Is your husband your "friend"?
By casabuena
@casabuena (64)
Philippines
August 17, 2010 7:13am CST
Do you think it's important that your husband is your "friend"? Don't you notice that you easily forgive your friend than your husband even she/he stood you up in one of your scheduled meetings; you are more honest and open to your friend than your husband; you patiently listen to the stories of your friend even if it bores you to death but pay very little attention to not-so-interesting stories of your husband. We hardly notice these things but i think it's important to really know if we are a "friend" to our husband (or wife) or are we merely husband and wife strictly abiding by the law on how to be a good wife and how to be a good husband. Have you tried to look into this?
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4 responses
@czanwell_30 (717)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Yeah, I think it's important that your husband is also your friend. I believe it can make your marriage much stronger because there is much more into it, friendship. But there are certain limitations like sharing secrets and showing your weaknesses though I do loose sometimes and I regret it. Yes you are married and you are friends but there should be a private thing that you should keep only to yourself. But in few instances i think. And most of the time you will open up to him and vice versa.
@casabuena (64)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
The only thing i hide from him are my bonuses (hehehe)! because he would not dare spend anymore knowing that i have some bucks to spare...
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
17 Aug 10
I think that without having care and understanding of a friendship a relationship wont last. This doesn't necessarily mean that your relationship with your partner should be the same as that of his/her friends but that you know your partner well enough to understand their feelings and how to make them feel better about themselves when they are down or being there when your needed.
@casabuena (64)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
It is because we are not being so hard on our friends, we are not always very serious about their short comings. We only look at their mistakes as, well, part of their not-so-nice side... if we can have a good deal of the same attitude toward our partner (husband, wife) then we're gonna go a long way together.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
30 Aug 10
Hello casbuena,
Yes, I agree we tend to listen better to our girlfreinds than our husband or biyfriend. I ahve tendcy to cut him off when he is talking because I feel i need to say something so he knows I am listening. I am doing better not to do that but I still catch myself because ghe has stories to tell me and sometimes it turns out differnt then what I thought he might say. Yes, I know it is rude but I come from a family of nine and only way to get heard is by jumping in to get your opinion out there before the other person is finished. I think as boyfriend as very good freind as we learn about each other and try my best to makes sure he knows first about things than my girlfriends so he does not feel he is out of the loop. It funny because he like to gossip about people in neighbrohood and so does his next door neighbor who is guy and both are in the fifties (lol).
Thanks and have a great day!
Sincerley Unique16
@vhings_88 (294)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
I don't think it happens to all couples. me and my hubby shares our interest more than my friends does. i don't know with him if he shares everything to me but I share everything to him and it makes me more comfortable sharing my thoughts or problems to him than my friends. Maybe I consider him as my best friend too that's why, its not awkward for me to say everything to him.
