Hey Dad, answer me this please!!

my son I found after 27 years almost the first queston was answered about the eyes when he looked at me but then I had to take off my shoes so he could see my toes lolololol. and ya know think what is fav.color what kind of ansetery. Yup there was alot of questions and thats all I remeber he asked

Mostly I think I'd just want to know what he looks like. The closest discription I have is from my Godfather who'd met him once, and said he looked a bit like Elton John. I know I definitely look a lot more like my mother except I have brown eyes and she has blue.. but I'm still curious to see what my father might look like. I'd probably also like to know if I have any other siblings.

I'd be wanting to know why he left. There's always two sides to a story. Maybe he was asked to leave before she was even born. If that was the case then you could hardly expect him to have any feelings for a child he's never known whose mother didn't want him in her life. Things were different back when she was born, fathers had very little to do with their children for the most part. Even if the mother went out to work the children were still more her responsibility. Father's were not encouraged to participate more fully in their children's lives like they are now. If I was a guy and had fathered a child 30/40 years ago and then left for whatever reason I would probably never have given the child another thought...why? What's the point? I wasn't given the opportunity maybe. Maybe I just didn't know how to relate to being a father, maybe I wasn't ready. Obviously there was no discussion or trying to work things out. If I was to meet my Dad after not having to know him I would make it a fresh start and try to get to know each other. There always needs to be give and take in any relationship. If she just wants to know her Dad so she can blame him for something then they will both end up unhappy...what's the point of that??

hi froggieslover I think the first thing I would ask him is why he left me, and did he not love me that he was willing not to see me? then I would go from there depending on his answers. I might tell him I had always wanted a daddy but why did you not want me. This would be so hard I can imagine as the girl must have a million questions she wants to ask but she is talking to a man who is a stranger to her.I think I would ask him if he ever missed me and why he left in the first place? After that I guess whatever would pop'inot my head depending on how the talking went. Asfor me in real life, my' father was the bad part of my life, I no longer hate him b ut I will'always deeply resent what he did to an innocent little eight year ofl girl simply because she was his daughter and as he told me his propert. no I do not any longer at my age hate him but no love is lost there either you do not respect the man who molested you at age8.

I guess the most obvious question would be why he left and has he thought about me. There would be a lot I would want to know about him; it would take a long time of ‘getting to know you’ session to learn all about each other but if all went all and a relationship was established God willing we would have years to get to know each other.

I don't what i should ask him. Maybe, how his life was when we were away or why he left us. I guess i'll have to experience it first to know what to ask. This is very specific.

I met my biological father for the first time when I was in my late 40's. I asked him all kinds of medical history questions that would be pertinent to myself and our kids. I also wanted to know where he grew up and the names of his 5 other brothers. I wanted to know about his sons who would be my half brothers. Did find out one of my brothers has MS. Our kids and grandkids are all healthy but it's still something everyone needed to know. Finally I wanted to know why I didn't hear from him over the years and found out he didn't know I was alive. In fact, he was told I didn't live long. I believe him since he's a minister and really don't think he would lie about anything. He had nothing to lose by admitting the truth and actually what happened in his early years when he was dating my biological mother. Hope this helps a little bit. I went through it and was terribly nervous the first time I met my father. Think he was more nervous than I was though.

I would just ask him if his happy now with his current life.

I wish my father would have talked about his life before the war... seems he was married and had two kids.

Hi, froggieslover. I would ask my dad many questions. I would ask him why he seems to do more for my step brothers than he does for me and my sister. I would also ask him why did he used to physically fight my mother when she was alive. I want to know why he, will ever allow his own wife to tell him not to do anything for his own kids? I also want to know why he was so hard on me when I was a teenager, although I hardly did anything wrong. I want to know why he makes promises that he can't keep with me and my sister. I also want to know why is he ashamed for certain girls to know that he is not my father. He better give me an answer, if not I will be very angry.

I to can relate to this my father was in the military and was all ways on diployed, out of country. I would all ways ask what he did but he would never answer me.