What kind of things are hard for you to talk about?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (92860)
United States
August 18, 2010 12:09am CST
When I ask what things are hard for you to talk about, you can take that several ways. You could mean in general, to family or friends. Or maybe at work, about things that need to be said, but you don't feel like it's your place to say it. Or maybe in mylot, there are things you want to talk about with people, but it's so hard. For me, it's my mother. I've made mention that she is sick, but that's about it. There are a couple of mylotters I have confided in about the specific issue, and GardenGerty in particular has been a big help - offering the knowledge she has of my mom's issue. Another mylotter offered prayers. I still don't want to talk about what is wrong with her, because it's like if I say much, it releases a whole bunch of emotion I don't want to deal with. You know what I mean?
I'd like to know about the things that are hard for you to deal with.
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15 responses
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Hi AmbiePam, right now in my life it is hard for me talk about my granddaughter. Certain things that are going on in her life is hard for me to talk about. I had a conversation with my neighbor and she had found out about this certain situation, by way of her daughter through the internet, (email) and (Facebook), and I ask her how did she obtain this info and my neighbor was offended, because she said we couldn't keep it a secret, well I wasn't trying to keep it a secret I was wondering who and why would they email it to her daughter her daughter is in her late 20's and my granddaugher is 16 yrs. old. Come to find out she really was upset because I didn't tell her about this. I didn't tell anyone but a few close relatives, there are somethings people just can't talk about. After this I had to distant myself from her. She really wants to know all my business.
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
18 Aug 10
There are things that have gone on in my sons life, that you will not hear me talk about. It hurts, and some people are just to ready to talk.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
i think i would be okay talking about issues, as long as they are general issues. I am not a very open person but i don't mind talking about me, and my personal issue with friends, only of course. I have a tendency to be just tamed and not responsive or not talkative whenever i am in the company of people that i am not very comfortable with.
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Illness of a close family member, and all that results from it is hard to deal with. It would be hard for me. It was hard for me. I have problems talking about things that I consider to be my short comings, because I want all of you guys to just think I am perfect. Sometimes when we have difficult experiences, we save up what is happening, and at a later time use that experience to really connect with someone else in the same boat. It is also just really hard sometimes to trust people.
Money is not as hard to talk about right now, because everyone seems to be having money issues. On MyLot I do not frequently join in religious discussions, although I want everyone to know that my faith is in God.
Superficial things are easy to talk about, but things that come from our core are hard.1 person likes this
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
19 Aug 10
I still, despite being therapy for several years, am unable to talk about my awful childhood. I am sorry sweetie - still unable to discuss it.
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@jenus01 (15)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
The thing that are hard to talk about is my emotion it's because i don't wanna tell somebody what i feel inside because they also worried about me and i only ask for the advice that comes from my close friend i just tell them the scenario and what the advices that they say but the scenario that i tell them is only an example they don't know that is what i feel inside....
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Talking about what happened in my marriage. People wonder why I never married again and if you knew the details you would totally understand why....it was many years after my divorce that I finally did talk to someone and let some of it out....I am at a place where I feel nothing towards my ex.....lately though I have had two occasions to be around him....I can tolerate him.....but that's about it!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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18 Aug 10
Hi AmbiPam, Firstly huggles for you and healing prayers for your mum. I can usuually talk about most things but do get upset talking about my childhood at times as that triggers emotions in me that although have dealt with can be upsetting at times. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
18 Aug 10
To friends or strangers like on Mylot, I don't have much trouble at all. If I'm comfortable with someone, my life is an open book. Though I am learning (thanks to Mylot) to be more cautious revealing things that people can be judgemental about. That's one of the drawbacks to Mylot is everyone is so judgemental (me included sometimes). There are so many times I start a discussion, trying to make it as generic as possible but still tying it into my life or my feelings, but before I post it I pick it apart to see what judgements may hurt or anger me, and before I know it I'm deleting the whole thing before posting. But if I knew that only my Mylot friends could read my posts, I'd tell you my whole life story and not leave out a single detail. I'm very comfortable with myself, my life, and my past.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Good morning Ambie. i'm sorry ur mother has a problem. I hope it improves soon. I think sometimes it helps to talk about things that are bothering u but everyone has their own way of dealing w/problems. It's not hard for me to talk about my oldest son & the way he's acting but just can't talk about it w/out crying. Good luck to u & ur mom.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Hi my sweet lil' sis~ I'm so sorry that you are having such a
hard time dealing with the issue with your mother. I wish I
could say something to make it better, but as I've said to you
before I'm always here for you and you know how to reach me
24/7. As for me, I talk to me much! I can't help it! I am not
the type to hold stuff in, and since I went to Rehab where they
reallymade me shareall my "stuff"! I do talk about
whatever to my close friends, but my bf thinks I tell them too
much and if I dare talk about him he really gets angry!
But, anyway that's how I've always been and my big mouth has
gotten me in trouble many time!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
19 Aug 10
I still, despite being therapy for several years, am unable to talk about my awful childhood. I am sorry sweetie - still unable to discuss it.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
this is a rather difficult, if not ridiculous topic... hard things or topics one have difficulty talking about? well, if it's difficult, why discuss this at all... that's just how i feel... because things or topics i find difficult to discuss, i will surely not write about them here, otherwise, they are not hard to talk about at all...
