Trying to comfort and support a good friend

I understand you not being able to be there for her today, but can you make it a point to see her in the next week, since she does not live so far away. I have had friends who have lost their parents and simple gestures like making a dinner and bringing it the family is a wonderful way to help your friend in her time of need. If you can't do something like this daily calls to check in on her and just let her talk about her dad would also be a great thing to do. I am also sorry about your loss as well.

i'm sorry for your loss and your friend's too... i also know how losing a dad feels like. it's just hard... if i were you, i would try and go visit her and be a shoulder to cry on. your friend needs you now more than ever.

Im sorry for you and your friend's loss. Im not that good in comforting people. I dont know the things to say or the things to do. All I can think of doing is to just be there for them. Keep quiet and let them talk if they wanna talk. Ill be there to listen. Reading this post reminds me of the wake of a friend's father. Her father has had a few strokes in the past, and I guess his body couldnt hold on anymore. My friend put up a good front. She was acting like a gracious hostess, entertaining us as guests on the wake. She would even joke with us. But there was one moment that the reality hit her for a second. She couldnt hold back her tears and she walked towards me. I was caught off guard when she hugged me and cried on my shoulder, considering that her sisters and cousins were also in the room with us. I just held her until she gained composure. That happened on a December.

Hi jugsjugs!. You really lucky had a great friend like her. He stay beside you when a bad thing happen its not an easy thing to find this day. I hope your will friend will strong to face it and said my condolence for her. Because I now loss a parent must really painful experience.

Your call is already a comfort for her. We can be also a comfort when we'll assure our friend that we'll always be there in times of crisis.

I'm sorry for the loss of your father and loss of your friend's father. My father has been ill for a very long time and we know his passing will come soon. I can only imagine what the pain will be like. It's good that you are trying to be there for your friend. Often it helps just to have someone there to listen. Words won't bring her dad back but they can comfort. I'm sure it helps just knowing she's got a good friend there for her. Time will ease the pain. I wish her the best in overcoming it. And I hope you are handling your own loss well too.

I hope you will be a comfort to her if she ever needs to talk with someone.

Some day you go to your friend's house and console her. Surely she will understand you.

I am sorry for your friend's loss, as well as the loss of your own father. I don't know what it is like to lose a parent as I have both of mine. However, I have experienced the loss of other family members and also of some very good friends of mine. I also have had friends of mine that I wasn't able to be there for them in their time of need of a good friend. It is very difficult when you can't comfort someone that is hurting. Perhaps you can have another friend take you over there in a few days. I am sure your friend understands, and I am sure she is grateful that you are only a phone call away if she needs to talk to you.

Your voice over the phone helps ease the pain for sure. Losing someone is not that easy to accept. It hurts, yes but we have to accept the fact. I also lost my dad some years ago and mom followed after a year, that was terrible. I can also relate with what you and your friend felt.

Losing a parent can hurt so much. Im so sorry for your loss of two years ago and sorry for your friends loss now. At least her father didnt suffer. You might want to call her sometimes to see if she's doing alright. I lost my mom 4 yrs ago and a good friend of mine delivered a big pot of stew. She knew I wouldnt feel like cooking and she said it was very important that I eat. It meant so much to me and she was right, it was very comforting to eat her home cooked stew. She didnt stay over, she ringed my doorbell, gave me the pot and said that she's call me the next day to see how I was. She knew exactly what to do. So maybe you can cook something you know she likes, tell her you'll call her the next day. I know it'll make her feel so much better.

I am sorry for your friend's loss. A phone call of a good friend in times of need is always a comfort. Growing old for friends sometimes means growing apart. When you were younger you've been inseparable, but not that you're adults it has become an effort to see each other. My friends even forget to greet me on my birthday. But that's because when you get old you get busier with your job and old friends got set aside. It's nice of you to find time to call your friend especially in a time of need. I am sure your friend appreciates that very much. Even if friends always don't get to be together often, the most important thing always is that they never forget to be a friend.

I lost my grandparents when very young, so have no experience of what you have felt. Though I imagine that it must be difficult. I hope that you can spend a fair amount of time together, and it's good that you are there for each other.

greetings friend i feel his loss beforehand but yet i belive that friends are the most valuable thing we can hope to continue with these thoughs an can move on with your life the way it has done so far

That's always so hard. It's good she knows she can always call you. Sometimes just knowing that, is enough to get a person through for a while.

That is hard. If you ask me I do not want it to happen to me. Although me and my father had a lot of misunderstanding and I am old enough to handle the family, I still need a father. No matter how old the person is, they still need their parents. On my part, I am thankful that I still have my parents. I want to offer my condolences to your friend Jugs!I hope you will be able to stay beside your friend until the end. That is so sad.

There is no better comforter than a friend who has experienced whatever it is that one is going through so I’m sure you are a great solace for your friend. All you can do is let her know that you definitely know what she is feeling and that you will always be there if and when she needs. Condolences to both of you for your losses.

Hi jugshugs, I am very sorry for your friend's loss of her father. Losing someone you love is never easy, but when it come to losing a parent, the pain can be massive. In time of bereavement, good friends are essential to have even if they are just a phone call away. Just to know that there are people you can count on for whatever you need is very comforting. You are a good friend, and she knows that you understand what she is going through. You on the other hand know, from personal experience of losing your father, exactly what your friend is going through and what she has to do overcome this great lose in her life. She can find some comfort in knowing that her father seems to have passed away in a peaceful sleep. That may bring some comfort, but the pain of losing her father will last for some time to come. Just continue to be a good supporting friend. Blessing,

oh..i'm so sorry to hear that both of you and your friend have lost your dad... i know it isn't easy losing such an important person in your lives... and you will need all the shoulders you could lean on in this crying times... you will need all the comfort that your friends may offer despite the distance.., it's part of the normal process of grieving... in time.., your friend will learn to accept the loss..,

I guess your friend has gone into a low point of her life and she must need you to give her a hand to go through such a difficult time. For everyone who has met such a bad situation, he/she may feel despaired for a long time. If you have enough time, try your best to accompany her and help her getting through the bad feeling of losing her dad. This is just the value of friendship. When they are getting into troubles, give them a hand to let their heart be filled with love.