Have you ever fought for someone who is culturally different from u?
By zalmazan
@zalmazan (40)
Philippines
August 18, 2010 7:29pm CST
I met him during a trip in US. He is an Indian national, I am a Filipino. He told me he loved me but couldn't fight for me. He said that he would try to ask for his parents approval to our marriage. But once his parents say NO for it, that would be the end of our love story.
Have you experienced the same thing? What did you do about it?
4 responses
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Aug 10
I have...i have been married for 6 years now.It been happy times now. I have had a lot of problems before marrige. She comes from a totally different state, different culture and background. But the best thing was that we bothe were christians.
• United States
19 Aug 10
i have never had a problem culturally but i have had that kind of problem religiously. I'm a Wiccan so its hard for me to find some one that doesn't want me to convert and when i do his family won't let us be together, so i guess all i can do is cry my eyes out over them or try to talk them in to going against there family's wishes. But that is wrong, family is all you have. but the only person you have to live with is you so it a hard choose to make. the same kind of choose must be made in a cultural differences as well.
@zalmazan (40)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
YEah, at times someone is being torn between love and family. There are things that family require us to do which is against our will and worst against our heart's desire. But yeah, you are right. Family is all we got in this world. A lover, a friend could leave us behind but not our own family. I admire the way you accept things. I wish you a perfect love that nobody/nothing could be in between.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Aug 10
hi zalmazan. I think that is a copout because if he loved you he would
not hesitate even if the parents said no. but wait how old is he and how old are you? No I never experienced this in a love relationship. But
if he loves you enough he will defy his parents surely but I am an American so I do not know the whole thing about Indian culture. But I did fioht my own dad who opposed our marriage and I won too as I loved the man I married and he loved me too. Here in the US we leave family and cleave to each other. good l uck and God bless. if he loves you enough he will come to you. I will pray for you.
@MeNme1 (125)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I think this person couldn't stand to his own. Every rule has an exception. If he loves you very much he will fight for you nomatter what the consequences is. I think it is best that you did not end up with him because he is not really worthy for the love you can offer to him. The person that is worthy for love and devotion is the person who love and devote their life back.
