead of pointing out all of the bad things about myself. Do you think that will help?

I think that is a good idea. I always think this way "when everybody leaves you, you don't have anyone but yourself so, only yourself can help you" It is good to be mindful of others but it is also important to remember yourself. You should encourage yourself. All people make mistakes, heck even those who claim that they are perfect. And I believe that everyone should make and realize their mistakes because from there we learn (and try to change), and life is a learning process, that's where we become a better person. ;)

Thanks for your response =) The only talent I have is singing and I can't do it in front of people so what's the point? Yeah, I do focus more on my kids and what their feeling. I try not to think about my feelings much. I don't think I will be the best mom I can possibly be if I'm focused on what my feelings are. I wish I knew how to do this...

Thanks for your response =) I am always helping other people. That does make me feel happy but not with myself really. I am happy that their happy. I am happy that God gave me an opportunity to help someone else. I'm not really sure that's it's so easy for everyone.

Thanks for your response =) Why do they treat adults that way? I really hate retirement homes, I have never been in one but I just hate how people are treated! I won't ever put my parents in one. I guess I have to figure out how I can be truly happy with me.

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Thanks for your response =) I am very happy with all of my Blessings. I am happy with everything that God has blessed me with. My blessings don't really have anything to do with how I perceive myself, does it? I do love God. I love others more than I love myself. A lot more. So, I definitely obey the second commandment, probably more so than other people.

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Thanks for your response =) Your right, that would be a good idea. Thanks for your help with this =)

Thanks for your response =) Your lucky that you feel that way.

Thanks for your response =) Hmm, I didn't think about the fact that we could be born with being happy with ourselves. Since I got picked on a Lot as a child, my parents pretty much ignored me and abuse has occurred in my life-I would guess these things have a lot to do with it. It's really hard for me to pat myself on the back, I have never really been that type of person. When I do something right, I usually think I could have done it better. Thanks for your help with this =)

Thanks for your response =) I'm sorry you feel the way I do. I don't want anyone to feel like I do about this. I hope eventually I will learn to be happy with myself with or without anyone else's approval.

Thanks for your response =) I have never really been happy with myself. Since I was young I had low self esteem. My mother mostly tried to change that about me with no success, obviously. I am going to try the journal idea. I hope that works =) Thanks for your help!

Thanks for your response =) I will learn one day I hope that I can be happy with myself whether anyone else is happy with me or not. I will have to try different ways to figure it out. Thanks for your help with this =)