How come there are "mean" children?
By kristeena
@kristeena (358)
Philippines
August 17, 2010 8:34pm CST
I can understand that children can be bully sometimes like if their toys are being played by other children. But being mean, as in through their words and actions, I've been affected by the way children treat other children or even older people than they are. I've seen children at the age of 1 to 4 years old who can hurt others even bigger than they are, who utter bad words and even curse someone to death. We have a neighbor here with her daughter at the age of 2 hit the head of a 5-yr old girl with a stone. Now, her victim had been injured and got 8 stitches on the head. I don't know, I can say that her mother is caring and their family is good enough to have a child like her. But of course a child is a child, the way she is now is the result of the way her family teaches and treats her. That's why I always keep my youngest son out of them.
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10 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Aug 10
I believe the children you are speaking of are this way due to their environment and surroundings.
Children ages 1 -4 are supposed to be cute and silly, so perhaps where and how they live have something to do with it. Or where they are acquainting with other children. Too sad for these children, though. 
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
It is true that environment plays an important role in rearing and raising good children. I hope there are effective ways to change these children.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Unfortunately unless the parents realize the harm in the environment nothing anyone can do other than pray for them, and hope that when they become young adults they change their ways. 
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
i believe the family has something to do with it. the influences a child gets from the family can make or break a child. there are many instances, too, that could contribute like the constant exposure to television, and with no one to guide or tell the child that a bad deed seen on tv is bad. and a lot more.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
agreed. and as long as the kid is not busted, the parent will never know. the other night i busted a kid for playing with our doorbell but she didn't notice me but her grandma.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
18 Aug 10
They have either been treated in a mean manner by others or they see others do it and think this is the way to go. Many times they watch their parents. They copy their behavior. For others, it may be a mental illness.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I really do not know 
This is a sad fact. There are bad parents and there are also good ones that are unfortunate enough to have uncontrollable kids. I guess in this case, they need some professional help so that these parents would know how to handle their kids and steer them in the right direction.
This is a sad fact. There are bad parents and there are also good ones that are unfortunate enough to have uncontrollable kids. I guess in this case, they need some professional help so that these parents would know how to handle their kids and steer them in the right direction.@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I guess you're right. But who am I to tell them? They thought that there's no one to blame here because what they got is only a 2-yr old child and that their child will still change her attitude towards others. I hope and pray so. I'm crossing my fingers. Thanks for your comment.
@JeyakumarDickson (277)
• India
21 Aug 10
hi kristeena......may be its true if i think so for my son...
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
but there is something that never changes, and that's kids sees a doorbell, they will press it and RUN. even today i noticed kids are doing this. that's annoying enough kids throwin stuff our former neighbors did that when i was a kid. my aunt didn't want me having friends with them.
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Child is child that is the reason that we must not keep our eyes away from them. Whatever our their behavior will be our responsibility. We must also know that who are those people that our children interact with. At the young age, we must educate them at the right way. Teaching good values should be taught at the young age. It's like a jelly we can mold or form them whenever they are hot and still liquid.
@fish_pink_zoo (53)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
No children born to be "mean". Children become "mean" because in response to hash abusive upbringing or for most cases however children apparently mean behaviors grow out of curiosity and not out of malice after all they are too young to understand what is mean by "mean". I was once a child and the environment i grew up counts a lot for who I am now. Children learn form their parents and the parents are setting the role model example for their kids.
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I totally agree with you, A child is a child. What she does is the result of what she sees around her. A toddler takes everything she/he sees and hear. For them,everything they see and hear are right. I mean there's no right or wrong if a child does or say something wrong unless he/she'll be corrected by an adult and explain to the a child as early as it can be talked to,the things that are good and bad.
