Is it proper to pursue a guy?

This is not the old times where women awaited for men to take charge. There are classy ways to let a guy know how you feel. You never know his feelings may be mutual and he may just be shy and appreciate you making the first move.

I've been pursuing guys I like ever since. Some people think it is not proper but if you're open-minded, you wouldn't mind at all. I don't mind what other people may think of me. And I don't think it's cheapness too. It's just that I do what I want with some limitations. I also don't think that women like me is easy to get. Because believe me, I'm still virgin. But lately, I have some regret in that part too because I fall hard with this guy I recently pursued with and for the first time in my life I receive some disrespectful and hurtful words from him. That woke me up. It hurts but still I am what I am. But know when to stop. I did stop pursuing him and now he is pursuing me after 3 months of not pestering him and telling him, I'm not interested anymore.

I don't think that it's wrong. I think that if a woman wants to pursue a man, that is up to her. I don't see the harm or the problem with it. Although, with the computer and things being the way they are, women and men don't really have to pursue each other very much anymore. My boyfriend and I kind of pursued each other. Online we talked to each other, and in person we went to role playing groups, clubs, Starbucks, and movies together. It just happened, there wasn't much pursuing. Also, nowadays, women kind of have to pursue men because most men are shy, especially the nice, geeky/nerdy guys.

well dont pursue him too much or else he wont like you because men do not like to be chased.

It's prefect you have to peruse him!! we are quite slow sometimes... but after he realize what you feel about him.. be careful take it easy don't throw yourself to whatever he wants. good luck

If you love him, tell him. We won't really know what will happen next. Who knows, maybe he's in love with you too.

I don’t think men find women cheap if women go and propose… I think it all depends on particular situations. For example, if you are in the bar or in some other area where people just mix to have fun and a woman goes up and proposes to a guy, she might be thought of as easily available. However, if it’s a case of genuine love and if the two people have known each other for quite sometime yet nobody has proposed, I don’t see why it should be wrong if it’s the girl who proposes first.

I do not have knowledge on this. I haven't done this kind ever in my life. However I know a friend who is now pregnant with the guy she pursued before. For sure, not all have the same story, some are successful because they get the same treatment, if the guy loves them too, however, what if not. If you ask me, when it comes to love, people get blinded and they do not care even if they are a girl or woman that pursue the guy. They are confident that they will get the guy, however some guy do not accept this scenario, while some take advantage of the weakness of the girl which is bad. I still have the conservative side that I do not like to pursue a guy,or maybe someday, when I am badly inlove, i will try once but when I am refused or rejected once for sure I will never do that again.

personally, i would not pursue a guy. but i think there is nothing wrong telling a guy you love or like him provided the girl is ready to whatever consequences the action may entail.

Before when I was young, it's really hard to tell a guy because of the oldies as you said they keep on talking that it's not right for a girl, that the guy will just take advantage of it and will just play with your feelings. That's why I keep it to myself, afraid that I will be a victim of this. But when I'm much older like 18, I can freely express my feelings to a guy. Coz I can protect myself and I know what a guy is really up to.

Hi there kristeena, In my own personal experience, I haven't tried telling a guy that I actually like him. I'm sort of the hard to get type. Well maybe I'm from a different generation than right now. My thinking was more on, 'hey I won't tell him I like him unless he tells me he likes me' I guess I was afraid of being dumped. I'm the type of person who feels really bad because of rejection. You see, I'm kinda a negative thinker. Though when I turned 20's, I learned to tell someone that he was my crush. Though I took it in a joke. Well I guess he got my point. But before that I felt he had a crush on me too. Because he shows me that he is interested. You may think I am sort of a person who is hard to figure out. If you do so my friend, then I think you are right.. Hehehe.. I too, finds it hard to figur out my own self..

The young people sre always different than the generation of their parents. But can say that when I was young many girls were like those audacious young ladies of today. I was not so open and I sorry for that. If a guy would find a girl "cheap" because she made the first step, this is his problem. And you, if you like somebody, don't be afraid to try.

I think it is much better if the girl shows some hint if she likes a guy, like this situation both of them like each other but because they don't know if what each others feel they are ashamed to make some move because they think they don't have a chance.