My husbands friend knocking on my front room window in the early hours

I am so happy I am not married! See I wouldn't have gone to the window. I would have gone upstairs and let the A$$hole keep knocking. I assume since he is hubby's friends ,he should answer it. The thing is as soon as he welcomes him in, I'm out the door. i see it as Bros before Hos means I am not wanted, So I'm off like a prom dress.

Top of a morning to ya! haha? I would not have looked out i don't think. Just have asked who it was in a somewhat loud voice. And when he said who he was I would have told him my husband is asleep and to please come back at more regualar hours. And I would wonder how your husband reacted. Just my opinion. Sort of old fashioned I suppose but I don't care to have strange men around when the hubby is asleep or gone or etc.

Pfffft! Drunken idiot! I would have told him to go away as well. But there isn't often any rational discussion to be had with a drunk, either, so sometimes some gentle coaxing has to be done to get them to do the right thing. When he sobers up, call him and tell him of your displeasure and ask him to promise not to do it again. Likely he will be feeling guilty for it after you inform him of his indiscretion. He may not have a memory of it until you enlighten him, so don't assume he remembers. But putting the seed in his sober brain, may stop the drunken brain from doing it again. That has been my experience anyway.

i would have been livid,i tell everyone not to knock of phone past 9pm,if i was in your situation that man would have got a few choice words from,and i would have made my rules VERY VERY clear to him

Hello jugs This man appears to have some bad intention, you did a good thing by sending back him certainly, about three months ago a man here was arrested by police, he had the habit of knocking at doors of others , be friend or not, he was jailed because he had raped a woman, who was none else than his closest friend's wife... Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

That is not funny but scary. You just did the right thing.

I would not trust him, jugs. his behavour is very strange. Mike

My husband and I have had friends or acquaintances rather that just didn't get the hint, or would drop by unexpectedly. There was one time a year or more ago that my husband and I had just woken up and the phone rang, it was a friend of his. We didn't answer the phone and next thing we know the person is coming around to the house! I am not sure how we knew he was coming to be honest, I think he left a message that said "I'm blah blah away from your house." Well needless to say we acted like we weren't home. Then there was a time not too long ago that my husband and I had four people over, and one of the people that were over was talking to the same guy I mentioned above, and his brother. Well we told them they could not come over but they insisted on doing so anyway, it got to the point that my husband was mad, and I was kind of halfway yelling into the phone that they needed to leave. I think it's kind of rude that your husband's friend just came around so early in the morning banging on the window but if he was intoxicated he may not have even realized what he was doing, even so I'd make sure he didn't come around unless he was completely sober again.

Hi, jugsjugs. I know that I would not look out my window if someone is knocking on it. Thank God that I live upstairs. I think that your husband's friend was very disrespectful for knocking on your window. I hope that he does not plan to do this again. I would tell my husband about it and hopefully, it won't happen again. Your husband needs to talk to him about this. He should never knock on someone else window at all times of night. That is very dangerous! And he should stop drinking too. He could really get hurt by knocking on someone else window too.

I would of jumped out of my skin if someone was knocking at my window in the early morning and then after I found out it was my drunk neighbor I would be pissed. Did you call your friend and complain to her about the actions of her husband?

You are a much braver person than I am to have pulled back the blinds to see who it was because I would be afraid that it was a dangerous person that was out there. You see, if it had been my house that this happened at, the police would have been called and my husbands friend would have ended up at least spending the night in jail for a wide variety of reasons. I would be so upset about someone doing that at my house.

I probably would have been too scared to even open the blinds! Looking out of a window and seeing someone looking in has always been a fear of mine. Did your husband seem to think this behavior was okay? Hopefully he will have a talk with his friend and he won't do this again. To knock on the window instead of the door was wierd. It is a good thing you sent him away. Your husband should make sure none of his friends come over drunk or high even in the daytime.

People who are drunk mostly behave this way, they partially realize and are to the knowledge of what they are doing... I have experienced such people shouting in front of my home but none of us bother, and it is good that you sent him off, never should we invite drunken people they will mostly bring trouble :(

Bored! Trashed, more like. It's one thing to call around if they had an early start, or he was distressed, and it was a situation that you were aware of. But bored will not do. I hope your husband has put him straight!

I would not be happy either. Once some time ago a man came to the door and said he was my husband's brother. He, too, was drunk as a skunk, and he was NOT related to anyone either. What nerve.

I’m surprised you opened the door at that hour! What a rude so and so! I guess if he was drunk and under chemical influence he probably did not consider being polite! I would have woken my husband and let him deal with him! Sounds like a jerk or someone in desperate need of help!

That was quite scary Good thing you did not bother your husband and just sent the man away. That was really improper of him, bothering people. I hope that would be an isolated incident and the man would not bother you nor your husband again. Have a nice day!

What was your husbands reaction when he learned this? Did he told anything harsh to you or blamed his friend? That would have shown, how much he is encouraging about this incident. Either way, it is bad manners to knock your windows at that odd time. He might have called your husbands phone instead.

Hi, If I were you, I may not bother to open up the blinds and talk that much to your husband's friend.Somemore it is in the middle of the night. Bit scary. If he really have something urgent,then have to wait till the next morning. To play safe, it is better not to open the door and windown at night, that it to protect ourself from bad people.

I would silently observe how your husband handles this. He may be enabling his friend's addiction by lending him money or helping him when his friend's family locks his friend out. Find out if this is the first time or if this is the first time you learned about this. If it is not, explain to your husband that he is not really helping his friend by allowing this behavior.